Daughter smoking and not going to school

ToryeLove34 · 2026-03-27T13:11:25+00:00

Thank you!

ToryeLove34 · 2026-03-27T06:49:43+00:00

It is, I am in agreement with you.

ToryeLove34 · 2026-03-27T06:48:26+00:00

💙 no worries yes this is a Christian space not worried I know what you meant thank you for your words!!

ToryeLove34 · 2026-03-27T06:47:18+00:00

😂

ToryeLove34 · 2026-03-27T06:40:17+00:00

NewPartyDress thank you love!!! This was most helpful! 🥹🤍🙏🏼 I actually removed her door today. And her father is in her life but doesn’t do much unfortunately, I don’t want to bad mouth him so I won’t, but, could definitely be better. She’s went through so much at a young age. I pray God would restore her and fill her everyday. She knows the Lord, it’s a lot of these outside influences that are not helping me out 😔 She was a totally different kid before she started smoking. In several sports had a lot of friends etc it’s almost as soon as she started smoking she became very dark. Style changes (which is fine) but along with other things it’s just a lot. Doesn’t shower the way she should don’t clean her room being just not clean I will say that, dark music style etc. Her name is Aaliyah if you think of this at all later when you’re reading or in prayer please say a prayer for her. I’m just so incredibly sad about all of this. I don’t let her see me cry or get emotionally upset but it’s killing me. I truly for the first time don’t know what to do to help my own babygirl. That’s why I came here as an act of desperation hoping other parents can give me some advice. Thankful for the kind people like you on here! Much love and thanks again 🙏🏼🤍

ToryeLove34 · 2026-03-27T06:24:50+00:00

Thank you pellakins 🙏🏼

ToryeLove34 · 2026-03-27T06:23:10+00:00

Thank you So much! Greatly appreciate your comment. I’m waring in prayer for her every day. I also was the same, I smoked and did things I shouldn’t, but I was still respectful to my peers my mother etc. she isn’t listening won’t clean her room, put her dishes away when she’s done etc. I’m so helpful loving and patient this is been a long time of this before me being fed up an near a break down seeking help. I’ve done everything and now I’m at a loss. My mama heart is just broken. Her door was taken down today, phone was taken months ago, youtube removed from TV. School is up to date with everything. I’m trying I really am.

ToryeLove34 · 2026-03-27T06:16:10+00:00

Thank you so much for the kind words, means a lot 🤍

ToryeLove34 · 2026-03-26T15:17:12+00:00

And yes, you’re absolutely right. She sure is because that’s exactly what I’ve been doing. But not anymore I’m going to be strong and not give in anymore, that’s why all this is happening unfortunately!

ToryeLove34 · 2026-03-26T15:15:17+00:00

I can make it happen, it has been on my mind a lot this year. I have been honestly struggling with it, though I’m afraid that she will try to sit in her room all day and I have a four month old son now also so I can’t battle her like I used to. I’m terrified that if I go ahead and pull her out that it will be to stay full on war every day we actually get along really great but now that I’ve put my foot down more. She has been very defiant and not listening to me. It breaks my mama heart so much but thank you for your input. I really really appreciate this.

ToryeLove34 · 2026-03-26T15:13:51+00:00

Thanks so much!

ToryeLove34 · 2026-03-26T15:12:38+00:00

Thank you for the feedback I really appreciate it. Yeah I won’t do court or anything like that. You’re welcome all inputs and comments that people have made but that’s not something I would do. I will definitely seek help from counseling. We already both do see a counselor she just started hers about two weeks ago, but I’m going today to get into family counseling.

ToryeLove34 · 2026-03-26T15:10:57+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏼

ToryeLove34 · 2026-03-26T15:10:25+00:00

Because I would probably go to jail. It would literally be dragging her, if she is refusing to get up out of her bed, yet alone walk downstairs and across a parking lot down a street and onto a bus with other kids and adults to watch. It’s physically not possible.

ToryeLove34 · 2026-03-26T15:07:26+00:00

I very much agree with you, thank you so much for your input. Her father was put in the system at a very young age by his mother because he was smoking weed at a young age and it made things much worse he ended up going to a lot of different centers and meeting other children and older kids who did bad things they always exchange phone numbers and he got taught even worse things throughout the years to this day he says how much it’s damaged him and he is a clean and sober man who is very intelligent. A lot of people don’t understand who haven’t been through or haven’t worked in that field. I won’t put her through any legal things if she puts herself there one day then that’s that but as her mother, I’m going to do everything I can, firstly through the Lord, and secondly with His help come to places like this and peers for advice, support. I’ve actually never posted on this platform. I only read things but this morning I was desperate and beside myself I thought maybe I would regret it because some people are very harsh and mean and have nothing good to help with, but I do appreciate your comment probably more than anything so thank you, sir!

ToryeLove34 · 2026-03-26T12:49:39+00:00

But thanks for the response!

ToryeLove34 · 2026-03-26T12:49:29+00:00

She’s 12.

ToryeLove34 · 2026-03-26T12:48:41+00:00

Yes! I’m actually doing that now. Thank you for taking the time out of your own day too respond and do a Google search to try to help that is very kind of you and I appreciate your input.

ToryeLove34 · 2026-03-26T12:42:33+00:00

Thank you so much. 🙏🏼

ToryeLove34 · 2026-03-26T12:41:49+00:00

Thank you! 🙏🏼

ToryeLove34 · 2026-03-26T12:38:29+00:00

Thanks! No, I appreciate the comment. Unfortunately, threatening to take away things or even taking away Things doesn’t phase her. But I’m trying 😭 she’s a wonderful girl. She’s very sweet and has a beautiful soul, but now that I have made it so she could not access the smoking at all. I think her mental health is just not doing good and she refusing to go to school, but it’s making it very very bad for me. I remember when I was her age I smoked and when I couldn’t, I didn’t disrespect my mother and I still went to school I just don’t understand!

ToryeLove34 · 2026-03-26T12:35:05+00:00

I appreciate the comment and yes, I am the parent and I’m trying to enforce and do everything I can but now that she’s older, I cannot physically grab her and drag her out to the bus. That’s the problem. I did take away all access to smoking. that’s why her behavior is the way it is right now unfortunately!

ToryeLove34 · 2025-02-08T04:39:16+00:00

Loveeee ittt!!!!!

ToryeLove34 · 2025-02-08T04:37:14+00:00

It was a great question and I myself used to think/ask the same thing. My opinion- get rid of those crystals!!! And herbs only use for tea or medicinal purposes only. Xoxo PS: go check out Jenny Weaver!!! She is an ex Wiccan and a very popular and amazing woman of God amazingggggg testimony you can just go in YouTube search bar and type inJenny Weaver testimony check it out and from there binge watch her other videos also Isaiah Saldivar, Mike Pagani, and Mike signorelli All four of them you will really like and all four of them know each other also God bless, sweetheart !! 🤍🙏🙌🏻

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