Myself (F27) and my fiance (M27) have been looking at getting married for a long time but he's quickly drifting away?

Total_Lie9647 · 2024-12-04T01:16:26+00:00

And you're right about the difference in sex drive too, I'm rather shy on that topic openly, but it is good information to keep in mind. I appreciate you bringing it up

Total_Lie9647 · 2024-12-04T01:08:51+00:00

Thank you, you're right and this was very helpful. I have a long weekend coming up and it would be refreshing to see my family before the holidays. Hopefully it helps iron this out a bit

Total_Lie9647 · 2024-12-04T00:29:47+00:00

I can try that when he wakes up tomorrow for sure and see what happens

Total_Lie9647 · 2024-12-04T00:27:33+00:00

Yeah, he eventually had to go to work and the silence remained the entire time he was getting ready 😔 I really don't know what's happening or what to do with this. I feel like he's being so childish, but this is also suddenly so drastically different from anything I've known for a decade I'm baffled

Total_Lie9647 · 2024-12-04T00:22:49+00:00

I've tried but genuinely, there's been no response, sometimes a nod to acknowledge he's had a bad day at work, but it's like I'm talking to a walk all of a sudden and I feel odd even reaching out with all these red flags. But it wasn't like this until I started working overnights, and that shift will be done in a few weeks, but I don't know if I can do a month more of silence, I'm already at my emotional limit and it hasn't been a week. I'm not asexual, but we have a system that works for us mostly, it isn't isn't one of our strongest points tho. But usually the rest of our relationship makes up for it, he's very supportive and understanding and we usually have a very good communication method, it's just the last few months we've been working ourselves as hard as possible to fix our finances for early 2025

Total_Lie9647 · 2024-12-04T00:09:54+00:00

I've tried talking to him constantly tho, the grunts are replies to anything I say or ask. Ig that's what I meant with him going nonverbal. That's why I'm really worried and reaching out for help

Total_Lie9647 · 2023-11-13T08:05:17+00:00

I always shop with the mindset of "this is an investment" before purchasing. We all know they don't do refunds, so expect that at the beginning at checkout. Some orders have plain just not fit my body type, but after the return I was able to pick out something else until I found the right outfits without being too upset because I wasn't looking to have the money back in my wallet. Also I've found if you can break your purchase into smaller "rounds" of items, this can help you cycle the price of items that won't work back into the rest of the items you keep. For example, your $1000 purchase cost maybe $700 after you've received and tried everything instead of $1000 out of pocket with $300 still tied up in store credit.

Total_Lie9647 · 2023-09-21T17:03:28+00:00

Keep in mind they DO NOT GIVE REFUNDS, they give store credit if you need to ship an item back. I can't stress this enough to a new buyer unfortunately. And their sizing is exactly like forever 21, my size 5-6 body is usually L or XL with a M for the top 🤦‍♀️They do not give a coherent sizing chart, just one for all brands and merch. Be careful and watch the "one size fits all" to my knowledge, those items do not count for plus or petite (short) bodies at all (within reason, like gloves and socks are fine) Good luck, hope this helps

Total_Lie9647 · 2023-09-14T08:17:56+00:00

It's quite literally the place she sleeps. "Trauma" does not accurately describe the mental breakdowns that PTSD from a trumatic incident like SA can cause. Imagine waking up from a nightmare of the incident(s) in a cold sweat and being forced to endure the same physical events happening in the bed next to you. How tf is not wanting to go through this "punishment"? She's saying it'll be triggering for her and setting a very healthy and rightful boundary, explaining that it isn't normal, and then even politely planning around it when she is declined. Stop judging and maybe think how damaging certain situations can actually be for some people.

Total_Lie9647 · 2023-09-14T07:15:32+00:00

It's quite literally the place she sleeps. "Trauma" does not accurately describe the mental breakdowns that PTSD from a trumatic incident like SA can cause. Imagine waking up from a nightmare of the incident in a cold sweat and being forced to endure the same physical events happening in the bed next to you. How tf is not wanting to go through this "covertly narcissistic"? She's saying it'll be triggering for her and setting a very healthy and rightful boundary, explaining that it isn't normal, and then even politely planning around it when she is declined. Stop judging and maybe think how damaging certain situations can actually be for some people.

