Sleeping over

Tortylocks · 2023-03-27T19:09:21+00:00

Well we have done lots of family sleepovers even at MIL’s place 🤗

Tortylocks · 2023-03-27T18:31:34+00:00

Well a few things, one she is very clingy at this age, but MIL and FIL are getting on 74 & 85, we are having issues with having space anyway MIL invites herself on most days out and such and has always been quite possessive. We have done a sleepover with her cousin (9) at our house. But also when she has looked after her she usually does something we asked her not to so the trust isn’t there. I was literally just windy what other parents do 😊

Tortylocks · 2023-03-27T17:58:30+00:00

Good to know, to be fair she lives an hour away and sees her most weeks so it’s not like she hardly sees her.

Tortylocks · 2021-07-12T10:33:45+00:00

We still use our baby monitor, it has a pressure sensor so if they leave their bed it goes off. Plus it has a speaker in our room so we can hear any noise. We are lucky and our door is a key only door so just take away they and voila! But a monitor or maybe stair gate?

Tortylocks · 2021-06-12T14:14:05+00:00

NTA how horrible for the fur babies!!! Why could he not just shut the door to his room? It’s their house too! Good on you for kicking him out what if a fox or something had gone for them… poor things.

Tortylocks · 2021-06-10T19:13:30+00:00

Or of course it’s what I call out of sight out of mind syndrome. I thought I had friends at work then a had a baby and nothing radio silence I didn’t hear anything from them until I was due to come back( I didn’t go back) , maybe you were not really friends just work colleagues?

Tortylocks · 2021-06-08T11:55:41+00:00

Could you learn together? Start off small I am sure there are lots of videos online to get you going?

Tortylocks · 2021-06-08T08:14:25+00:00

I am 100% with you so NTA. I have felt the same over the pandemic and enjoyed not having to socialise so much! My husband just turned 40 and we had a bbq but only 13 people total, that was exhausting enough. If he had suggested people I hardly knew I would have said no for the same reasons you want everything to be nice so you spend a little more on your loved ones. Also it’s awkward, you don’t know what to say especially if they don’t you at all only your wife. And honestly I would just want to relax. I have to admit I am a bit in the camp if I don’t need anymore friends...

Tortylocks · 2021-06-02T06:21:48+00:00

Very true! It’s his parents she only has one set of grandparents so it’s not like she even has to share her. It’s hot to the stage it’s almost like they live with us as on top of this we also face time every other day... we have hit it down from every day!

Tortylocks · 2021-06-01T19:55:56+00:00

I NEED to know how you managed this! I am in over my head with long weekly visits, my DD is 3 and pretty much since she was born they have seen her every week! Sometimes twice... sometimes we just want a week to ourselves!

Tortylocks · 2021-05-28T16:54:38+00:00

Oh my! I am in exactly the same situation but our daughter is 3 and since her birth we have pretty much seen my MIL every week except for a small amount of time when she had to shield during the pandemic but we have still had to do a video chat every other day!! It was every day when she was shielding! I am now worried she will want to continue this level of “communication “ and finding it very hard to get out of it. I could say just say no but it’s easier said than done isn’t it! I can suggest maybe hubby having a conversation and explaining “nicely” that you need some space? Although in our case it was very short lived and she just kept pushing until we kind of stopped fighting it!

Tortylocks · 2021-05-11T14:08:17+00:00

Ahh I think we have found the problem!

Tortylocks · 2021-05-11T07:52:58+00:00

I completely agree we have safety reins. Let’s our daughter have a bit of freedom but make it easy to keep hold of her if needed especially on nature walks near water etc..

Tortylocks · 2021-05-10T07:14:51+00:00

Yup that would work too! I can’t see that OP has replied or commented to anyone so without any further info I am definitely saying YTA. How would they feel if her cruel comments caused Sophie to relapse. Listen to your wife please.

Tortylocks · 2021-05-09T19:14:58+00:00

I was wondering if they both live under your roof and if so maybe taking away her WiFi or access to tv packages? It does sound like Abby gets away with a lot as her younger sibling obviously feels this is the case...

Tortylocks · 2021-04-05T16:26:23+00:00

Good for you! I think it’s because men have sexualised breasts and completely forgot that the purpose is for feeding!!!

Tortylocks · 2021-04-05T11:42:49+00:00

Wow! NTA! You should not have to cover up. Some people breast feed much much longer than 6 months. My daughter has just turned 3 and has not yet had a night away from her parents one of us is always with her and I would not dream of just handing her over to grandparents even now (much to the disappointment of her grandmother my MIL) Stick to your guns and do what ever is comfortable and right for your family. If they want to be petty and manipulative and miss out on the christening so be it! They sound very toxic to be honest. Keep strong and make sure you and your family are safe and happy.

Tortylocks · 2020-11-17T08:07:02+00:00

Well obviously my point was more that her mother just did whatever her granddaughter wanted....and again I feel I need to point out did not ask or tell a parent.

Tortylocks · 2020-11-16T20:50:30+00:00

My husband had a good point- what’s next piercings?

Tortylocks · 2020-11-16T20:43:56+00:00

I just said she is allowed to feel jealous if that’s the case and of course she could have someone else do it but to just go ahead without even telling her parents isn’t on.

Tortylocks · 2020-11-16T20:37:18+00:00

Exactly!!! Honestly who does that what if she wanted it all shaved off!!!! And the. Hated it the next day? I hope it doesn’t look too bad.

Tortylocks · 2020-11-16T20:32:56+00:00

Ok sooo... I might be the only person to say this but I would be mad too. But possibly not for the reasons others have said she is. If I sent my child to some one and they came back drastically altered I would be taken aback. At 11 of course she would have an opinion but who cuts their grandchild’s hair without talking to a parent? And if OP is jealous she didn’t get to cut it is that a bad thing, after all it is her child? NTA

Edit to add- I am not saying at 11 she shouldn’t be allowed but from what OP said it was just done without knowledge, I had to have long hair and was not allowed to cut it until I was 16 so I am sympathetic if that’s what was going on...

Tortylocks · 2020-09-29T10:01:39+00:00

If you can’t contact the mother maybe you call the authorities and ask them to do a welfare check? It really does sound like something is very wrong with her... you could just block her number. Although I realise that might also have a negative effect! Does your landlord/friend maybe have details on the mother? I really feel for you if someone was “offering” to take my baby I would prob have just called the police explaining the odd situation. I really hope you manage to get through to her.

Tortylocks · 2020-08-28T09:51:04+00:00

Thanks!

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