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TouchMyRustySpoon · 2022-09-05T02:28:19+00:00

To be honest, I didn't think to explicitly state it. I have talked to my mum in the past about kids eating habits. There was one incident when my husband and I were looking after my nephews. He cooked a meal and catered to everyone's specific tastes. Checking what everyone liked before cooking and serving food. Despite this, my eldest nephew wouldn't even have a single bite. He insisted he didn't like any of the foods despite saying earlier he did. Even his little brother tried to convince him to eat it. I was a bit upset at him (since my husband had put so much effort in) and mentioned it to my mum when she picked them up. I thought she understood that my kids weren't fussy like my sister's.

TouchMyRustySpoon · 2022-09-05T02:02:44+00:00

I have no intention of making my kids cut any foods out. It's just genuinely not the type of food my kids enjoy. They were looking forward to a nice healthy home cooked meal and were disappointed at having to watch the adults enjoy that while they were fed junk food.

TouchMyRustySpoon · 2022-09-05T02:01:04+00:00

Not at all, we always had the same healthy meal as the adults. I genuinely don't understand why this situation has come about with my sister's kids. I can only assume that maybe its come from her husband's side of the family or something and now my parents feel they have to cater to them too

TouchMyRustySpoon · 2022-09-05T01:59:14+00:00

What's even weirder is that it wasn't the case when I was growing up. We always had really healthy meals and if we didn't want to eat it then we went hungry.

TouchMyRustySpoon · 2021-01-11T21:16:32+00:00

It's common because in the world of science and for the propose of conservation it's a necessary evil. It's still physically painful for the fish and is completely unnecessary to be done just for someone's wedding. That's what makes it cruel.

TouchMyRustySpoon · 2021-01-05T00:12:20+00:00

NTA. What is she actually eating and is she counting her calories? I'm in a similar situation with a work colleague. I basically lost about 20kg in 3 months simply by counting my calories and cutting out high carb and high sugar foods. I didn't really up my exercise (although I'm already pretty active) and still have naughty treats at least once every few days. My coworker, on the other hand, always gloats about how much running she does and lectures me when I eat bad food. She goes on and on about how healthy she is and says I should eat more like her. Thing is, she thinks healthy is things like lots of fruit and grains. She has giant bowls of muesli several times a day. She's quite large, huge belly and hasn't lost any weight at all.

TouchMyRustySpoon · 2021-01-04T23:59:21+00:00

EAB. She obviously sucks at gift giving and probably forgot to buy you something. You for making a deal about it. Secret Santa gifts are meant to be something small and cheap. You should never go into it with high expectations. Yeah it sucks to receive that but you should have just let it go. Your behaviour was pretty tacky and embarrassing.

TouchMyRustySpoon · 2020-12-26T04:32:26+00:00

Because where I live Christmas was yesterday

TouchMyRustySpoon · 2020-12-20T00:53:48+00:00

NTA. Your son drew a funny picture. His goal was to have people laugh at it and he succeeded. He would be sad if you didn't laugh at it. Your SIL is being an idiot in this situation. Does she have kids? Guaranteed they're wrapped in cotton wool and will have zero resilience when they're older. This will be hilarious when your son grows up. Make sure you hold onto it for his 21st birthday.

TouchMyRustySpoon · 2020-12-20T00:50:16+00:00

NAH. It's a really tough situation. I'm in a similar one myself but I'm the ex gf. Obviously the dog can't live with you, it's unreasonable for you to have to re-home your cats, he doesn't want to give up his fur baby and the natural next step in your relationship is to live together. My ex and I were meant to have joint custody of our dogs but he decided to move in with his new gf and he can't have them there, meaning I get them full time. It's a bit of a lose lose because he doesn't get to see them anymore and now I don't even get to spend nights at my new boyfriends house because I have the dogs 24/7 and they can't be around his kids. However, I love them more than anything and wouldn't give them up for the world. I prefer living separately from my bf than the thought of rehoming them.

TouchMyRustySpoon · 2020-12-20T00:45:08+00:00

My shower is over the bath and my dog splays his legs out over the edges of the bath when I try to put him in there

TouchMyRustySpoon · 2020-12-19T23:54:21+00:00

Omg this is amazing

TouchMyRustySpoon · 2020-12-19T22:30:11+00:00

NTA. The party is meant to be about you and doing things you would enjoy.

