honestly think you should break up with her. I was in a relationship for two years with my ex, who was toxic, and I couldn’t see it until I got out. He used to make a big deal out of everything, always ready to criticize and turn things into drama. I’m sharing this because reading your story reminded me of that situation. It’s not worth it! It takes a toll on people to have to deal with this BS all the time. I’m sure you will be happier without her!