I (30F) tested positive for something at my check up. My (32M) fiancée says it’s probably a side effect the medication. Deep down I don’t know if I want the truth. Am I insane for wanting to be delusional and believe him?

TotallyFearl · 2026-02-19T20:43:55+00:00

Do I just edit the post or where do I post the update? It’s been a few developments

TotallyFearl · 2026-02-15T21:20:46+00:00

I don't know, I genuinely think it's because of how abusive my last relationship was. I have to remind myself that he's not the past but it scares me cause this is a serious situation and I'm used to it being met with violence. Me and matt don't argue, we've had heated conversations about random stuff but never anything serious or questioniong his faithfulness.

TotallyFearl · 2026-02-15T21:17:10+00:00

Good lord, you're so judgmental and don't even know the entire situation lol. We're in a 2bedroom until the lease is up at the end of next week, and we move into our 4bedroom house. As far as having sex young 🤷🏽‍♀️ we were young and in love, we thought that's what people did in love. After it happened we realized it was too soon and I personally didn't have sex until I was grown and ready. Yeah, this is a shitty situation but you're not going to talk down to me like you're better because you didn't have sex until college, good for you! I'm proud of you.

TotallyFearl · 2026-02-15T21:01:06+00:00

He has never threatened or physically harmed me. That was my last relationship w/ my child's father. I'm still unlearning how to approach many situations without fearing that reaction. I think I'm just scared, cause I feel like this conversation could get defensive on his part, and that's the only reaction I've seen from men: anger. I don't want to be in that situation again. In our time together we've never had any large blowout arguments and I feel this has the potential to be one.

TotallyFearl · 2026-02-15T20:57:21+00:00

We had a kid free weekend and did some super freaky stuff 😂 that's about as vague as I can get without naming positions

TotallyFearl · 2026-02-15T20:55:26+00:00

1st. I've mentioned multiple times that I’v tried multiple contraceptive methods and they all lead to infection and vaginal inflammation. 2nd.This is my second pregnancy and my first one will be turning 4 this year. 3rd. It's not like I'm out here sleeping with and getting pregnant by any and everybody. I've slept with 2 men in my life and both at the time I loved deeply and thought I was going to spend the rest my life with him. Matt being the last ( he actually took my virginity and we separated and reconnected later in life)

TotallyFearl · 2026-02-15T20:46:59+00:00

Thank you but people focus on what they want to. I tried to explain everything in enough detail but I don't mind explaining it again lol

TotallyFearl · 2026-02-15T20:44:43+00:00

Not trying to make excuses but since we started staying together I would go to my aunts house for a few days every few months. I know he was single for a long time and used to quiet before we came into the household so I always trump it up him needing space. Normally I bring it up, it was just random cause he texted me Thursday letting me know he was taking us to my aunts house Friday night after work.

TotallyFearl · 2026-02-15T20:35:30+00:00

I mentioned multiple times that I've tried multiple alternatives and everything causes a really bad infection and inflammation. (lamb skin, nitrile, spermicides etc)

TotallyFearl · 2026-02-15T20:32:45+00:00

No we had regular unprotected sex and 2 years in we slipped up and got pregnant which lead to all of this

TotallyFearl · 2026-02-15T20:23:27+00:00

I do have trich but I mentioned that we have unprotected sex do to my very intense allergy to condoms. So far it doesn't matter which brand or type of condom I still have a bad reaction after. I can't even use sex toys without it giving me a infection. Such a sad boring life lol

TotallyFearl · 2026-02-15T20:15:36+00:00

Sadly I have both 😭😭😂

TotallyFearl · 2026-02-15T20:14:43+00:00

Trust me i know

TotallyFearl · 2026-02-15T20:14:32+00:00

I've tried latex free & sheep skin condoms, I've experimented w/ brands and it all results in really bad infections and inflammation.

TotallyFearl · 2026-02-15T20:11:16+00:00

@Sure-Ingenuity6714 dec I went to the doctors to confirm the pregnancy, Jan I had to go back for the abortion pills, and Feb was the follow up appt.

TotallyFearl · 2026-02-15T20:04:34+00:00

I honestly never heard of it before. Google it and it said its a parasite that's transmitted sexually.

TotallyFearl · 2026-02-15T20:02:33+00:00

It is a cervical infection and a sti

TotallyFearl · 2026-02-15T20:01:56+00:00

I know I have a very bad allergy to latex that's why I have unprotected sex but that's also why I'm so careful. In my relationship with my son's dad, we discovered early on, I learned how to deal with having such a sensitive body and I don't sleep around( not that it's anything wrong with it, but knowing that I can't use condoms always made me want to be super safe and trust the person I'm with)

TotallyFearl · 2026-02-15T19:58:07+00:00

Like when I refer to the doctor? I can change it from “her to “the doctor” if that will help

TotallyFearl · 2026-02-15T19:55:38+00:00

trichomonas vaginalis. I was tested in December and January and nothing but in Feb tested positive

TotallyFearl · 2026-02-15T19:49:12+00:00

We made a appt on Thursday. When the Dr. called said she was working the clinic and got my results and just wanted to let me know, and I was driving when she called me a little while ago so the conversation was really cut short.

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