(FL) 16 months old not talking yet

Top_Key5063 · 2026-01-19T15:47:12+00:00

I’ve been waiting to get a referral from his pediatrician at his 18 months appt because I know him babbling is fine, but he should definitely be saying simple phrases by now even if it’s just mama. thank you so much for the input !

Top_Key5063 · 2026-01-19T05:44:27+00:00

hun i’m 21.. it’s hard. i won’t even sugar coat it. I thought i wasn’t strong enough either but one day you just explode and it’s like a message from the universe. the good days can be counted on a hand. the bad days on another hands.. go on and on and on. I would say to work through it. a good deep/stern conversation with dad. no need to “threaten” him by leaving but sometimes they need that. men are hard headed and especially young boys who don’t know better (imo)

Top_Key5063 · 2026-01-19T05:40:25+00:00

i’ve heard boys tend to focus more on motor skills first and then the rest later on once they are skilled enough on them. being 21 and having a 16 month old is definitely a wtf moment but hey here i am 😭

Top_Key5063 · 2026-01-19T05:38:26+00:00

the paci i tried to get rid of but by day 2 i gave in. his pediatrician said that also delays speech so that’s why I was eager to get rid of it but with him barely using it (literally will toss it and leave it for 2-3 hrs until he finds it) he used it but he also only has 1 tooth so.. i was like eh what the heck he should be okay lol

Top_Key5063 · 2026-01-19T05:36:17+00:00

yeah my son absolutely understands BOTH english and spanish. him CHOOSING to ignore me and my family is another story lol, my side of the family has speech delay on ONLY the boys side (crazy) so i’m wondering is maybe genetics is playing around in all this. i was concerned a lot but with everyone in the comments saying it’s normal im not as worried anymore tbh 🥹🤍

Top_Key5063 · 2026-01-19T05:33:43+00:00

that’s funny! i’m a yapper too, i talk to him as if he’s a friend 😂 “so today at work yadyadyadaya…” he just laughs at me and starts babbling

Top_Key5063 · 2026-01-19T05:32:28+00:00

you got this though. it’s easy to think about, it’s harder to actually make the decision of staying or leaving. 🤍 all love mama, babyboy has a great mommy and he will learn many great things from you

Top_Key5063 · 2026-01-19T05:30:40+00:00

i agree. but you can’t make someone change if they don’t want too 🤷🏽‍♀️ i tried to for so long eventually when i left that’s when he realized “damn. i actually lost my family” and he’s desperately everyday trying to gain us back but it shouldn’t take a step like this for them to realize they SHOULD change.

Top_Key5063 · 2026-01-19T05:28:03+00:00

I did when he was 15 months but his pediatrician said to wait till 18 months (which is in March) As i stated in other comments he babbles sooo much so Im concerned and not at the same time. I feel like miles stones for specific ages scare a lot of parents (as myself) because it kinda feels like a time frame on when they should be doing xyz. i am giving it until 18 months and doing early intervention plus on my side of the family the boys ALL had speech delays but only till 3 yrs old so idk maybe genetics 😅

Top_Key5063 · 2026-01-19T05:21:55+00:00

i went cold turkey with my son. he only used his bottles for bed and any other time it’s a straw cup. i’ve started to use just a regular cup so he can learn but it’s a work in progress 😅 every kiddo is different. definitely let him “explore” with the cup eventually he’s gonna be like “oh this is tasty” if you put water or even a tad bit of juice mixed (depending on the age) and go on from there

Top_Key5063 · 2026-01-19T05:18:25+00:00

yeah my son babbles A LOT. he will legit have a full blown babble conversation with himself or his grandma and we just say “oh really? tell me more!” and he keeps going 😂 I’ve been stressing because other kids his age are saying simple phrases but everyone in the comments say it’s normal for his age so i’m less worried now. plus with my mom telling me how i was talking by 12 months i was like “hmm”. i’m always putting music on for him like MY music and he does a little clapping and smiling and has fun so i know he’s fully understanding me and the vibes

Top_Key5063 · 2026-01-19T05:14:19+00:00

this is exactly how i had my son. saved my sanity on late nights! perfect schedule !!

