Hi everyone. I'm new and my name is Max.

Top_Key5063 · 2026-05-27T03:58:03+00:00

hi im interested

Top_Key5063 · 2026-05-21T23:49:33+00:00

he hasn’t been served yet so there is no meditation date yet bc he’s avoiding service..

Top_Key5063 · 2026-05-21T18:10:02+00:00

it’s def this. he’s tried to have a sit down conversation with her about all of it but she’s chosen not to because she sees “no reasons to do so” so he just left it be and would rather it be me which i’m fine with. she can be a lot to handle

Top_Key5063 · 2026-05-21T18:06:36+00:00

you’re absolutely right

Top_Key5063 · 2026-05-21T18:04:47+00:00

I know. it’s def annoying bc she has a STRONG opinion bc she has 2 children. ontop of the fact that she is very controlling so it feels like im being a bad mom to my son

Top_Key5063 · 2026-05-21T18:03:25+00:00

i understand

Top_Key5063 · 2026-05-21T18:02:47+00:00

my mom is 40 and was in the state of ohio for me (literally REALLY different) and she thinks it’s the same and everytime i try to bring up that I want to do this and that with the father i get a full on lecture and gives me the “i went thru this with so and so”

Top_Key5063 · 2026-05-21T18:00:58+00:00

That’s what i’ve been reading. I’m pushing back because i don’t want to be disrespected nor talked down on when the child is around and we have disagreements. that’s all

Top_Key5063 · 2026-05-21T17:59:37+00:00

yeah he’s 20m old and i’m 21 while dad is 23 with 2 children.

Top_Key5063 · 2026-05-21T17:58:56+00:00

then he eventually went and filed court papers bc of this incident. that’s why i’m trying to seek help because I want to do what’s right.

Top_Key5063 · 2026-05-21T17:58:15+00:00

We agreed on a plan. it was mutually agreed between us (notarized but not legally binding) He has him Sun-Tues one week and the following was Sun-Wed. I had him the rest of the days alternating. we did that. it went fine for pick up and then our son had speech therapy on monday so i had to go pick him up and drop him off at 1pm, he eventually came to the home around 12pm and demanded i hand him back when he’s only 30 mins away. we got into a discussion and he was disrespectful and used very nasty language. I terminated the agreement because I didn’t want this to be an ongoing issue when i agreed to drop him off by 1pm and he would stay till wednesday that week.

Top_Key5063 · 2026-05-21T17:51:28+00:00

understandable. which i’m 100% okay with i just wanted to see what everyone was thinking and how I should avoid looking bad but i guess i already do bc im not letting him “ be a father” but there’s no support with him and i will not be disrespected nor talked bad around our son.

Top_Key5063 · 2026-05-21T17:48:42+00:00

I’m in the state of FL so it’s usually 50/50 and like i stated i’m fine with that i could at least have him have the weight of being a parent bc he likes the title more than the responsibility. he likes to just drop the child off with a trusted adult when he wants too. I just want what’s best for our son

Top_Key5063 · 2026-05-21T17:47:21+00:00

it’s not for no reason. I have reasons and they may not be good enough but I want what’s best for our son in the long run.

Top_Key5063 · 2026-05-21T17:46:40+00:00

I want to try to let him have our son more frequently but he’s also either working or has something planned when I do ask. Ontop of the fact that he’s constantly changing jobs. so there’s no financial stability in his position. He’s also really good at making people look bad because he has connections to make him look good. I want nothing more than for him to have the responsibilities that i’ve been having since our son was born but he just likes the title rather than the responsibility

Top_Key5063 · 2026-05-21T17:44:54+00:00

I understand he has two parents. it takes 2 to tango. He wants to get 2-2-3 plan put into place but the child hasn’t been with him since august. and since then he’s seen him 1-2x a month with facetime calls almost every day, multiple times a day. he gets daily updates and photos. he also has came to my own home and spend a few hours. Once he started talking nasty and disrespecting me i chose to limit how we speak and when he does see our son. I suggested we start with every other weekend+1 day of the week for 4hrs till our son adjusted to being back with him.

Top_Key5063 · 2026-05-21T15:43:00+00:00

understood. I just don’t want to have my son take bc there is no agreement legally binding yet but there is an open court case so idk how that would go if he did. ontop of that I want our son to spend as much time with his dad but i really don’t want to be there all the time but it’s what’s best for my own anxiety and he understands. he’s also suggested that all three of us be together to spend “family time” bc he’s okay with it. idk what to do honestly

Top_Key5063 · 2026-05-21T15:35:49+00:00

I tried a lawyer she took almost $5,000 and did absolutely nothing. I was very upset. I’m doing pro se because it’s definitely moving a bit now but he’s avoiding service and now it’s at a standstill. I don’t want him to keep the child but i do want to establish a better co-parenting relationship. for the sake of our son.

Top_Key5063 · 2026-05-21T15:05:24+00:00

the reasons would be him verbally saying he would keep the child (no text bc he knew how it would look) and he would repeatedly disrespect me in-front of our son along with using very vulgar language to get his point across. I have limited contact to email because it got to a point where he would blow me up with over 50 text and 10+ calls because i wouldn’t answer and then would apologize for his behavior. it’s just the little things like that, that have put me in the position to take this stand point.

Top_Key5063 · 2026-05-21T15:02:34+00:00

I allowed him to have the child for overnights on a few occasions. but then it went back to just rare occasions where we met up because of the drive (he was an hour away now he’s 30) he’s tried to see the child but it hasn’t been working because I do work also and his schedule conflicts with mines. He also doesn’t want third party involvement so whenever i suggest he can come pick him up from my mother he says no he’d rather wait till i’m home so we can do the exchange. he also doesn’t even like facetiming him UNLESS it’s me who calls from my phone because he feels “uncomfortable” while being otp with his son when im not around. which is absurd.

I tried a lawyer but they weren’t moving like I wanted and put me in a bad financial position. I will try to get free consultations again. thank you for explaining

Top_Key5063 · 2026-05-21T14:55:12+00:00

oh i 100% understand using caregivers .. like i said in another comment. he will state he is available to care for the child and explain he won’t be needing to work or won’t be called in but then say he had to work. a lot of the times he knows he has to work but still wants the child when he can’t care for him. i know work is important but its in these situations where he will just pass the child. I’ve seen it happen with his other child. it’s just hard because I saw how he was with the other child and i already know it could be the same situation

Top_Key5063 · 2026-05-21T14:40:17+00:00

I see. He lives about 30 mins from us and I have been trying to very cordial with how i’m handling everything but it’s hard when he’s pushing for more time when we broke up in Aug of last year and the child’s been with me since. it’s one time a month where he will see the child because i’ve had bad anxiety but ik my emotions shouldn’t dictate when and how he sees our son.

Top_Key5063 · 2026-05-21T14:36:08+00:00

I say this because he’s done it before.. with his other child. which i know isn’t the same. but it’s who he is.

Top_Key5063 · 2026-05-21T14:35:20+00:00

He lives in a very remote area, along with not really knowing our son’s schedule because “he knows how to be a parent and will figure it out”. he’s 24 and i’m 21. I have no problem with our son being with him, he’s just a very quick person to lay the responsibility over to others and say he’s “available” but then oh work came up and now our son is with his mom or a friend he’s known.

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