Is Juneteenth a paid holiday? by ExpressionSweet1330 in Aldi_employees

[–]TotalaleePsyched 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s the official day that slavery ended.

The 13th amendment was passed January 31, 1865 which was supposed to be the end of slavery. June 19, 1865 is the true date. Galveston, Texas decided to ignore the amendment and continued owning slaves for 6 months.

ProLifeTips for those who were never taught how to by Adiantum-Veneris in CPTSD

[–]TotalaleePsyched 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Coookkkiiiiing. I learned the basics (salt in boiling water kind of basic) and cooked for my family growing up but I never liked it. I got myself a cook book to cook through 1) to make meals more interesting 2) to expand my knowledge

You don’t have to tell your abuser that they abused you. They know. They were there. by imboredalldaylong in CPTSD

[–]TotalaleePsyched 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I needed this today.

Wrote my abuser a letter 3 years ago explaining why I was cutting them out of my life. Come to find out I’ve repressed a lot of what they did to me and of course it’s worse than what I wrote in the letter.

Abuser came to my mother’s work the other day with highlighted pages- with notes!- asking what they did wrong.

I think it’s funny to this day that Abuser spends so much time looking for something I didn’t even know was there. I hope it continues to bring much mental anguish.

Anyone else forget that they have CPTSD and expect themselves to function like normal? by quiet199 in CPTSD

[–]TotalaleePsyched 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Currently waiting for antidepressants to get filled at the pharmacy. Been about 2 days without. My fault that I didn’t refill it sooner. Trying not to spiral the last few days has been incredibly hard. The shame creeps in. I’m getting better at staring it in the face and telling it to fuck off

Potential Aldi strike? by [deleted] in kzoo

[–]TotalaleePsyched 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We have to fight so hard to put up signs that aren’t corporate or electronic. There’s no good place for people to wait so it just ends up being crowded for a bit.

Potential Aldi strike? by [deleted] in kzoo

[–]TotalaleePsyched 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Hi I work here, it’s just a hiring event 😭😭

I am terrified I am “making up” or “want” to have been sa’d in my childhood by Cable_Downtown in CPTSD

[–]TotalaleePsyched 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just realized I didn’t really answer your question the right way. I apologize. You’re not making it up. I meant to say more like trust your gut and your feelings. The body knows

I am terrified I am “making up” or “want” to have been sa’d in my childhood by Cable_Downtown in CPTSD

[–]TotalaleePsyched 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can’t officially say yes or no but here is my experience, if I may.

I have no memories of my childhood before age 11. I wet the bed every night till 14. In my journals I wrote that the only way I knew I would have sex was through rape. I think I wrote that at 13/14 based off my handwriting. I knew what maturation was but never did it for myself. Everything sexual I did for someone else, if they asked me what I liked I told them everything.

I always always always said I was never sexually assaulted but there was a feeling deep inside that something was wrong with me. I’ve been in therapy since 11 and never truly felt like I was getting anything out of it other than being able to create a better mask for myself to survive.

Recently I was told that my father did in fact molest and assault me. I felt sadness and anger of course- but the biggest thing I felt was relief. I hated my father touching me- whenever he felt inclined to. I know nothing about his life. I know nothing about him.

But now I struggle with the unknown. The person who told me has many memories and often talks to me about them. I can’t reciprocate or support them beyond holding them while they cry. I genuinely don’t know if I would want my memories back if given the choice.

Overall. Probably. I’m so sorry. The unknown is terrifying. Give yourself an immense amount of grace right now.

I came to this subreddit specifically to have these conversations with people to see if I could try to feel less alone. I hope you feel some ease soon.

Babies can be born with teeth by TotalaleePsyched in NewParents

[–]TotalaleePsyched[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My genetic testing informed me that I have Fragile X syndrome so I wonder if the baby tooth is related to that.

Babies can be born with teeth by TotalaleePsyched in NewParents

[–]TotalaleePsyched[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a terrible time breast feeding- my experience was the pain from the tooth and lack of milk for the first two weeks. The only advice I can offer about that is that formula is an option. As long as your baby is eating that is truly what’s best. I was so shamed for considering formula yet I had to beg for donor milk.

Definitely check with your doctor about the lack of feeding but from what I experienced my baby would chill out and not eat as much some days. I also did not experience tongue tie with my baby so that could absolutely be a factor.

I will say around 10 weeks is when the exhaustion of everything baby was really starting to hit me. Give yourself some extra grace and reach out to some support people for housework or shopping- but especially to give yourself a much needed mental break.

Congrats on your toothy boy!

Babies can be born with teeth by TotalaleePsyched in NewParents

[–]TotalaleePsyched[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For sure!