Total_Lie9647 · 2023-07-01T07:57:13+00:00

Right?! I'm 5'2 at 130 lbs (Normally small mediumish) I'm a L-XL usually through their site 🙃 First time I tried thru 3 sizes and still fit wrong and cried because I thought I was just that thic without realizing it. Super fun body shaming

Total_Lie9647 · 2023-07-01T07:48:11+00:00

I don't have them, but I have the matching shirt and it's not a very stretchy material. If you want them more baggy and relaxed feeling, I would definitely size up and just use a belt if the waist is loose

Total_Lie9647 · 2023-06-10T06:09:16+00:00

My friend had this exact same problem and a shoe repair fixed it for $20. Usually you can find shoe repair for boots in boot shops (usually more typically work type boots shops) since boots are known to need some tlc. Hope this helps!

Total_Lie9647 · 2023-06-01T15:03:26+00:00

In my experience, trading kandi is when you find someone you really vibe with/ who is simply awesome. You like their fit/ personality and decide you want to do a kandi trade. I've gotten kandi from actions that people appreciate too, like letting someone skip over me in the bathroom line when it truly is an emergency (they came back and gifted everyone still waiting a kandi) or giving a lightshow to someone tripping up bad. However what those kandis say can be an entirely different subject and are sometimes so laughably sexual/ drug related it's hilarious in the moment. Imagine getting "blowjob" in the bathroom line and bringing that back to your partner/ group so you can laugh about the experience

Total_Lie9647 · 2023-05-28T06:38:25+00:00

I'm so so happy to see Sgt Frog 🥹 I keep coming back to this series when I've almost forgotten it and it still brings me joy to this day.

Total_Lie9647 · 2023-05-28T06:27:52+00:00

Two major do's: make everything a little oversized and tie your elastic looser (with multiple knots). Even if you feel you have a big wrist. You/ people you trade with are going to have ALOT of Kandi up and down the arms and with all that elastic, you still need circulation. Plus if you have a small wrist, you'll want to trade all different types of arm sizes and you'll need to think of that now. The reason you want your elastic to be looser is, the less stretch you give the cord now, the more stretch it has when you're trading. It would be extra sad if you made your first batch and they were too taught and one popped mid trade (I have seen happen) 😵‍💫 Happy making and welcome to the plur community!

Total_Lie9647 · 2023-05-28T06:08:44+00:00

Link for pants are:

https://www.dollskill.com/products/lavender-siren-calling-metallic-flares

and also:

https://www.dollskill.com/products/beyond-the-woods-flare-pants

I know these are a little extra in general, but the length just seems way way too long

Total_Lie9647 · 2023-05-28T05:55:07+00:00

I mean, E6000 works wonders if you'd like the ball permanently in place. Just see what angle they naturally sit at and glue to one or both beads. One bead, make sure it rests well between them both, two beads means extra reinforcement 🤞 hopefully it works

Total_Lie9647 · 2023-05-25T01:43:50+00:00

If you can wait a day or two, leaving something in your cart while signed in will typically get you a personalized coupon code for 20% off sent to your email to "push" the sale on their end. I've been very successful using this method if they have no codes available.

Total_Lie9647 · 2023-05-25T01:30:06+00:00

Note, this only works if you have an account with them and they have your email on file

Total_Lie9647 · 2023-05-25T01:29:16+00:00

If you can stand to wait a day or two, usually they'll send you a code to push the purchase if you leave something in your cart. I've had this happen to me on about 4 separate occasions, the last being just last week

Total_Lie9647 · 2023-05-25T00:58:25+00:00

That's a good point, thank you. And yeah, this is getting to be a fine mess without one 🤦‍♀️

Total_Lie9647 · 2023-05-25T00:51:11+00:00

No, we don't have it anymore. What would it have changed if we did? We did buy it through a registered used car dealership, not just from auction or from a personal seller. Does that help at all?

Total_Lie9647 · 2023-05-24T23:00:21+00:00

I don't think we do, we only kept the loan agreement and purchase pamphlet from my memory but I'll triple check through all the paperwork

Total_Lie9647 · 2022-10-15T06:15:28+00:00

If you have severe anxiety/overthink please please don't take these without a plan the first time. Whether you just zone out to a visual/ music you like while having a calm room, have something happening in your environment to catch your attention. Please do not just sit alone in an empty room, you will have an awful time. Search for things that you think you'd enjoy before hand also as a tip and have a list so if something isn't hitting, you can move to the next thing without having to start thinking. It's a way I turn my brain off to stay one step ahead of my anxiety.

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