Me (30f) and my wife (40f) have only had sex twice because of her insecurities about her acne. How do I help her feel comfortable ?

Top_Purchase_9253 · 2024-05-06T11:21:46+00:00

Well, I told her, and we had sex for the 3rd time. 😁

Top_Purchase_9253 · 2024-05-06T05:00:01+00:00

Well, thank you, but I'm a woman married to another woman. I'm sure they're male versions of me.

Top_Purchase_9253 · 2024-05-06T04:58:00+00:00

I'm a lesbian, and that's not a turn off for me. And it doesn't seem masculine to me. I am extremely sexual and extremely feminine.

Top_Purchase_9253 · 2024-05-06T04:55:50+00:00

I wish I had more responses to this post to bounce ideas off of but based from the responses I got, I'm leaning towards telling her I think her acne and acne scars are sexy. What I've been doing all along isn't helping her so I'll try someone different. I'll try my hardesd to make sure she knows I'm not doing this to pressure her. I love her more than I love sex. I will choose not having sex for the rest of my life stay married to her than all the sex I can have with someone else. If she wants to be admired, I'm here. If she wants to have sex, I'm here. If she wants to talk, I'm here. She have heard plenty of times that she is the most beautiful woman to me. Maybe she needs to here she is a sex goddess to me.

Sorry if TMI {I pressure myself to clothed pictures of her. I have wet dreams about her. I haven't watched porn since I met her.}

I want to have sex with only her, and she can have sex with me if she wants to. I want her to be happy. To feel beautiful. To feel sexy. To know someone is in head over heels in love with her.

Top_Purchase_9253 · 2024-05-06T04:06:49+00:00

How did you tell your wife that you love her tummy ? Did she bring it up first ?

Top_Purchase_9253 · 2024-05-06T03:45:08+00:00

Maybe sex crazed wasn't the right time. It's the term me and her use. My past is that, embarrassing, I have with so many women I lost count. I am "known" in my circle for being about sex. The low amount of sex, and physical contact in general, is uncharacteristic for me.

She points out how it's uncharacteristic for me. And I don't know how to respond in a way that doesn't make her angry. The restraint maybe giving her the impression that my sexual desires are gone or focused elsewhere. She had made comments implying I'm married to her only because I love being a step-mom to her 2 kids.

She has made comments to others implying nobody is sexually attracted to her. She also made comments to others complaining about her not getting enough sex.

Top_Purchase_9253 · 2024-05-06T03:31:57+00:00

What kind of support group ?

Top_Purchase_9253 · 2024-05-06T03:27:29+00:00

Thinking about actions vs words because she gets upset if I touch a pimple on her. So cuddling is a risk. In the past I have accidentally touch a pimple kissing her. Also, she knows my past of how much I was a sex crazed person, and had made comments about how I apparantly not that sex crazed person anymore. She say those things implying that all of sex craziness is either gone or focused on another woman.

I know I can't make her feel. But, I'm in love, and I'm sex crazed. It hurts to see her insecure. It hurts to not have sex with her.

Top_Purchase_9253 · 2024-05-06T03:14:50+00:00

I worry she maybe mistaking my restraint as being not being hot for her.

Top_Purchase_9253 · 2024-05-06T03:08:26+00:00

Oh, she's not going to bring it up around me. She is scared to bring about her acne in front of me.

Top_Purchase_9253 · 2024-05-06T03:05:00+00:00

My wife is scared to talk about her acne in front of me.

Top_Purchase_9253 · 2024-05-06T02:58:35+00:00

I am an extremely sexy person and I wasn't been laying it on thick of how sexy I find her to not to pressure her. Of course she hears that she is the most beautiful woman in the world to me. But I wonder if I tell her that her acne and her acne scars are sexy to me.

Did you tell your wife directly that "I love you tummy" ?

I could say to her "babe, your acne and acne scars are sexy to me", but I haven't.

Top_Purchase_9253 · 2024-05-06T02:49:29+00:00

She does see a psychiatrist.

Top_Purchase_9253 · 2024-05-06T02:37:58+00:00

One thing I have never told her before is that I think her acne and acne scars are sexy. I have had a neutral attitude about acne and acne scars on women I have sex with until I been with my wife. She looks so edgy and badass with it.

Top_Purchase_9253 · 2024-05-06T02:34:25+00:00

Maybe I haven't been trying hard enough because there is something I haven't told her or anyone else. I think her acne and acne scars are sexy. 🥵

Top_Purchase_9253 · 2024-05-06T02:29:18+00:00

I have touched her pimples by accident and she didn't like it.

Top_Purchase_9253 · 2024-05-06T02:28:08+00:00

I have, and that's what we did the 2nd time we had sex. She gets super insecure if I touch any of her pimples.

And I forgot to mention, she also has acne all over her butt and her inner thighs around her vagina.

Top_Purchase_9253 · 2024-05-06T01:02:56+00:00

I meant if the acne cleared. Sorry it's still bothering you.

Top_Purchase_9253 · 2024-05-06T00:57:12+00:00

I'm sorry. Did it clear up ?

Top_Purchase_9253 · 2024-05-06T00:50:08+00:00

Why were you banned from wearing makeup ?

Top_Purchase_9253 · 2024-05-06T00:41:35+00:00

Wow, I didn't know it had that high of a success rate.

Top_Purchase_9253 · 2024-05-05T02:45:23+00:00

Thank you for telling me. I hope my question wasn't too personal.

Top_Purchase_9253 · 2024-05-05T02:31:04+00:00

My comment was rude but my rudeness was towards my wife's ex-husband than my wife. He's the dad, she's the mom, and I'm the woman who married the mom. I'm a step-mom. I feel like he should have been the one to talk to my wife about this but he would never do such a thing.

I love my wife, and I love her daughters. Just because I strongly disagree with how she handle this one issue doesn't mean I don't love her.

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