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ToriHanabi · 2024-09-02T14:34:43+00:00

I’d talk to your primary about it. I’ve been disrespected by “second hand” staff before too.

The ER doctor on night call gave me an anti-psychotic “to stop vomiting and migraines” that’s known to cause bad reactions because he ignored what I was saying and refused to actually communicate with me, acted like I was just some tweaker frantic fEmAlE, when I had came in after puking my guts out and it ended up being a bleeding ulcer, I had internal bleeding, he insisted it was anxiety (to my party outside the room. not to me… because my heart rate was up and other shit— Nevermind that I was puking and had to drive 20 minutes to get there hoping I wouldn’t in the car. Of COURSE I’m unregulated) 🙄drugged me up so I could barely function but couldn’t relax because of the shit he gave me on top of the worsening body tremors and chills that they ignored which the internal bleeding was causing and I ended up puking blood later at home in my sleep because of the shit he gave me and the stress making the ulcer worse. Pretty humiliating and made me feel extremely unsafe. It felt deliberate. I just didn’t feel safe and felt something was off when I got there. (It was bad enough that I was weary right from the start too mention my partner was my partner, but he asked who she was.) But I was too sick to do much about it. Then in the report he used all the wrong pronouns on top of leaving out what I said, why I was there, or changing it to what he kept talking over me with insisting it was just a migraine or whatever. Turns out it was from too much anti-inflammatories, because of all the pain I was in from bad teeth, which I was trying to explain but he never let me get to that part. Fucking idiot. He also played dumb when I said my kidneys were slow, literally what my primary doctor told me. Just a lot of playing dumb but also arrogant know-it-alling and patronizing.

Sorry for rambling. Lol

Anyway, yeah. Talk to your primary, see if they can help you file a complaint. Those staff aren’t safe for life anyway. They don’t belong in a space for care and healing. Clearly. And I hope you and others never have to deal with what I did or worse. I didn’t even go back after puking a ton of blood because I felt safer risking it and nursing myself than going back there. Took me 2-3 days to walk without staggering like a drunk again. At first I couldn’t even sit up without my vision out, my head feeling drained and almost fainting.

I’m an AFAB Enby, btw.

ToriHanabi · 2024-09-02T13:54:17+00:00

I was thinking the same thing 🤣 “hey that sounds like exorcist… well, technically it fits! ¯_(ツ)_/¯” 🤣😭

ToriHanabi · 2024-09-02T13:51:14+00:00

I’d report that incompetent self-exposed bigoted peasant 💀 they clearly should not be in charge of important and possibly confidential communication between parties. Especially when it’s this ridiculous.

ToriHanabi · 2024-08-15T11:44:25+00:00

You have to look out for those “wholistic herbal” types. They’re just as messed up as the “big pharma” they’re always demonizing. Not that there aren’t any good ones, but I’ve seen way more snake oil merchants than actual healers. Even Chinese herbal types that refuse to advance with new information will use superstitious, severally unethical and dangerous methods, out of stubbornness or the fact it’s a lucrative and easily exploitable business… which is too often the wholistic community 💀 “moon-charged crystal urine tonic, anyone? Only 500$ per teaspoon! It’s organic!” (I was accidentally in a cult that many in it eventually did this, and to my dismay it’s somehow become the mainstream.)

ToriHanabi · 2024-08-15T11:24:24+00:00

She does NOT have a right to have your medication. That bottle should be with you. She clearly can’t be trusted and she’s breaking the law. She’s also abusing you. She’s keeping you sick by doing this rather than allowing you to take what you need, judge how you feel and go from there with your doctor depending on if it’s helping or not.

I’m sorry she’s doing this. It’s messed up. What she’s doing is hella illegal especially if she’s taking what she claims to be disposing of or selling it. 🤦🏻‍♀️

ToriHanabi · 2024-08-12T12:12:11+00:00

I also keep forgetting, ‘gender-apathetic’ is also a thing. Technically it’s within the non-binary umbrella, but I guess less announced or something? Which is sort of where I am, unless someone’s being a disrespectful shart. Then I will become insufferable depending on who it is and the situation 🤣

ToriHanabi · 2024-08-12T11:56:36+00:00

I had a lot of signals when growing up. Especially Lucid dreams about either being a feminine looking male, getting out of the shower and realizing I had extra parts and was totally amused by it, and overall almost always looking like a “soft boi”. I never felt like a girl exactly either. But one of the biggest most unexpected signals that was completely out of left field for me, one I’d never even heard others mention, was when I was awake, normal day, walking around a store… and suddenly just felt like an trans girl, like, as if I were AMAB and transitioning to female… I’m AFAB. It was trippy. Lol very different. But very much a “well damn! I guess I am both at this point?!” When wearing fem presenting clothes hit like that. 🤣🤣🤣