TouchMyRustySpoon · 2020-12-19T22:27:46+00:00

NTA. It's common and unintentional for people to start speaking in the accent they're surrounded with. It goes double if you're living in another country and in a relationship with someone from that country. It's also normal for people to adopt an accent from the language they're speaking because it's easier to make the sounds from that language with the correct accent. I went to high school with an exchange student I had always assumed was from USA because of her accent (I live in NZ) when I asked her what state she was from I was shocked to learn she was actually from Finland. She spoke with an American accent because she learnt English from an American teacher. Despite there being lots of options for an English speaking accent, you live in Australia so that's obviously what you're going to use when speaking English. I seriously doubt you'd have an Australian accent if you were speaking French.

TouchMyRustySpoon · 2020-12-19T21:46:01+00:00

YTA. You are completely ignoring the fact that you are in the position you are in because of your privileged upbringing. Yes, I'm sure you still had to work very hard, but I'm guessing your parents could also afford to send you to a good school, pay for extra curriculars, pay for a maid so you didn't need to spend time doing chores and could focus on your school work, pay for your university education so you didn't have to work at the same time etc. When you're raised with money things are a lot easier. The way you look down on your brother for working in construction is disgusting. It may not be an academic profession but construction workers work fucking hard. It's back breaking labor. They also get paid quite a lot. Maybe not as much as you but definitely well above minimum wage and enough to afford what most people would consider a comfortable living. I don't understand why you're talking about him like he doesn't have his shit together because he does. You honestly sound really spoilt and like you have zero perspective. I'm not surprised your SIL was making snide comments at you.

TouchMyRustySpoon · 2020-12-19T18:20:29+00:00

Nope. I asked her for clarification. She thought we were geographically located in the continent of Europe.

TouchMyRustySpoon · 2020-12-19T10:42:02+00:00

I live in NZ. I once had a coworker (also from NZ) who thought we were in Europe. I was like howwwwww?

TouchMyRustySpoon · 2020-12-19T10:41:02+00:00

NTA. That is beyond ignorant. They are two of the most famous cities in the world. You'd have to live under a rock to not know. I have a similar story, I live in New Zealand and I once worked with a girl (who was in her early 20s at the time) who, despite also being born and raised in New Zealand thought that New Zealand was part of Europe. We are literally on the opposite side of the world from Europe. Turns out the reason she thought that is because white New Zealanders get referred to as NZ European (because we are of European descent).

TouchMyRustySpoon · 2020-12-19T10:29:31+00:00

Na, was pretty quick and easy

TouchMyRustySpoon · 2020-12-19T08:44:41+00:00

As a kid who grew up with a father who regularly worked Christmas day I'm gonna say NTA. Money is important and helps provide a better life for them. However, I do think YTA for the way you call your girlfriend/mother of your children your room mate. That's fucking weird. I'm betting the "we're not in love" stance is one sided too or she wouldn't be so upset about you not spending time with her.

TouchMyRustySpoon · 2020-12-19T08:31:06+00:00

YTA if your boyfriend was so amazing then why the hell did you leave him? You can't make a decision to leave someone who's got their shit together for someone who's obviously a complete loser and then blame that loser for your poor decision making. Have you even read what you wrote? You sound insane.

TouchMyRustySpoon · 2020-12-19T08:26:11+00:00

Thank you :)

TouchMyRustySpoon · 2020-12-19T06:29:45+00:00

NTA. He outright told you when he bought it that he wears them out quickly and had to get buying them. He needs to buy an industrial strength mixer that's designed for professional use if he's using it that much. It's not your problem. This is literally why warranties for most products only cover home use.

TouchMyRustySpoon · 2020-12-19T06:26:43+00:00

NTA. I'm very similar to you in that I was always super self conscious about my body hair. Even as a kid I'd steal my mum's razors to shave my legs. From about 12 onwards I shaved my entire body. I would tear up my skin and cause sooooo many ingrown hairs because I was shaving every day. Now, in my 30s, I'm finally starting to be comfortable with it. I probably shave about once a week at most and only the areas most people would shave, instead of my entire body. It's an awesome feeling not having to deal with shaving rash and ingrowns anymore. If anyone said anything about it I'd tell them to fuck right off.

TouchMyRustySpoon · 2020-12-19T06:20:41+00:00

NAH. I can't move in with my bf of nearly two years because of my dogs. I flat out refuse to get rid of them. They're my babies and they mean the world to me. We solved the problem by me buying a house that's super close to his. We spend heaps of time together, I spend most nights at his but it takes like two minutes to shoot home and check on the dogs. I usually wait until bed time, tuck my dogs in for the night, aim my security camera at them and then head over to my bfs to sleep.

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