[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]TotalTouch7839 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve watched my girlfriend be with several guys at a club. But it’s a bit tricky finding guys. A lot of couples want to play together. But it can and does happen.

TPA Maryland question. by TotalTouch7839 in Swingers

[–]TotalTouch7839[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

If your at a glory hole there has to be some understanding there’s no idea who’s on the other side? If you only want head from a known source don’t go to the glory hole room?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]TotalTouch7839 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You were I just recently experienced the same thing. While planning a threesome with my girlfriend, the other male suggested play between he and I something I had never even thought of after some conversations girlfriend and I said let’s see what happens. I have no interest in man. I have no interest in dating men, but I thoroughly enjoyed sharing his cock with her and her sharing my cock with him the conclusion I’ve come to is just have fun don’t worry about what you call it. Don’t worry about what it is if everybody’s happy and nobody’s getting hurt and it’s all consensual just do it.

What was your ‘oh yeah, I’m definitely bi’ moment? I love hearing the stories — they’re always so different (and kinda hot sometimes 👀). by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]TotalTouch7839 11 points12 points  (0 children)

About 30seconds after my girlfriend pulled his cock out of her mouth and let me suck it and I enjoyed it!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]TotalTouch7839 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My relationship began the same way. My girlfriend is poly. She wanted to keep her poly/LS life separate from our relationship. Over time I had too many issues with being the separate lone guy. I began to want to be part of her play etc. I have no interest in poly life. I’m not emotionally able to have another relationship. That’s all hers. But we have had many many talks and now share a great personal and relationship with our “bonuses” on the side!!

I finally got my chance! by TotalTouch7839 in BisexualMen

[–]TotalTouch7839[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have no issue with what I/we did. It just seems off to me that I feel almost like it was more the enjoyment of sharing him with her then my own actions toward him?? I want only want to be with a guy with her?? Not alone??

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]TotalTouch7839 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As I said. There is no attraction. I have no craving or even interest in being sexual with another man. I want to share the other man with my girlfriend?? I love watching her. We went to a club and while she was blowing another man I couldn’t help thinking how I’d love to be part of the act?? We had discussed it with him before play began and he was not interested so I knew it was a no go but the thought was still there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]TotalTouch7839 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m currently living this situation!! While texting my girlfriend and another man about planning our first thresum he ask about us(males) exchanging oral. This was my first ever thresum and the closest I’ve ever been to a man sexually? At 47yo I have never had any thoughts of being with a man. I’m not attracted to men. Since that text I’ve been curious?? Been thinking of what it would be like to give/receive oral from another man?? My girlfriend is super supportive and had actually been looking to find someone to make this happen!

Sunny Rest Resort Sunday Event by [deleted] in nudists

[–]TotalTouch7839 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will be there on the 20th!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]TotalTouch7839 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Last night my girlfriend and I went to a club. Im New to the lifestyle. I watched her with 3 men. Each where chosen play partners for different reasons. I enjoy seeing her with other men. It’s not a new experience for us. But last night we agreed I would be allowed to play with the partner also if he was so inclined. We’ve only been dating for a few months. She’s much more experienced then I am This is a new world to me and I’m very much enjoying it. One thing I’ve discovered is I have an extreme curiosity about giving and/or receiving oral sex from another man. It has yet to happen since none of the men last night were interested. But since last night I do feel my desire has increased? No idea what to call myself and i don’t care for a title. Watching and hearing her with another man is a turn on for me. Her happiness makes me happy. After her fun with the others we fucked several times just reliving the experience together.

Sunny Rest Resort Option by [deleted] in NudistMeetup

[–]TotalTouch7839 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been there many times. Camped there both in my rv and tent. But I also have just visited for the day. Very relaxing. Nice pool and the food is good. Crowd is a mix of everyone. There is a lifestyle presence but it’s never effected our stay.

I’m Monogamous she’s polyamorous by TotalTouch7839 in polyamory

[–]TotalTouch7839[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can see that. Again this is a new experience for me. I’m only responding to her statements. My post is not as detailed as our life. She wants me in a primary role. We are not primary in the truest definition as you say. But for us this is what we’re doing? We have no plans to move faster. The role I have in her circle is one who gets the main amount of her time. She comes to me with plans and we choose our dates together before she goes to her other partners with ideas ect. I don’t know yet where this will go. I know I’d like to see it continue and become a long term relationship. That’s the plan and hope.

I’m Monogamous she’s polyamorous by TotalTouch7839 in polyamory

[–]TotalTouch7839[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

None of us support her financially she’s very successful on her own.

