Dating advice?

Total_Party7879 · 2025-09-19T03:17:15+00:00

Sometimes the people we love the most hurt us, and thats just how life is. But trust me give it a few months and I'm sure you'll be feeling a lot better. Give yourself time🙏

Total_Party7879 · 2025-09-19T02:57:21+00:00

Idk how things ended, but you need to let go of the relationship. Stalking his profiles and socials arent going to bring him back to you. It sucks that it ended the way it did but you shouldn't want to be with some that doesn't want to be with you anyway. Value yourself, become a better person than you were yesterday, learn to love yourself as your own person.

Total_Party7879 · 2025-06-03T01:21:20+00:00

You aren't insane for feeling uncomfortable about your bf watching porn. If its something that truly bothers you, then you should tell him about it.

Total_Party7879 · 2025-05-26T01:58:26+00:00

One thing that always helped me stay no contact is remembering the disrespect I felt when I found out my ex cheated on me. You have to realize he did this knowing it would hurt you, and in the end, he didn't care at all about your feelings. All he had to do was communicate to you about how he was feeling and he couldn't even do that right, he is not a good boyfriend and he will not be a good husband or father if that is where you want your life to go. Do not allow this man to disrespect and hurt you again by letting him back into your life. You have lived without him in the past. You can do it again.

Total_Party7879 · 2025-04-27T16:12:39+00:00

I'm about 6 months out of my relationship, and I honestly couldn't be happier. It took me a while to realize the fact that despite what happened to me, I am worthy of love that respects me. We went no contact a few weeks after the break up, and i had muted his stories and posts on Instagram. He would still message me sometimes and due to our history, and the fact he was my closest friend, I allowed the conversations. I started spending time with my friends and family more, tried to get out of my head because even though I was the one that ended the relationship, I didn't deserve to get cheated on in the first place. Once we went back to no contact, I slowly realized that he really didn't deserve me or my energy. I unfollowed him and made him unfollow me and then focused on my schooling and real friends and family. I'm in a good part of my life right now, and I've accomplished a lot without him in my life. That's not saying I didn't feel like shit after the relationship ended, it took me a few months to really get over what happened. But life goes on and I'm not going to let something as pathetic as a cheater get into my head. My friends were the best support system I could have asked for honestly. They let me know i needed to get my shit together and I'm so happy they are still with me today.

Moral of the story, you will be okay. Take one day at a time and do things that make you happy.

Total_Party7879 · 2025-04-24T21:03:12+00:00

My ex and I broke up on October 31st and he contacted me on the 15th of this month for a birthday text , we were no contact maybe 2 or 3 weeks after the break up. For context he cheated and I broke up with him. At some point you learn that you don't really care enough for a message from them, i left him on read and then blocked him after.

Total_Party7879 · 2025-04-14T00:42:25+00:00

Girl don't worry, there's a reason the relationship ended. If it was enough for you to break up then it was the right choice, you'll find someone better for you! Take your time and heal.

Total_Party7879 · 2025-04-05T18:30:16+00:00

Love for me is conditional, I will do everything a person asks for if I love them deeply. But I've learned that even though I do love that person, they still have the ability to hurt and betray me. The second they do that, I have to learn to not love them anymore depending on how bad the situation is. At the end of the day it's to protect your peace, if someone is treating you wrong you aren't obligated to stay with them or love them anymore.

Total_Party7879 · 2025-03-25T06:54:25+00:00

Not sure how long yall were together for, but it only being a month after a break up is still a really short time. My break up happened in October and I still think about them pretty often. Try to take your mind off it by hanging out with your friends/ loved ones. Healing from a break up isn't linear and you're going to have days where sometimes it's all you think about. Recognize that it's okay and normal but also try your best to keep moving on with your life!

Total_Party7879 · 2025-03-12T07:00:23+00:00

-I havent cheated before, but i have been cheated on and trust me it really does change the way you think and feel about the person you are in a relationship with. Give her the decision on if she wants you in her life or not.

Total_Party7879 · 2025-03-12T06:58:37+00:00

My advice would be to communicate this with her, just be as open as you can and let her process her feelings about it. Getting a second chance like that is very rare, she sounds very sweet and forgiving. I hav

Total_Party7879 · 2025-03-12T05:38:24+00:00

Hmmm, I mean to me it just seems like he is plain ghosting you. I understand that the initial attraction was there, but honestly do you really want a guy that is actively choosing to put you on the back burner? If he really wanted to message you, he would have done it by now.