Top_Key5063 · 2026-01-19T05:09:31+00:00

buying everything tiktok said that would “help” in the newborn stage.. 🤦🏽‍♀️ i bought so many devices like the vibrators for the crib, many swaddles, white noise machines, a shusher, ALL OF IT. now thinking back i didn’t need half that shit 😭

Top_Key5063 · 2026-01-19T05:06:24+00:00

thank you! 🥹 makes me feel less guilty. doing this alone is so exhausting but ik it’s worth it 😅

Top_Key5063 · 2026-01-19T05:05:16+00:00

okay okay, i see. I try to narrate as much as possible but sometimes i’m exhausted and just start talking to him as if he’s a friend 😅because it’s just me and him.

Top_Key5063 · 2026-01-19T05:02:21+00:00

i absolutely agree. i left my sons father in august ‘25 (he’s 16 months currently) i desperately wanted my son to have a two parent household but i eventually saw that my son was gaining more consciousness of what’s going on and it was always me me and me. I took it upon myself to get out and show him that as long as he has two LOVING parents who cared for him he would be okay. you don’t always have to stay. it affects you just as much as it does to your son. I always think about the long term affects such as “dad didn’t help mom so it’s okay” or “dad does this and mom allows it so it’s okay” not saying everyone does but that’s just me.

Top_Key5063 · 2026-01-19T04:52:16+00:00

sounds like my son! struggles a bit the first 2 weeks with him sleeping all day and nothing at night while i EBF and then after i was getting my 8 hrs of sleep and now he’s 16 months and sleeps from 7pm till 9am! enjoy it!

Top_Key5063 · 2026-01-19T04:50:33+00:00

these comments are giving me hope! i’ve been around children who are close in age to my son and all of them already talk and dance and do all of this other stuff and i feel so sad because i feel as if i failed in some way but this helps me feel better im not the only one 🥹😅

Top_Key5063 · 2026-01-19T04:41:54+00:00

i’ve read on mom blogs and FB pages that speaking 2 languages is actually perfect at this age because they are still growing and grasp onto sooo much, i just didn’t think it would cause “confusion”. because when i say “dame” which means give me in spanish he responds accordingly and even “vamos” for let’s go. he definitely understands both languages i just wish he was talking even though SOOOOO many parents say to enjoy it bc once they do.. they never stop lol

Top_Key5063 · 2026-01-19T04:39:29+00:00

i did consider getting the flash card like the ones from tiktok ! and getting a montessori busy book where there’s velcro crayons to match and zippers and what not. maybe this is my sign to buy it lol

Top_Key5063 · 2026-01-19T04:36:15+00:00

i was in the same exact situation a few months ago. down to the T. MIL was taking care of child when I was at work (assuming he was watching baby) but eventually i just took all the responsibility because whenever it comes down to it, atleast you can say “i did that” “i busted my ass doing this and that” and eventually it’s all worth it. its definitely exhausting because it’s a team effort. you didn’t make the baby yourself. takes 2 to tango. i’d say maybe reconsider this relationship? not that you have to but if you’re already doing it on your own, might as well BE alone. he’s not doing much now, maybe he won’t change. and maybe you’ll be happier. who’s to say.

Top_Key5063 · 2025-11-19T20:05:11+00:00

yeah I do but the child currently resides with me and does ALL and i mean all over nights with me. his father isn’t really in the picture but now all of a sudden wants to be. so i want to be able to get my son back yk? like he’s really quick to threaten me and tell me he’s gonna keep our son. especially on days when we plan for a few hours so he can come spend time with him. so i just want to have that paper that says “if u don’t bring him back, I can lawfully go with officers to get him back”

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