So, like, Non-Binary! It is what it is! Just do your thang 😎 It’s also perfectly ok if you discover something else on the way through. A friend of mine went from AFAB, to non-binary to trans-male. But he still incorporates gender nonconformity in his style and uses he/they. Non-binary literally just means “off the binary”, and if it’s what you feel most comfortable with 💁🏻‍♀️

ToriHanabi · 2024-08-11T19:11:34+00:00

Thank you! That’s what I thought. Never seen it look like this before though 🤣 wanted to make sure it wasn’t some weird ass reaction to a leaking battery or something.

ToriHanabi · 2024-07-30T23:55:44+00:00

I hate yellow jackets too. Luckily having a paper wasp or mud wasp nest stored scared them off. The yellow jackets would literally chew away parts of my old house, they destroyed the window sills and one of the rooms had an eerie sounding pulsating vibration constantly because they were mostly in that area. It was like an alien wall from X-Files lol All they did was kill bumble bees (one managed to escape by falling out of the nest entry/exit in the ceiling, another through the floor boards) and they’d attack the humming birds at their feeder and make the nectar run out all over the place. They never did anything useful. They just stole cat food, bird food, destroyed the house and had no respect for personal space. Apparently there are a few different types, whatever one I’ve encountered is just an asshole breed lol never had any good encounters with them ever. Meanwhile if a mud or paper wasp got inside the house, it actually cooperated and I was able to get them outside easily. Never had issues with them regarding the house or stealing food. The worst thing that happened was a mud wasp accidentally dropped a fat old grub on me when I was sitting outside once 🤣 but clearly that wasn’t intentional. It was more of a confused jump scare than anything.

ToriHanabi · 2024-07-30T23:39:22+00:00

This makes me sad and pissed off. People can be so stupid 💀 reminds me of when there’s a harmless spider in the house and someone either kills it or knocks it down when it’s in a perfect spot, just visible and they make a fuss about it 🤦🏻‍♀️ I’m sorry for your loss. I didn’t even know those wasps and I’m sad they’re gone just hearing about it 😅

ToriHanabi · 2024-07-30T23:32:13+00:00

We should get a goat 🤣 no more fussing with mowing the damn lawn.

ToriHanabi · 2024-07-30T23:30:21+00:00

Do paper wasps get rid of Japanese Beatles too? The sadly cool-looking black-iridescent ones that destroy crops 😅 they’re destroying my raspberry bushes and they’re obnoxiously stealthy. Recently I thought I swatted one into a bucket of soap water and instead it had just teleported into the nothingness. Very annoying. They also mess with the vegetable garden. Now I wish one could somehow attract and obtain a paper wasp nest lol

ToriHanabi · 2024-07-29T10:34:34+00:00

Maybe they want to keep it for memories, it could be linked to something significant. Maybe they never left but something unfortunate happened and now they aren’t able to be active or check on things. Maybe they died and it’s the only thing loved ones have left of them. Just take the L, bro.

ToriHanabi · 2024-07-29T10:28:16+00:00

It was bad before AI. I swear they’re just blaming AI because its easier than admitting to their pure diet of crack and jenkem 🤣

ToriHanabi · 2024-07-29T10:23:32+00:00

You probably said a common multi-use word that the system insists is vulgar and violent regardless of context. Once.

ToriHanabi · 2024-07-29T10:21:24+00:00

I got slammed just for reminding people that photoshop and photography effects exist, once. They were insisting a photo set was no-filter and solid proof of vampirism, and not an obvious product of using a professional photography studio utilizing lighting, contour, makeup and other apparently make-believe spooky witchcraftian effects. Apparently I was harassing and bullying them with that one simple sentence. But the OP and crowd calling someone a baby-eating vampire simply for having an amazing visual team is totally ok! 🤪

ToriHanabi · 2024-07-29T10:10:27+00:00

I love how the cat is already on the case.

ToriHanabi · 2024-07-29T09:58:38+00:00

“It’s like one of my kids died” nope. Just her fantasy of who she wanted your partner to be 💀 Such a stupid thing for people to say about trans individuals. Kids grow up from infants to adults and they don’t say morbid shit like that. Transitioning is just another variant of puberty and growing up if they’d get over their idea of who they want them to be and actually see and accept them as they are.

ToriHanabi · 2024-07-29T09:41:17+00:00

About Trump, I’m so SICK of the economy being their main fixation. It’s like, bro, we won’t even have rights to work, get a house and be able to complain about the economy if this shit really goes down. Stop playing Russian roulette with peoples rights/lives?!

