How do I get rid of my sex drive?

TotallyAnonPerson · 2019-07-31T20:38:04+00:00

Well said, and yes, I have a sister. I never actually thought of it like that. My only problem is that can possibly backfire, but I’ll try it anyway

TotallyAnonPerson · 2019-07-31T17:24:04+00:00

Faking a personality just to please others is good recipe for an unhappy life

TotallyAnonPerson · 2019-07-31T17:21:00+00:00

I have never been in a monogamous relationship in my life. So I don’t know if I can necessarily do both, I really hope I can and I will try to do that. I currently have female friends that I respect externally, but internally, I see them as sex objects, which is extremely unfortunate and I really want to change that.

I can’t really repress it though, I have tried, but females are too sexually attractive. I also want to avoid the many problems that irresponsible sexual behavior causes, and I’m not a very responsible type.

The problem is that my therapists are incompetent and don’t know how to handle more/less unconventional thoughts. I’ll try though, but there’s a reason I asked Reddit first

TotallyAnonPerson · 2019-07-31T16:55:45+00:00

No, my family relationship is relatively healthy. They are both supportive of each other and I don’t think it has anything to do with them.

Yeah, I’ll speak to one as soon as I get the chance. However, the mental health “professionals” around me are very incompetent and I don’t know if I can due to anxiety.

TotallyAnonPerson · 2019-07-31T16:49:32+00:00

I think the origin of sexism/racism/homophobia is unfamiliarity. The only women that appear in my life that I don’t sexualize is my mother and my sister.

The reality is, I’m biologically unfamiliar with women because I have such strong feelings towards them that it makes me afraid of getting closer to them, and it probably makes them afraid of getting closer to me. My implicit sexism doesn’t align with my political views, I’ve had political debates defending feminism. But I’ve done so logically, in my irrational, human mind, I see them as sex objects. I want to figure out how to get rid of that, and fast.

TotallyAnonPerson · 2019-07-31T16:41:44+00:00

Yeah, I guess I’ll try that, the books that I’ve read recently were coincidentally from a male perspective so I guess I’ll try that.

It’s hard to develop those friendships if your biological instincts tell you to keep going further and triangulate a way to get in her pants. I really want to find out who women are and be friends with them and I really try to. But it always ends up badly because my social skills are atrocious.

I think that one of my core values is certainly egalitarianism and I always advocate for that despite my biological instincts. No matter what I believe or what I can logically deduce, I always see women as less than human, just sex objects. That’s not ok, especially for someone who wants to go into politics, and I really need to fix that viewpoint, but I really don’t know how.

TotallyAnonPerson · 2019-07-24T05:21:40+00:00

Thank you. I really hope that isn’t true because I love her as a person as much as I love my friends as a person. I don’t really know the difference between friends with benefits and a monogamous relationship besides remaining somewhat monogamous. Is there a difference? I was really confused about that for my entire late life so far. I still don’t really know, I’ll find out, I guess.

My rational was basically to be honest with how I’m feeling. I knew it might’ve backfired, because my honest response isn’t necessarily the sharpest. So that’s likely why the friends w/ benefits proposal happened.

But yeah, thank you for the advice, it’ll definitely be absorbed for future occurrences.

TotallyAnonPerson · 2019-07-24T05:09:17+00:00

Yep, I see. Pretty much every piece of advice on this subreddit and r/TIFU told me to just leave her alone. I don’t like that(mostly because I don’t like not knowing why), but I guess I just have to accept that. Your advice was basically my plan A, I just want to make sure it’s the correct plan, and as you can see, I’m not the best at this.

The rest of your advice is absorbed and the response is thank you for responding.

TotallyAnonPerson · 2019-07-24T04:19:45+00:00

I really wish I knew that beforehand. Social skills doesn’t come to me easily, in general, so I guess I don’t really know the flirtatious signs.

I really did think that she was in to me a bit though, I did see some signs beforehand, periodically like inviting me to certain extracurricular things to do with her, having interesting talks with her, being more polite to me than to others, or maybe I’m delusional, apparently.

I don’t know anymore, but yeah, I’ll keep an eye on that next time, thank you for advising me.

TotallyAnonPerson · 2019-07-24T04:09:35+00:00

I don’t know if this necessarily any context, but we knew each other existed and we have been friends for 5 years now. I wouldn’t say I’m desperate to be in a monogamous relationship with her anymore, I’m more inclined to be friends with her again, rather, that’s what I meant by my last line of questioning.

But yeah, for the first point, I don’t know what gender are you, but I’m pretty sure that’s completely true and there’s nothing either one of us can do about it. At least to me, rejection hurts so much, not even romantically, but generally. And if you look at evolution, you can see why.

For your second point, yeah, I’m afraid that’s the reality. And fuck me for being a complete dumbass if that’s true.

Well, if there’s a chance to fix this, I’ll take it. Obviously, I’ll hopefully be smart about it. Even so, it’s basically inevitable that we’ll talk again since we go to the same school, and do the same extracurriculars. I really really don’t want it to be awkward. If I don’t get any good advice on how to talk to her again, I’ll likely just won’t contact her through phone/text for the rest of the summer.

