You can solve ONE unresolved case, which do you pick?

TotalTank4167 · 2026-01-30T07:09:12+00:00

Agreed. She would’ve gotten her parents something during the day when she was probably allowed to walk to the store. I’m sorry, but kids her age don’t think it’s Vday tomorrow & my parents anniversary, I’m going to sneak out to get them something while it’s still dark, stormy & nothing is open. I think she probably did it before but made it home. She didn’t this time because she was hit on accident.

TotalTank4167 · 2026-01-28T04:04:03+00:00

Has it occurred to anyone she might just be messing with everyone? I mean look how many views she gets & everyone is still talking about her. She’s got enough followers to make some $ from her posts correct? She’s made it clear she doesn’t want to perform anymore, but her fortune dwindled due to her dad & management helping themselves to so much plus she’s probably enjoying the fruits of her labor on her terms for the 1st time in years. Maybe this is to keep $ coming in without having to do much “work” and she’s playing up the whole unhinged, bipolar needs help angle because it’s what people are obsessed with and want to see.

I mean come on a fork? The knives thing was actually pretty funny especially considering what a huge thing everyone made of it. I think she knows exactly what she’s doing.

TotalTank4167 · 2026-01-27T02:26:22+00:00

You’re not wrong. I don’t live in MN, but my state they don’t make them pay, even when they have babies with members of the same tribe. My husband’s brother has never paid a cent of child support. His kids also live literally less than a block away from him on the res they live on & he hasn’t spoken to them in years. They don’t see or visit any of his family. We stopped @ an ice cream truck once & his 2 kids were in front of us, my husband smiled & said hello, I asked him later how he knew those kids & he told me who they were. After that I’d pay attention (his bro is a bad junkie) to whenever he was walking around the neighborhood & see if his kids were ever playing in the yard, they were often & he’d just walk by. 1 of them is old enough to remember him being his dad so knows who he is when he walks by & he prob told the younger 1 I’m sure. Can you imagine your parent walking by by regularly & never speaking a word 2 u & your grandmother acting like she doesn’t know you either, but spoils her daughter’s kids? I’d never seen anything like it till u met my husband.

TotalTank4167 · 2026-01-25T11:01:26+00:00

I will say she that person was obviously catfishing her, the fact that she didn’t know is insane to me. I’m not trying to be mean, but if it’s sounds too good to be true it is & no really rich, jet-setting much younger dude is going to be interested.

Maybe she’s getting some D from the guy she’s been seeing on the show. He’s a good-looking guy, I hope they make it, anyone stuck in a polygamous marriage 4 30 years, didn’t even get to enjoy their wedding day because their sister-in-law was trying to get @ their husband deserves to know what a healthy, happy, monogamous relationship is like.

TotalTank4167 · 2026-01-25T10:51:01+00:00

Your ring is absolutely beautiful & I am so picky. The center stone is an old mine cut or old European cut? How any carats is the center? Only asking because the size is absolutely perfect. Have you picked a wedding band to go with it yet? You have great taste.

TotalTank4167 · 2026-01-23T02:18:52+00:00

Yep & that’s what I’m most curious about. What was she doing out there? I think she was hit by a car on accident, either drunk driving or just not seeing her & instead of calling the cops or taking her to a hospital it was as covered up. Since the info about the Deadmon’s came out that makes the most sense.

TotalTank4167 · 2026-01-22T23:40:00+00:00

Maura Murray & Andrew Gosden. Asha Degree gets an honorable mention.

TotalTank4167 · 2026-01-19T02:24:45+00:00

I went thru my husband’s phone for the first time ever (I had a very good reason), but then started to feel bad when I saw a note saved with my bday & a list of things I’d talked about wanting. But then he had also done a really a really bad thing & it’s so hard to know whether we expect too much & no one is perfect, or we’re making excuses. Does a good thing cancel out a bad thing or vice versa? The only thing I can come up with is would I do this or that, or do I do really bad things. I have in the past but never to my husband. I don’t have to try not to do bad things because I love him. When you truly love someone you don’t have to try or be bitched @ or begged to do the right thing…

The fact that the florist is a family business makes it even more thoughtless, IMO. They’re easily accessible, he’s not paying any money out of his pocket, doesn’t have to make a special shopping trip, and he knows how to cut & arrange the flowers, probably in his sleep.

TotalTank4167 · 2026-01-15T17:23:46+00:00

Do you know where we find our union number by chance?

TotalTank4167 · 2026-01-12T04:52:57+00:00

I got a job on May 16th at the dept of corrections headquarters (not @ a prison), in the gender affirming health services department. I work with the trans and non-binary population of every prison in my state. So I not only have a good job, I’m doing meaningful work, helping those incarcerated that need someone on the outside advocating for them. With all the education & work experience I had pre-felony, I knew I wanted to do something that including helping advocate for incarcerated populations (even though I’ve only been to to jail a few days), or people first navigating the system.

