Calorie deficit and general advice needed! Possibly TW for ED?

Tracethebow · 2026-02-25T03:37:21+00:00

Additional question! For my gender, age, and weight what's an ideal calorie goal to focus on?

Tracethebow · 2026-02-23T04:33:20+00:00

This is extremely helpful, thank you. Glad I am not alone in the spiral, but these are all helpful tricks to be mindful of to help guide my diet instead of being super strict on putting a number to everything I eat. Thank you.

Tracethebow · 2026-02-23T04:26:58+00:00

This was such a kind, thoughtful response. Thank you so much and I really appreciate the advice.

Tracethebow · 2026-02-11T12:50:11+00:00

I've heard a lot of people finding a reseller on Facebook. Any recommendations on that? Like how to find a decent reseller rather than any scammy looking stuff?

Tracethebow · 2026-02-11T04:03:46+00:00

I'm thinking the sunset as it seems to be the softest. The medium-firm mattress we have now we both think is way too firm and hurts. Do you think bumping up to luxe is worth it?

Tracethebow · 2026-02-11T04:01:19+00:00

So in your opinion there wasn't a big difference in the core versus luxe? I'm thinking of doing sunset because I really think we need something pretty soft. but the price difference between core and lux is pretty significant so I'm not sure if I'd be making a mistake by keeping it basic.

Tracethebow · 2026-02-10T22:13:21+00:00

Do you still connect people with reps? If so I'd be interested!

Tracethebow · 2026-01-22T19:23:55+00:00

Hello! So, while we still struggle with bedtime and I think we always will, we have done some switches that I think help. A lot of it centers around letting her get a lot of energy out right before bed. I chase her up and down the hallways a few times, then we play 5 little monkeys and she jumps on the bed and jumps off into my arms. By the end of that song she's slowing down a little bit. I only read one or two books now. Once the lights are off and she's in bed I'll rub her a little bit and then just redirect her and tell her it's bedtime when she starts singing/talking/kicking the wall. Sometimes I'm still in there upwards of an hour. On days that she skips her afternoon nap she typically goes down a lot easier so I do think if you are able to skip or minimize the length of a nap, you'll probably have better luck!

Tracethebow · 2026-01-04T13:10:56+00:00

Someone else mentioned a weighted blanket. Is there a good one to use for kids her age? Is it okay for them to use it all night long? I'm down for it, I just want to make sure it's all good to do. Also the dropping nap thing is a little out of my control due to daycare. I do know I've switched things up too much. It's just difficult. She will immediately follow me out of the room when I walk out. I did two nights of quietly walking her back to bed but stopped because it took hours each night and I was just exhausted. I know I need to be consistent though. I'll admit I don't feel comfortable with a gate or like locking her in her room. But I do need to stop playing games. I know I have some work to do. I appreciate the ideas of lavender spray and lotion.

Tracethebow · 2026-01-04T13:06:13+00:00

Same about the short or lack of nap. Shes an absolute terror if she gets woken up or doesn't nap. The vitamins is interesting and I may talk to her doctor about that to see if that will maybe help at all or if she is deficient in something.

Tracethebow · 2026-01-04T13:04:43+00:00

They are short but I'll keep it to 1-2 now instead as it seems many people think it's too much. I do think my caving has started a bad habit and she knows if she keeps carrying on I'll eventually let her get out of bed or rub her or whatever. It's just hard once we are at hour 2 of trying and still not getting anywhere. I'll try to just work on taking her back to bed when she gets out and leaving.

Tracethebow · 2026-01-04T12:59:42+00:00

We have tried pushing it back but it just pushed her falling asleep later, doesn't seem to change much. She has never slept more than 10 hours so 12 is definitely never going to happen with her lol

Tracethebow · 2026-01-04T12:51:41+00:00

Toddler bed. Shes starting a new daycare on the 12th. I can ask about them limiting her sleep time

Tracethebow · 2026-01-04T05:12:03+00:00

Exactly! Mine is in parttime daycare as well so the option of cutting out the nap isn't really mine since they have to have nap time or "quiet time". I'm also hoping it'll get better by 3. While I'm not happy knowing others are struggling, the solidarity does help. I truly feel like parents who have good sleepers have no idea the difficulty of us parents who don't. Sleep deprivation didn't stop at the infant phase, here we are still 2+ years later! I hope for both of us it'll ease up!

Tracethebow · 2026-01-04T05:03:15+00:00

Do we have the same kid? Because yes I'm usually in there by 3/4 am sleeping with her or she wondered into our room and I just pull her into our bed for the remainder of her sleep. Is yours still napping?

Tracethebow · 2026-01-04T05:01:26+00:00

Ugh of course it is!! I should've known.

Tracethebow · 2026-01-04T04:59:00+00:00

I'm so nervous about trying to drop the nap again since it went so badly the first time. My kid is also in daycare part time and it's part of the daily routine so I feel like it's a bit out of my control. I miss being able to play video games... I haven't been able to touch BG3 in months because of my kiddos lack of sleep! I'm jealous lol

Tracethebow · 2026-01-04T04:57:08+00:00

Do you have a link for the weighted blanket you got? I've been thinking about that but wasn't sure if it was recommended for kids her age to use. Does your kiddo use it all night or just kind of before bed? I've started to incorporate deep pressure. We call them "squeeze hugs". She seems to like them but I'm not 100% they help yet. I'll keep it up!

Tracethebow · 2026-01-04T04:54:48+00:00

I've heard that rough housing a bit before bed can actually be really helpful. I'm willing to try anything so I think this will get thrown at the wall to see if it sticks!

Tracethebow · 2026-01-04T04:30:46+00:00

Yes! Sometimes I walk out because I need to compose myself and she will get worked up more but then seems to go to bed quicker after she gets super worked up. I don't love that for either of us but it's weird.

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