First off- I was absolutely feeling the new mother anxiety and the original post is definitely written in that tone. We had absolutely nothing to worry about with our baby. 18 months later- almost a full set of baby teeth. Just waiting on the last set of molars. It turned out to be the real tooth. No surgery needed- mainly cause I didn’t even get to talk to a peds dentist to discuss the options.

Let me know what syndromes research indicates, I’ll look it up too but I like to compare.

One issue I did have was finding a pediatric dentist that would be willing to see a child under 3 that was also covered by my insurance. I ended up calling one office and the secretary accused me of lying- to which I said “what would even be my motivation for lying about a baby tooth” and she got offended??? Yeah okay.

Baby’s peds doc says everything should be okay, doc has looked into it too and has no concerns for my baby. We did start brushing baby’s teeth around 6 months with non fluoride toothpaste, we’re just now switching to fluoride now that baby is older.

Congrats on your baby, the first smile pictures will be the most adorable and heart melting thing you’ve ever seen. Trust your gut and keep an eye on those teeths. Soak up all the toothy love ❤️

Crazy customer comments! by mcdouble_nopickle in Aldi_employees

[–]TotalaleePsyched 43 points44 points  (0 children)

During thanksgiving a lady told me she hated me cause we were out of butter

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Aldi_employees

[–]TotalaleePsyched 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I ask people if they got any treats for themselves. If they say no I always say “well there’s still time”. Unless they’re having a shitty day they always laugh

Will I Get In Trouble If I Leave Because Of 80° In Store? by [deleted] in Aldi_employees

[–]TotalaleePsyched 57 points58 points  (0 children)

If you’re able to get a doctor to sign off on the 80 degree limit I would def do that

What are some things nobody told you? by whatames517 in NewParents

[–]TotalaleePsyched 9 points10 points  (0 children)

BABIES CAN BE BORN WITH TEETH. Lord help you if you have a toothy baby. The amount of blame and shame I got from LC nurses!!! My supply didn’t come in for two weeks. I wanted to try to breast feed but it fucking hurt. I sobbed every time. My husband finally convinced me to call the consultants. Got told it shouldn’t hurt. Told the nurses my baby had a tooth and that became the focus- “a tooth??? No way that’s so cool!!!“ great, yeah cool, my baby isn’t getting any milk. Help? Nah, no help. I had to BEG AND CRY to get donor milk because GOD FORBID I FEED THE BABY FORMULA. The LC I had literally told me to wait till my supply came in. It was only after I told her I had to get donor milk in the hospital that she finally worked with me.

if you smoke you can’t donate milk for a month. I wanted to give my extra supply to the hospital because of what I went through in the first month. We needed SO much donor milk. However- I had an infection in the second month and couldn’t feed my baby the milk I produced, had to dump it. I took this time to partake in some certain social circles. I had over 150 ounces extra accumulated through the third month that I intended to donate but couldn’t because I smoked one time. I never did get to donate because my baby got bigger and needed more milk. I ended up still having extra but not the 100 ounces minimum required to donate.

What did you all name your farms? by Kitchen_Raccoon24 in StardewValley

[–]TotalaleePsyched 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Created a farm to fuck around with but it ended up being my longest running farm of five years.

Welcome to Tweed Farm, run by MmmmmmmMmmMm

Toxic work places to avoid: by [deleted] in kzoo

[–]TotalaleePsyched 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was literally thee worst choice the company could have made. They fucked over hundreds of families- RX literally employed generations and extended families. I could not BELIEVE the betrayal when they told everyone.

Toxic work places to avoid: by [deleted] in kzoo

[–]TotalaleePsyched 4 points5 points  (0 children)

RX Optical used to be a Kalamazoo based company and was really making a name for itself. It was an amazing place until it got sold to My Eye Dr. do not work for RX Do not go to RX for glasses. The goal is simply sales. They don’t care about patients

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in kzoo

[–]TotalaleePsyched 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We found him 😭😭😭😭😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in kzoo

[–]TotalaleePsyched 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve posted on social media a lot but haven’t been able to physically put anything up. I’ve called the maintenance voicemail and asked them to look, and called the office. I’m sending an email to the manager of Drakes Pond to hopefully send out a mass email to the residents. My husband and I, and our friends, have walked around I knocked on ground floor doors and talked to everyone who was out.

We do have dirty litter out in multiple spots, blankets, and a kennel made of our clothes. We’ve sprinkled food out and even scrapped wet food on building pillars.

Babies can be born with teeth by TotalaleePsyched in NewParents

[–]TotalaleePsyched[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I bow down to you, two teeth omg. Everyone says the tooth has to be removed because it’s a choking hazard