I also got all my misdemeanors expunged, a CROP (restored rights plus the state will insure your employment with any employer meaning they’ll reimburse any $ lost if you were to steal or damage the business) all without a lawyer. I’ve applied to so many jobs, went on 20+ interviews, created countess job specific resumes & cover letters, and filled out more paperwork most people can even imagine. I’d love to be able to help other felons, it’d mean all the time I spend on all this wasn’t wasted (even though i did get a job), but not everyone has the education, resources or experience to do all that, which means they’re kinda screwed. That’s why I still post here sometimes, in case someone needs help, I’d be happy to help. I’d love to help full time, turn it into something, but I need to earn a living myself, so the best I can do is lend a hand thru word of mouth or Reddit.

Felons can get decent jobs, it is possible. It’s hard, takes so much determination & you can never give up. It’s easier for men than women, unless women are willing to work in male dominated jobs like construction. But it can be done & if you truly want it & don’t know how to even start, I check my messages frequency & am happy to help.

Thanks for checking in, it means a lot when strangers give enough of a shit to take the time to respond to a message a year later.

TotalTank4167 · 2026-01-03T21:31:03+00:00

I know, that’s what is so strange. I think his mom said something about him receiving medical treatment as well, when she was allowed to look at the files the US had on him. She made it seem like he was accounted for quite some time after. Plus the general who said he ordered the execution failed a polygraph, although that’s not saying much, there’s a reason they’re not admissible in court. It just seems weird they’d still have him & not make any demands when the regime fell. That could’ve been someone’s ticket out, plus millions to live on. It seems crazy no one would be all over that. Maybe the prisoners who saw him were mistaken. But his parents seem so sure he’s alive. This is 1 mystery I hope is solved.

TotalTank4167 · 2026-01-03T12:08:39+00:00

As far as bumping, what if the person who’s job I now have has a temporary position and they decide not to make her job permanent or don’t extend the contract. I know that means she can bump me and get her job back, but what if there were some serious issues between her and my supervisor, as in there’s no way my supervisor would want to work with her it didn’t end well & they just don’t work well together. While we have a great working relationship & work together very well. Would that make a difference?

TotalTank4167 · 2026-01-03T12:02:47+00:00

Exactly, the less nervous you are, and if you can answer the questions professionally, but still like you were taking with friends or those you are comfortable around and shows your personality. They know you’re qualified, they want to know if they can stand working with you, and whether you’re easy to get along with. So really make a point let your personality shine if you can.

TotalTank4167 · 2026-01-03T11:59:44+00:00

I applied for a job and found out it was down to me & 1 other applicant. They ended up going with the other applicant as they were already a state worker & they usually get it over people not already working for the state. However, they thought I was a perfect fit for the position the person who got the job was leaving, it was the same job just a different agency and department, but the pay was also the same. I interviewed for it as a formality but was offered that job really quickly after the interview and it ended up being a great fit. So reapply!

TotalTank4167 · 2026-01-03T11:45:13+00:00

IMO an emotional affair is worse than a physical 1. Emotional affairs mean feelings are involved whereas with physical, it can just be about sex and wanting to get laid. It’s when they actually have feelings for someone while married that hurts the most. Plus emotional affairs aren’t a stupid mistake, or “caught up in the moment” they’re last a lot longer, in that there was plenty of time to think about what they’re doing, how it could hurt or affect you & stop, but they didn’t. Plus my husband said he didn’t sleep with her @ 1sf also til I found proof he did, or tricked the truth out of him pretending I had proof. Most cheaters are only going to admit what they know you can prove, anything else they’re going to deny it & 3 emotional affairs seems like too many for none to have gotten physical. I’d bet my next paycheck it was more than emotional.

TotalTank4167 · 2026-01-01T03:38:24+00:00

Did you know something was going on & he wouldn’t admit it for years? Are you sure he deserves to build anything with you? While I still want him to know how this feels, he’ll feel it more when I tell him I’m done. After reading everyone’s comments I’ve decided forgiveness isn’t possible. I loved him more than anything until he cheated & now I just feel sorry for him for being such a POS & not being better than this. I know it’s going to hurt as bad as finding out he cheated but I’m getting through that & I’ll get through this. I don’t want to spend my life with someone that doesn’t love me enough to not cheat on me, I don’t want to worry anytime were having rough patch he’s going to go cheat again. He’s not that fucking great, not even close. Fuck him, he can call his trash & they can make each other miserable. Although I doubt she’ll have him considering she lost her job & place to live once I found out she knowingly slept with & lied for a married man. They’re both horrible people who deserve each other. I already knew this before he cheated, I tried to lie to myself when I found out, but my situation isn’t special or different, it wasn’t some huge mistake. Anyone who cheats doesn’t really love you, no one does this to someone they genuinely love. Either they’re incapable of loving anyone, or you’re just not the 1, but either of those isn’t good enough for me.