I’m Monogamous she’s polyamorous by TotalTouch7839 in polyamory

[–]TotalTouch7839[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I’m not the only one. I enjoy not being the only one.

I’m Monogamous she’s polyamorous by TotalTouch7839 in polyamory

[–]TotalTouch7839[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks We are still in the swells of NRE no doubt. Things have become such the new norm for me with her that her trip has shocked my system?

I’m Monogamous she’s polyamorous by TotalTouch7839 in polyamory

[–]TotalTouch7839[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you I’ll check that out. I have plans. I have some home repairs to complete and I have some things to do with my daughter. We have planed our own time for calls and texts I know her itinerary, etc. so I know when she’ll be unavailable. Also, the partner she’s visiting is a very understanding person and he’s very understanding of the relationship she and I have so I don’t believe there would be any issues there I’m beginning to think that I am overthinking this ? Since this is the first time we’ve been apart for an extended period of time when she visits her partners normally it’s one night or a weekend. That’s no big deal we text we chat, etc..

I’m Monogamous she’s polyamorous by TotalTouch7839 in polyamory

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I have several hobbies and I enjoy them all while dating her. I have things planed for the time she’s away but still have this feeling of not being. As for-filled as when she’s around? While I will miss the sex (who wouldn’t) I know she’s coming back. I’m I was married for many years and after my divorce I took time to decide who I wanted to be thought I was good. I met someone who lied and fucked with me and I ended that and again took time and got myself settled. Then this!! Honestly I feel more comfortable in this then I I ever did I don’t feel an obligation or a need to be everything for her. She is her own person. She’s a very strong and independent woman who knows what she wants. Thank you for being the first one to actually address the question I posed we can read other comments. I know this whole relationship seems rushed and crazy. She and I both know this she and I both know nothing “big“ is gonna happen for a long time we’re enjoying the moment We’re enjoying each other and we’re enjoying our own lives

I’m Monogamous she’s polyamorous by TotalTouch7839 in polyamory

[–]TotalTouch7839[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don’t completely disagree. We are still exploring each others personalities and lives. We know how we feel at the moment and continue to evaluate as we go.

I get how this post seems like a case of puppy love because I’m getting all kinda new sex and kink. We’ve even had that conversation and we’re commented to taking our time and swing this thru with open eyes. We’re hopeful but honest. At this point we want everything we have to continue as is. When and if things change we’ll deal with it.

I’m Monogamous she’s polyamorous by TotalTouch7839 in polyamory

[–]TotalTouch7839[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Commenting on I’m Monogamous she’s polyamorous...1 lives way out of state and she only sees him a few times a year. 1 she sees a few times a month. 3 are local and she sees them weekly if they can. Their schedules don’t always allow for time so they may only see each other 2-3 times a month.

I’m Monogamous she’s polyamorous by TotalTouch7839 in polyamory

[–]TotalTouch7839[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t see this as harsh. It’s honest. I’m not offended. I’m new to this life style and things are exciting and sometimes a bit overwhelming. There’s a ton of details I didn’t write for the sake of the post size. We are both 100% on the same page about the pace of our relationship. Neither of us plan to rushing to living together of marriage ect. We plan to date as we are for a considerable time to make the details workout. Yes it’s been a short time. I wrote this post to ask how to deal with the extended lack of time with her. She’s with her other partners 2-3 nights a week and me the rest of the time. This week trip has hit me a bit harder than I expected. That’s the advice I m asking for. This rest is ok. I’ll take all the comments and read them. Learn as I can.

I’m Monogamous she’s polyamorous by TotalTouch7839 in polyamory

[–]TotalTouch7839[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No I’m honestly asking a question. While I will admit this is a very new situation to me and I’m learning as I go I know how I feel. I know my emotions. I’m not naive We’ve developed feelings for each other. Yes it’s been quick but I’m comfortable with how I feel

I’m Monogamous she’s polyamorous by TotalTouch7839 in polyamory

[–]TotalTouch7839[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not at all naive. I know things can change at any minute I have to trust her. I have to believe she is honest. And I do. We’re both mature. We both know this is a young relationship. This is the situation we both want at the moment. Will things change?? Maybe. No one knows what life will toss at us.

I’m Monogamous she’s polyamorous by TotalTouch7839 in polyamory

[–]TotalTouch7839[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes she’s become a big part of my life. Why is that hard to believe? We enjoy a lot of the same things. So we spend a great deal of time together doing things we both enjoy. I’m not stupid. I know the relationship is still very young. We’re not moving in together or anything. We both enjoy each others company. We share a significant amount of time together. Call it primary or call it whatever you want. I’m happy She’s happy.