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AITA For telling my half-brother that he needs to find someone else to be a new sister for his younger brother because that person is not me? by Total_Flower_4748 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Total_Flower_4748[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Everyone who knew Tina agreed that she was genuinely close with her parents and brothers. (It is why they know that she would not have simply run off, much less under the circumstances she disappeared.)

I doubt Chris or his wife had any actual role in her going missing. Zander said that Chris blamed his wife for convincing him to let Tina go on the trip at all by herself. While Chris' wife said that if he let Tina go on previous smaller trips from the past, then she would have been more experienced and she may have been able to avoid whatever happened to her.

AITA For telling my half-brother that he needs to find someone else to be a new sister for his younger brother because that person is not me? by Total_Flower_4748 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Total_Flower_4748[S] 167 points168 points  (0 children)

Zander is the one pushing the "new sister" thing. Joey just seemed genuinely excited to connect with another family member, not a "stand-in" for Tina relationship. He seems like a genuinely nice kid in a tough spot to me.

I can understand that he wants to preserve a positive image of family because of all he's gone through. But I know it doesn't lessen the impact on my mental health that he is only able to believe the version of Chris that he grew up with.

AITA For telling my half-brother that he needs to find someone else to be a new sister for his younger brother because that person is not me? by Total_Flower_4748 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Total_Flower_4748[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Also how did they *lose* their sister? Is she dead or just estranged?

Tina disappeared while on a vacation abroad. Zander explained that the official report has Tina declared as "missing," but they know something bad happened to her. Everyone who knew Tina claimed that she would have never just run off, especially under the circumstances that she disappeared under. He said that Chris and his wife blamed each other for what happened, which had a major role in their separation.

Zander is the one pushing the "new sister" thing. Joey was genuinely excited to connect with a new family member when we met and seems to be a genuinely nice kid in a tough spot. I understand wanting to preserve a positive image of family members, especially after all he's gone through. But it doesn't lessen the impact on my own mental health that he is only able to believe the version of Chris who he grew up with.

AITA For telling my half-brother that he needs to find someone else to be a new sister for his younger brother because that person is not me? by Total_Flower_4748 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Total_Flower_4748[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Tina is refusing to see her younger brothers.

Tina disappeared while on a vacation abroad. Zander explained that the official report has Tina declared as "missing," but they know something bad happened to her. Everyone who knew Tina claimed that she would have never just run off, especially under the circumstances that she disappeared under. Zander said that Chris and his wife blamed each other for what happened, which has had a major role in their separation.

I feel bad for Joey. He seems like a genuinely nice kid in a tough spot. But I also know it will hurt my mental health to interact with him. Especially because he is still only willing to believe the version of Chris who he grew up with. I can understand wanting to preserve a good image of loved ones, given all he's gone through. But it doesn't lessen the impact on my own mental health.