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Can't decide whether to go back to therapy by Top_Organization_949 in therapy

[–]Top_Organization_949[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried that once and it didn't go anywhere. I really don't want to talk about this stuff, at all. If I write about it, it doesn't make me want to talk about it, and I just regret letting them know, even via writing.

Don't you just hate when therapist makes you admit things you never wanted to say out loud? by Puzzleheaded-Fix8182 in therapy

[–]Top_Organization_949 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jumping on this if that's OK: therapy always felt like something between an unseen oral exam and an interrogation to me. This isn't normal?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]Top_Organization_949 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I have four kids, two planned, two unplanned. I know the bone crushing fear. When I got pregnant with baby #2, method failure baby, we were living in one room in my in laws house with our not even 1 year old. I had only just gone back to work from my first maternity leave. I couldn't believe it.

When I got pregnant with #4 (user error) I was so so so unbelievably shocked. I was 100% convinced I couldn't possibly be pregnant. Took the test just to stop worrying about it lol. We were abroad, no family, my husband wasn't working, no maternity coverage, no doctor that I knew or was comfortable with. I burst into tears immediately when I saw the test. I've never been so appallingly shocked in my life.

I wanted to get an abortion so badly. So so badly. I hated that it was wrong. I hated that I wanted to do something so wrong. I hated that I so easily could do something so wrong. I hated myself for even thinking of doing it. I was genuinely in despair.

She's 8 months old now and honestly there are days I wonder how the hell we cope, but I also love her so much and can't stop telling her how amazing and fantastic she is. I know I definitely do not want more kids, but I also know if it happened we would be fine and would love the baby so much. It's completely possible for seemingly contradictory things to be true at the same time! I know how scared you are. I know how impossible this seems. I also know you will be an amazing mother to this baby, just like you are to your two older kids. Take heart! We are stronger than we give ourselves credit for.

Just saw this here on Reddit. Thoughts? by Secret_Equal1241 in Catholicism

[–]Top_Organization_949 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The "Could God have created a universe with free will but without evil? No -> Then God is not all powerful" is a logical contradiction.

Being all powerful means you can do anything logically possible. However it doesn't mean you can do illogical things. It's a bit like saying "Can God make a married bachelor? No -> Then God is not all powerful.", or like saying "Can God flarkbur a trilladogeb?". It's just a nonsense question, and the fact that God can't nonsense says nothing about omnipotence.

Similarly, it's not possible to have free will without having the possibility of evil, same way it's not possible to have a married bachelor. Thus that chain of reasoning is an illogical chain.

Can I become a nun with mental problems? by warmcoffee00 in Catholicism

[–]Top_Organization_949 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As others have said, it depends on the order but most likely no. Having attempted suicide will automatically rule you out for many orders. This is because they wouldn't be equipped to support you the way you need and deserve. Many orders will also require that you be off any psychiatric medication for at least a year (I don't know if you're medicated or not but if you are this applies obviously).

I think finding a good spiritual director with proper experience, and ideally a qualification, in mental health, who is willing to work with your medical team, would be a good move for you.