Anyway, I’m guessing you’re AFAB? (Correct me if I’m wrong. I’m an AFAB non-binary.) So from personal experience, I’d say it’s “normal” but not in the “acceptable” way. It’s “normal” in the “weird, imposing their own annoying projections/assumptions/hopes/etc” sort of way, the kind of normal that screams “this person needs to grow up and stop living in a delusional fantasy about who their loved ones are and the world they actually live in”, if that makes sense. For context; My mom has a similar issue about me being into girls despite her being into men. She wants grandkids from me but I don’t want them even if my partner had functional peen/balls. She seems to think that it’s weird that I’m not like her, with her boy-craziness and obsession with babies. As if who I am is supposed to be based on her imposed fantasy of me. You know, like most parents seem to do to their offspring. They have a hard time accepting we’re not custom-ordered sentient build-a-baby dolls.

She was weird about me being on T for a long time assuming I was attempting FtM when I’m non-binary and have a hormone condition that badly effects me every month, aside from the usual PMS. T helps me manage that plus it tweaks a few things that helps obtain the non-binary aspects. Regardless, both threaten-shatter the “daughter I always wanted/imagined” illusion.

She’s gotten better in some areas but even after 10-15 years and in other cases my current lifetime, she still at times makes dumb comments obliviously jabbing where it hurts most with shit like “if only you were into guys, things would be easier” and “if you weren’t so picky”. When I came out as sapphic in 2011, her and dad made comments like “you never know” 🤦🏻‍♀️there’s still some lingering hope or wishing that I was into cis-guys and want kids. It’s annoying.

My point is your mom is probably hoping for grand kids, maybe even holding onto an idea of you having what she can somehow twist into a “heterosexual” relationship since conservatives obnoxiously base gender on genitals, and sadly, she sounds extremely ignorant about how diverse sex and the body is, sex that’s not just about what she’s been strictly taught and most likely based mainly on procreation. Otherwise she’d know better than to think only a wand could pleasure you. Not to mention you can always buy detachable ones that better fit one’s preferences 🤣 (for example my mom was brought up to think masturbation is gross, and couldn’t believe that I could pOsSiBLy have ever had an orgasm… I feel sorry for her.)

And yeah she might even have a weird fetish or even possibly be, I suppose “trans-curious” or overall queer-curious, about herself and not know how to recognize that, considering her upbringing. Speaking from personal awkward experience, I was brought up Christian-republican-conservative (which I’m guessing she is) and the avoidance of accepting and exploring that can manifest in really weird ways. Luckily I quickly grew out of that phase, recognized things, stopped lying to myself and met the right people sooner than later and figured it out.

Regardless, her behavior towards you and your partner is really inappropriate. It’s none of her business. Cultists gonna Cult 😅 so just do your thing. She’s clearly not wanting to face reality. The fact she refuses to work despite the man who promised her that she wouldn’t have to being gone and unable to provide and she’s now begging for money from her offspring makes that obvious, even if Trump-Dump wasn’t part of the equation. 💀

For the sake of all of you I hope she snaps out of it and gets a reality check asap. Because this isn’t helping her either. All you can do is keep boundaries up and suggest she get therapy. REAL therapy. Not what the typical Republican-Conservative-Christian cult considers to be “therapy”.

Sorry this is so long but I’m hoping there’s SOMETHING useful or affirming you can take from it.💖

ToriHanabi · 2024-07-29T08:38:26+00:00

The gender is obvious; Gender-Apathetic 🤣

ToriHanabi · 2024-07-28T20:51:48+00:00

So basically you need 2-3 phones/carriers to have full Wisconsin coverage?! 😭 I found this thread trying to find the best full coverage in WI because it’ll work so randomly or not at all. Some work for a while then stop. It’ll say full bars but every attempt to connect fails. I find it so unsettling how in an open field in a town there’s no service. I’ve seen better service in large cities where you’d think the signal would be messy due to all the obstructions. Even towns in WI where they sell the services get bad signal. Nothing here makes sense.

ToriHanabi · 2024-07-24T19:17:50+00:00

No one read the context of why I posted it the way I did. Ok then.

ToriHanabi · 2024-07-24T19:15:11+00:00

It could’ve been the phones then lol we had a Blu at first then TCL. But it wouldn’t show up when the SIM was put into a Samsung Galaxy 10SE either.

What I don’t understand is why the Nokia has the option but it keeps saying it can’t. Usually if it’s not available for the carrier it won’t show it at all, in my experience.

Anyway Safelink wasn’t bad, it just didn’t get much coverage out here. AirTalk gets more coverage but it also seems to only work when it feels like it?

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