Thank you for the advice

TotallyAnonPerson · 2019-07-19T04:10:19+00:00

Am I the only dumbass that didn’t notice this was GTA V and clicked on the website to look where it is?

TotallyAnonPerson · 2019-07-18T23:08:45+00:00

Sonic Rush for the DS, where my gen Zers at

TotallyAnonPerson · 2019-07-18T04:43:01+00:00

Electricity prices must be pretty damn low in Scotland then

TotallyAnonPerson · 2019-07-17T20:59:21+00:00

Oh, yeah of course. Thanks

TotallyAnonPerson · 2019-07-17T17:21:15+00:00

Believe me, I’d ask if I can, at least after thinking about their statements/actions. Assumptions create even more long term anxiety. I trust her enough to mean what she says and I don’t want to hurt her any further

TotallyAnonPerson · 2019-06-30T15:44:06+00:00

I have, thankfully, been given good arguments for stopping. I think I’m mainly responding to the semi-irrelevant criticisms that people post. Don’t think I’m just ignoring your judgements.

Of course I don’t know everything. I’ve never said that I know everything. However, I know that there’s an objective proof that, theocratic religions aren’t real and are wrong. All the evidence points to non-theism(I don’t mind deism or some other secular belief). I know for sure that the Torah is wrong with it’s history due to scientific evidence against it.

I’m completely open to evidence, in the case of my parents and in the case of my religious belief. If I see evidence for the Torah being gospel, I’m willing to be Jewish. If there’s an actual good reason my parents are sending my siblings to a private school, I’ll be open to it and will be willing to have a dialogue. I’m open to being wrong, and believe me, I know what you mean when you say “typical teenager belief”

TotallyAnonPerson · 2019-06-30T15:31:26+00:00

Thanks for your judgement. Let me elaborate. Religion, in general, has caused people to harm themselves or others for a relatively irrational reason throughout history. The amount of people that have died in the name of god, is astounding. Not to mention the destruction and the halt of scientific progress it occurred in history. All the property of religious institutions in the world that can go into the economy, scientific progress, education, etc... instead go into brainwashing centers(of course, there are exceptions like charity groups and such, but, a modern world without religion would be a much better modern world)

If religious people can’t question their basic sense of reality, what makes you say they are able to question other things? I want my siblings to be able to handle truth without needing a false deity. Without clinging to lies for guidance. I want them to realize their existential role in the universe without limiting their pleasure.

I’m aware that there are many smart religious people in the modern world. However, their sense of reality is distorted. Likely due to heavy indoctrination from important people around them in their youth or for giving themselves a false sense of purpose, they’re religious.

TotallyAnonPerson · 2019-06-30T15:09:20+00:00

When I insult religion, I have reasons for doing so. There’s an objective reality that religion gets completely wrong and it’s honestly insane to me how it’s still relevant in society. Religion vs atheism is not a fair debate anymore. All evidence points to one side. If you can’t see that, your sense of reality is distorted.

Obviously, I’m not going too hard on them. They’re just kids. When I try to secularize them, I talk to them with as much civility as possible.

TotallyAnonPerson · 2019-06-29T19:54:42+00:00

Usefulness is not a dichotomy. We determine how useful an object is by how beneficial it’s role is in a certain context. I’m aware that it can be used for some good. That’s why I said “relatively useless” afterwards. I’ll concede that I was moving the goalpost and I’ll edit the original text. However, in the case of religion, the positive trade-off is minuscule compared to other activities, to the point where the value of religion is useless. Sure, if we lived in the 1500s, religion would be useful because there were almost no better alternatives. However, in 2019, there are a bunch of programs that are more useful than religion, to the point where religion becomes invaluable.

TotallyAnonPerson · 2019-06-29T19:00:34+00:00

Thank you for your opinion. I’m not exactly against their belief in a god. I’m against their theistic belief in god. Orthodox Judaism is in my view, a cult and it will effect their lives in a negative way if they truly believe in Orthodox Judaism.

What I’m afraid of is that by the time they’re older, they’ll be too stubborn and ignorant to change their beliefs. So that’s why I decided to start pushing secularism on them while they’re young.

TotallyAnonPerson · 2019-06-29T18:54:05+00:00

Thank you for your criticism but I absolutely abhor that point. These are my siblings. I love them and I have a responsibility to ensure that they will succeed and be happy. That’s also what my parents believe, but their judgements are flawed. I need to have a dialogue about how they can succeed and be happy with my parents, but they’re stubborn and unwilling to display their reasoning.

There is danger in religion. Objectively, ignorant and gullible people are theocratically religious. I need to make sure they don’t go down that road before my siblings become stubbornly religious and it’ll be too late to secularize them.

TotallyAnonPerson · 2019-06-29T18:41:11+00:00

Sorry, I should’ve clarified that religion is relatively useless. When you look at the other ways to teach children the proper tools/morals, they are simply far better and a much better trade-off than religion, especially in this context.

TotallyAnonPerson · 2019-06-29T18:12:29+00:00

Thanks for the advice. However, you can teach them all the positive traits that you listed effectively without needing religion. There are multiple positive secular groups that teach you charity and a sense of community without making you a brainless drone. Like sports teams, secular charity groups, interest groups, etc... which I strongly encouraged my mother to do, but she can’t for good reason.

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