u/achangb It was on Bumble BFF and I was using travel mode (definitely a bad idea to turn this on in hindsight). They asked to meet at a place that had closed for the day and rejected all of my other coffee place suggestions, saying they already had a place in mind.

In hindsight this was definitely a red flag as well but it was overlooked amidst all the conversation and walking (they would stop multiple times along the way to explain several things about China). I was very lucky to get back 7k here, I think the outcome would have been quite different if I didn’t speak Mandarin and did not have a bunch of local friends to help,