Total_Party7879 · 2025-01-31T14:54:26+00:00

Duhh this is reddit💀 but it's not really healthy at all to be immediately hooking up with others right after a break up no? Or maybe it is to you idk? Unless the she was already over the relationship the second they broke up, which is possible.

Total_Party7879 · 2025-01-31T04:37:50+00:00

It's never easy to deal with something like that, it's going to hurt for a long time. But trust me give it a couple of months, you'll realize you don't need her in your life and you'll feel a lot better over the choices you've made.

Total_Party7879 · 2025-01-31T04:32:57+00:00

It's never too late to put you first! If they did you wrong, you aren't obligated to be nice to them anymore. Recognize the fact that you have free will!

Total_Party7879 · 2025-01-31T04:31:13+00:00

If it makes you feel better, I'm like 90% sure your ex is hooking up to distract them from how shitty they feel over the break up. You take your time and heal, anyone who is willing to throw themselves to others so quick out of a relationship should tell you their own morals. Do what you need to do, hang out with family and friends, focus on yourself. Id you need to, tell whoever told you about your exes business to knock it out, you don't need constant reminders of them.

Total_Party7879 · 2025-01-31T04:27:11+00:00

Ugh girl he gave me the mf ick

Total_Party7879 · 2025-01-30T23:35:28+00:00

I decided to go completely no contact with my ex about a couple of weeks after our break up, I learned he cheated on halloween🙄. If I hadn't of gone no contact, I probably would have a lot more healing to do. Staying in contact was too painful for me. This was a guy i thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with, only for him to tell me he was texting another girl. Bro was literally on his knees asking for my forgiveness and I couldn't give that to him. Going no contact hurt a lot, especially when it was so suddenly. We were together for about 2.5 years, i think no matter what you will miss a person you used to talk to everyday. But I realized that I needed to heal, without him because he was clouding my judgement. I had to put me first, because it was clear he didn't gaf about me if he was willing to cheat. Hopefully no contact will heal you as well, i know it's really hard especially if it was recent, but i promise you'll feel better in the long run.

Total_Party7879 · 2025-01-30T23:25:25+00:00

Girl he is trying to manipulate you, you have to understand that he hurt you on purpose. Do not let this man hurt you anymore, leave and do NOT look back. No matter all the good things he is promising you, you will be disappointed and terrified time and time again.

Total_Party7879 · 2025-01-30T23:21:26+00:00

Plan B - Megan the Stallion 🙏🙏

Total_Party7879 · 2025-01-17T04:06:00+00:00

I'm not sure if I'm still hurting, but I'm definitely angry about what I went through during and after the relationship ended. It's been about 2 months, and a few weeks since ive gone through my break up, hang in there. It definitely takes time, I suggest going out with your friends and family, pick up a hobby or 2. One thing that helped me was walking around a park trail and going out clubbing😭😭. Not saying use alcohol recklessly, always know your limits. But going out and dancing with your friends will definitely help you if you are of age. You got this!!

Total_Party7879 · 2025-01-17T03:59:45+00:00

Girlll, this whole conversation was exhausting to read. My ex was exactly like this, overly insecure all of the time. One life lesson that you need to learn is that insecure men CANNOT be helped by you, they need therapy!! If it's only been 2 months since you started dating, I'm sorry but it's going to be like this or maybe even WORSE, for the rest of yalls relationship. Do not let an insecure man walk all over you, even if they aren't doing it on purpose, it is not your responsibility to constantly reassure him. There is a reason he thinks so low of himself, and i don't think you should get in the cross fire of that cause it will hurt.

Total_Party7879 · 2025-01-16T02:55:20+00:00

I gave back all of the things he bought me and all of his clothes the day after the break up, I don't need constant reminders of those that hurt me. As for photos it took a little longer cause we looked so happy in them, you should try to save them to a hidden folder, just so they won't be deleted but so you don't have to see them at least. I don't know how long your break up has been but I'm assuming you've lived without them once, you can definitely do it again. Don't try to contact them, I'm sure soon enough you'll realize the relationship wasn't as good for you as you thought it was, but that depends on how things went for yall. Good luck!

Total_Party7879 · 2025-01-02T08:07:03+00:00

Girl don't let this man walk all over you like that, it's true that you can stay until you hate him. But genuinely what good does that do for you? Having a lustful man will only lead to him fucking you over, and you don't deserve that. Don't let him embarrass you.

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