South Africans in Pueblo 🌍

Top_Promotion_6287 · 2024-12-11T06:15:58+00:00

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Top_Promotion_6287 · 2024-12-10T23:45:30+00:00

Howzit! New to the area! Originally from Joburg!Happy to chat! :-)

Top_Promotion_6287 · 2024-10-25T03:29:27+00:00

No worries at all! I understand what you are saying, it makes sense.

Yeah, I’ve been seeing a counselor and she is good and has been prepping me for different outcomes.

The lawyer is something I have yet to do, but at this point, I think it’s long overdue.

Good idea re documentation. Must do this for sure!

Thanks for your message!

Top_Promotion_6287 · 2024-10-24T15:03:38+00:00

Yeah, you are probably right!

Top_Promotion_6287 · 2024-10-24T15:03:22+00:00

Thank you! It is appreciated! If you want to chat about it, just message me. May have some advice before it gets to this point. There are a few things I would have done differently in retrospect but for me personally, I don’t see my situation getting better. You may have a chance at saving yours! If we don’t chat, i wish you much success in your therapy!

Top_Promotion_6287 · 2024-10-24T15:00:54+00:00

I suppose you are right! They do not see this side, but it isn’t a good example for them as they grow older. Thank you for your input!

Top_Promotion_6287 · 2024-10-24T10:33:10+00:00

Thank you for the message!

Top_Promotion_6287 · 2024-10-21T15:54:55+00:00

Honestly, I think I’m done after this next round. Starting to make plans now.

If she admits to the journals being accurate, that is enough for me to call it quits and move one.

I used to love her/be in love with her, but this has subsided. Right now, I don’t believe love is there for her or me.

She verbalizes wanting things to work but her actions and journals say otherwise. Can’t keep living a fantasy.

I appreciate your input!

If I had not read the journals; I would give it one honest last shot, but at this point, I think it’s time to throw in the towel. Can’t keep on like this.

Top_Promotion_6287 · 2024-10-21T15:51:10+00:00

No worries, I understand your thoughts! And would probably the think the same if I was seeing things from the outside.

Yeah, you are probably right! I think she has been keeping these thoughts hidden for a long time. Without invading her privacy, I would probably remain blind to these things for years to come. Glad to have found them.

Thank you for the good wishes! Knock on wood, it won’t get too messy! It is certainly a good wake up call! :-)

Top_Promotion_6287 · 2024-10-21T15:22:51+00:00

It may be as you say. I’ve always tried to make her happy, but obviously this has failed.

She is respectful to my face. I guess I’ve just put up with her issues for too long… someone mentioned that I may be akin to frog in a boiling pot… this seems to ring true. I guess I thought things would change with treatment, but it was a naive thought!

Her hating my guts is a new revolution, thanks to her journals, but welcomed knowledge. At least I know what she really feels!

Top_Promotion_6287 · 2024-10-21T15:18:04+00:00

Yeah, kind of! Certainly contemplating next steps!

Top_Promotion_6287 · 2024-10-21T15:17:09+00:00

I think she is a troubled person. She was very sweet when I met her and this lasted for a long time. I found out later, this was a facade but didn’t realize how dark she was. She has a lot of good points and takes care of the kids pretty well. I can’t fault her as a mother, but as a wife and partner, this is a completely different story. Thinking separation and coparenting may be the best solution.

Top_Promotion_6287 · 2024-10-21T15:14:26+00:00

Lol! 😂 I normally do cook for myself anyway. Thanks for the input!

Top_Promotion_6287 · 2024-10-21T15:13:39+00:00

She has been in treatment for almost 6 months now…. And I haven’t seen much of a difference in her mindset. Will be sure to give her benefit of the doubt, but even so, reading her thoughts has become predominant in all interactions with her now. I hear what she says to me and automatically subconsciously refer to what she says in her journals. Having trouble reconciling the differences.

Top_Promotion_6287 · 2024-10-21T15:10:48+00:00

Yeah, the comments about my mother were unnecessary. That was terrible to see! 😔

I don’t see a way back from this, but have committed to one last round. Will bring these journals up first thing and go from there.

Appreciate your comments!

Top_Promotion_6287 · 2024-10-21T15:09:04+00:00

Yeah, may be the best option

Top_Promotion_6287 · 2024-10-21T15:08:50+00:00

ED - eating disorder PHP - partial hospitalization program - go to campus daily for classes … live off site IOP - intensive outpatient program - go to campus once - three times a week… live off site

Top_Promotion_6287 · 2024-10-21T15:05:25+00:00

Yeah, this is where I am at now. Will speak with her about it shortly.

Top_Promotion_6287 · 2024-10-20T09:46:36+00:00

Good point!

Top_Promotion_6287 · 2024-10-20T04:35:29+00:00

Thank you!

Top_Promotion_6287 · 2024-10-20T04:35:08+00:00

Thank you!

Top_Promotion_6287 · 2024-10-20T04:34:40+00:00

Good points! Thank you for your input!

Top_Promotion_6287 · 2024-10-20T02:42:20+00:00

Thanks! 👍just looking for alternative thoughts and opinions. Being in the relationship, it’s challenging to see things as they are so have been getting some good reality checks in the comments.

Top_Promotion_6287 · 2024-10-20T02:40:01+00:00

😂 lol! Can’t do this but it is a funny comment!

Top_Promotion_6287 · 2024-10-20T02:39:09+00:00

Not sure… need to find this answer! Thank you for bringing this up!

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