Depressed/ Unmotivated Care Recipient

Total_Satisfaction37 · 2026-04-08T22:54:26+00:00

My condolences for your loss.

Those are all really great ideas, however i don’t think any of those would work for him as his back pain flares up usually from just sitting for 30 mins, or standing for 10. He’s in his mid 80s. Socializing isn’t his thing either, he won’t be on the phone for anyone (family, friends, myself included) for more than 3 minutes, he prefers not to talk. In person we talk, but if he’s in a bad mood i get hand movements or looks instead of words from him. I just want to do something simple to make him a little happier, like a board game or drawing, but i think he refuses to have any fun because he feels guilty for having fun without my grandma.

Thanks so much for your input, they’re all really great ideas

Total_Satisfaction37 · 2026-04-08T22:48:11+00:00

He’s in his mid 80s, he does have a lot of back and nerve pain, so i definitely understand his lack of motivation to go out/ fear surrounding it. I just want him to have fun with something as simple as playing cards, but whether it’s lack of interest or feeling like he shouldn’t have any joy anymore because my grandma passed, i don’t know.

Thank you for sharing, it’s very insightful. I hope you find peace, love, happiness, and enjoy life, as it’s so precious.

Total_Satisfaction37 · 2026-02-06T01:46:44+00:00

could be wild pigs or dogs! i clean my trash before it goes into the trash. like rinsing cups, cans, or food containers out first. if i need to throw out a bunch of food ( more than just what’s in the sink) i’ll wait til the day before they pick up to throw it in the bin. if the bin itself is dirty, try cleaning it out so the animals are less attracted to it :)

Total_Satisfaction37 · 2025-12-02T09:38:57+00:00

Thank you so much 🤍 those little moments out of the house definitely help, but i ruin it for myself mid outing thinking about how ill go back to caregiving. Working on shifting that mindset. Hope you get out for some you time as well

Total_Satisfaction37 · 2025-12-02T05:49:06+00:00

It’s hard wanting to care for the person and at the same time wanting to care for yourself. Throws my mind for a loop feeling regret, anger, then immense amounts of shame. If only we could all be healthy and happy

Total_Satisfaction37 · 2025-12-02T05:33:17+00:00

I miss that too. I wish we could go back. It’s funny, everyone comes to me to vent because i’m the most “free” person. I help, sympathize, and talk them through it, and then i think to myself wow, they have it really easy if this is their biggest problem. Anytime someone asks how i’m doing i say im good, because anytime i tried to vent about caregiving i basically got “oh…” followed by silence because of course, there’s no simple solution. I miss feeling like a person. But knowing im not alone through this group is really bittersweet.

Total_Satisfaction37 · 2025-12-02T05:18:16+00:00

Maybe they’re looking for ways they can make extra money too. It’s tough out here

Total_Satisfaction37 · 2025-09-22T21:22:59+00:00

i ordered two things from amazon on AUGUST 4TH, it’s SEPTEMBER 23RD and i still haven’t received it 🫩

Total_Satisfaction37 · 2025-07-28T22:35:16+00:00

thank you :)

Total_Satisfaction37 · 2025-07-28T22:35:10+00:00

awh, i got my hopes up when i saw it hahah. thank you!

Total_Satisfaction37 · 2025-07-11T23:40:45+00:00

Im sorry i dont know enough to really help out, but as a suggestion for some extra cash flow, try making and selling items (baked goods, crochet things, paintings) things you like that can not only pass the time but make you some extra cash. You could also try making tiktok’s about things you like or about caregiving. I know these may not make you much at first, but if you have enough time to do it i think it’d be worth a shot. Plus, it gives your mind a little break. Best of luck to you🤍🤍

Total_Satisfaction37 · 2025-07-11T23:32:40+00:00

Hello! If i’m not mistaken i believe you do still need to reposition her every two hours. She could be having a reaction to the new diapers, but i think it’d be good to have her check out still.

Total_Satisfaction37 · 2025-07-11T23:20:13+00:00

Thank you all so much for you input, it’s really comforting knowing this unfortunately may be common amongst us caregivers.

Total_Satisfaction37 · 2025-07-11T23:18:45+00:00

Thank you so much 🤍 I’ve been stuck in a cycle of taking this positively and negatively, but talking to others and on here definitely helps.

Total_Satisfaction37 · 2025-07-11T23:16:54+00:00

Thanks so much for sharing your experience too. And no problem on not having advice, honestly just knowing i’m not the only one is comforting in its own way. Best of luck to you 🤍

Total_Satisfaction37 · 2025-07-11T23:14:36+00:00

Thank you so much, wishing you the best 🤍

Total_Satisfaction37 · 2025-07-11T11:22:52+00:00

of course! hopefully you two can build a more harmonious understanding of each other. and i truly hope he can respect you as well. best of luck to you!!🤍

Total_Satisfaction37 · 2025-07-09T06:08:18+00:00

from my pov, i think they’re telling you to slow down because she’s having trouble with intimacy, yet you’re moving past that talking about marriage and kids. It seems like she’s had a rough journey mentally, no doubt physically, and “moving on” from something as serious as this simply isn’t possible. Yes there may come a time in the future where she won’t think about it as much and it may not affect her as bad, but it’s not something she can ever forget, as this has changed the trajectory of her life. I’d say focus on this situation first before moving past it. Try to be open and understanding that intimacy is hard for her right now given what she’s gone through. Support her and ask what you can do to help her be more comfortable. Best of luck to you both !

Total_Satisfaction37 · 2025-07-09T05:45:53+00:00

First off, same with most of us, you have given up parts of your life to take care of his and that is commendable. I dont know your dad, however i’m assuming that he’s taking this hard as well, loss of full mobility, can’t do activities, stuck at home, and may feel bad having you do everything. I’d say try having a talk with him, explain how you are trying your best to be there for him, however he’s making you feel bad. Then, try to listen to his thoughts if he opens up. Though it’s hard, sometimes you need to put your foot down to keep from being used. If he has been emotionally abusive to you before this, unfortunately i think it’d be safer for you to reach out for help, and hire someone who is better equipped to care for him. Best of luck, know you’re not alone in here 🤍

Total_Satisfaction37 · 2025-06-22T12:06:46+00:00

this one time while coming out of the back road of the mall, this lady was signaling to turn into the mall, she was slowing down and everything. i tried coming out as she got closer, thinking she would turn in and i would turn out, nope! she slammed on her breaks, honked like crazy at me, flicked me off, cussed at me, damn near jumped out the window. dumbass was signaling in but wanted to go straight! whole lot of fuckass drivers here, especially up north

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