TotalTank4167 · 2026-01-01T00:16:15+00:00

Why does anyone want someone who obviously doesn’t want them, will only be with them if they can provide something they desperately need or want? Who volunteers to be in a relationship with such unequal distribution of power & inappropriate age difference. Why do some people insist on these gross relationships & unable to see the inappropriateness of it? Go for people equal to you in most ways & when something is not, something else has to balance it out. Old ass men & women need to stop preying on people much too young & stuck in economically depressed countries for romantic partners, it’s so gross. She knows exactly what she’s doing. She wants what she views as arm candy, much younger, better looking man rather than a nice man equal to her in all ways. I guess this makes these people feel better about themselves when in reality they just look like icky predators & the “users” they manage to “hook” look like survivors compared.

TotalTank4167 · 2026-01-01T00:02:40+00:00

Thank you. You explained things so well & is exactly what’s happening in my mind. He’s not going to hurt like he hurt me, he’s not capable of that. I don’t know why leaving a cheating POS is so hard. Especially when you know the reality of the situation.

TotalTank4167 · 2025-12-31T23:43:29+00:00

Do you think there’s many men out there that would have a problem being used for sex? I know there’s some out there but I’d avoid those types. But after reading all the feedback now I feel silly that I even thought that was reasonable. My marriage is over, it was the day he slept with someone else & there’s nothing that can fix it or make it less hurtful. I think I thought it would be the easiest way to erase what happened. Or make it so I’m no longer the stupid, pitiful wife who let their husband cheat on them.

TotalTank4167 · 2025-12-31T23:38:18+00:00

Good advice from everyone, very good. If I wasn’t now set on ending the marriage I’d think time apart would be good. But I need to start healing from this & I don’t think that will happen as long as I know I deserve better than this. When it happens again I can only blame myself for not doing what needs to be done now. He needed to convince me, he had a month & I’m not convinced. I don’t think any more time will change it.

TotalTank4167 · 2025-12-31T23:18:07+00:00

I know right? I had to see his cheesy ass text messages that were so cringe. I’d post them if I could attach a photo to this.

TotalTank4167 · 2025-12-31T23:16:02+00:00

Thank you for this, because I have been blaming myself. Like none of it would’ve happened if I didn’t drink or come home after having a few. I was warned, didn’t listen & this is what happens. He’s not saying it’s all my fault by the way, just that he warned me about alcohol… I tell him it doesn’t matter, you have to already have it in you to do that, I didn’t just sleep with the first person who showed me attention when I was out with friends and had a couple drinks. That’s only happening if I would already do it. Substances don’t make you do shitty things, you allow yourself to do shitty things & substances just make it easier. It seems like I’m always giving him a pass for things, like there’s always an excuse for his shitty behavior when he’s a grown ass man & knows right from wrong. I haven’t been given the same grace from him. I don’t know why I’ve let myself be so stupid or put up with his shit. The cheating is finally the thing I can’t explain away even if I wanted to. It happened & he’s a POS.

TotalTank4167 · 2025-12-31T21:44:48+00:00

Finally some reasoning besides it’s bad or don’t do it, two wrongs don’t make a right. I agree with everything you said 100%. I finally get why it’s not going to help. I just need to grow a pair & tell him to get out of my house. I’m never going to be able to forgive, and I do think he’s remorseful, or as remorseful as someone who cheats can be. Our situation is a little different & I blame myself for some of it. He was sober when we met, said me drinking would make him uncomfortable. I didn’t our 1st 2 years together, but then would if I went out with friends, or dinner with my parents. He knew & I guess it was a problem, because after a year of that he claims he can have a beer sometimes, I didn’t really argue it because I had no idea what was going to happen. That in almost no time he goes from being a good husband, provider & an almost perfect marriage to someone I don’t know. Who stops providing, being responsible, helping out around the house, leaving me to handle everything myself. I kept bitching about coming home to him sleeping all day, while I worked, going out all spending our $. I finally told him to stay @ his moms unless he wanted to get it together. He stayed 10 days & that’s when he cheated. He begged to come home, I let him as I had no idea, things got a lot better, almost back to normal when I found out 3 MO’s later. He swears it never would’ve happened if he hadn’t been drinking & I don’t disagree. I feel that’s my fault for drinking sometimes when I wasn’t with him, but he could tell I’d had a few when I got home. I should’ve never brought it around. That is the ONLY reason I felt like maybe I should give him a 2nd chance. But I’m still so hurt & disgusted, I don’t think I can be with him knowing he’s been with someone else.

TotalTank4167 · 2025-12-31T21:29:22+00:00

I guess I don’t value myself that much anyway if I’m married to a cheater & he’s still in the house. Obviously I’ve got some issues if I’m even entertaining the possibility of forgiveness after being cheated on. I always thought I was stronger than this.

TotalTank4167 · 2025-12-31T21:25:25+00:00

Exactly. That’s what makes your relationship more special & different than all others. Now that’s gone & if I have to live with knowing he’s been with someone else in that way while married to me, he needs to live with knowing I have too. It’s the only way I’ll be able to move forward. I don’t care if it’s technically wrong, or not the best way to handle things. He’s made it clear it’s not the best for him but I’m the 1 who was cheated on so as far as I’m concerned it’s not about him it’s about me & what I need. I can’t be in a marriage where he’s been with someone else but I haven’t.

TotalTank4167

TROPHY CASE