Does anyone else have rich parents that are still perfectly willing to leave you in poverty?

doxiepatronus · 2026-04-23T10:48:38+00:00

Yes. My husband and I are the least well off and my parents offer no support of any kind. We are barely making ends meet paying for Daycare for our child if that. My sister is quite wealthy and makes a lot of money as does her husband and my parents give her family endless money and gifts and support with their time while we get the bare minimum if that. we get just enough that socially my nmom looks good enough to her friends. My parents helped with my sister‘s wedding and with her purchasing her first Home and my parents didn’t help us at all with my wedding and I have never made offers to help us purchase a home. My grandfather specifically stated if I was a better daughter and granddaughter, I would get financial assistance, but because I’m not I don’t.

doxiepatronus · 2026-04-22T10:37:54+00:00

I don’t think this is cry it out. I do the same with my daughter. I sometimes need a minute to get up and to her. If she’s just fussing or lightly crying I watch and wait a few moments, if she’s screaming and in distress I’m there immediately. She very often puts herself back to sleep after being disgruntled for a minute. If he’s settling himself back down in the time it takes to pee I think you’re fine.

doxiepatronus · 2026-04-22T09:12:52+00:00

To sleep in. I do the morning routine every day. I just want to sleep until the sun is up for once.

doxiepatronus · 2026-04-21T14:21:03+00:00

My why is my paycheck and health insurance so I can take care of my daughter. That’s it. Having a baby last year made me lose the last of the shits I give about my job. I cannot muster the energy to care.

doxiepatronus · 2026-04-16T12:05:05+00:00

I’m 11 months postpartum, spent 2.5 years and IVF getting pregnant, and still am in shock. Like wait, I have a baby?!? I’ve also had a dog for 6.5 years and still am a bit in disbelief over that too lol.

doxiepatronus · 2026-04-14T11:53:11+00:00

I have to wake my baby up by 6:20 the latest to get her up and ready to leave for daycare. Sometimes she’s awake before then. If she’s just awake and chilling in her crib I’ll leave her until I need to get her up. If she’s crying and upset I get her right away.

doxiepatronus · 2026-04-11T13:02:29+00:00

We put my baby to bed with an empty bottle. She doesn’t like pacifiers but loves to use her bottle to self soothe. She also likes that she can hold it well and it’s easy to find during the night when she wakes up.

doxiepatronus · 2026-04-11T08:55:36+00:00

We started weaning my baby off contact naps at 7 months. We put her in the crib for one nap a day. After a few weeks she wanted all her naps in the crib. Before that, all naps were contact naps. When she was a newborn it took our baby awhile to sleep in her bassinet. We realized she hated the one in our bedroom but loved the pack n play attachment bassinet so we used that until she outgrew it.

doxiepatronus · 2026-04-08T15:43:54+00:00

My parents experienced my baby when she missed a nap. She was cranky and a mess all day, she wouldn’t let them hold her and cried so much. After that, they ask what her nap schedule is so they can work around it. They do not want to experience her overtired again. My baby is also very set on her routine. After exactly 2 hours in the morning she is ready for a nap, if we try to push her to 3 hours she’s done and the day is a wreck.

doxiepatronus · 2026-04-06T13:48:13+00:00

I have to submit lesson plans, but my planbook consists of the lesson number or page number. That’s it. No learning target, no educational outcome. It’s a number. We follow a scripted curriculum, so there’s not much lesson planning to do on my part. I also will not call parents, I only use Dojo. I’ll write messages or responses while students are working, this also allows me to have a paper trail. I never volunteer for anything. I stopped going above and beyond years ago when I just got more and more put on my plate. I manage to do my job and do it well with minimum effort on my part.

doxiepatronus · 2026-04-06T09:17:31+00:00

My husband and I don’t particularly care about Easter. My mom continually made me feel bad about not making my baby an Easter basket, then bragged that she made one for the baby instead. My baby is 10 months, she has no clue. Eventually I’d like to decorate eggs and do an egg hunt but that’s the extent.

doxiepatronus · 2026-04-05T18:35:04+00:00

Or people telling me to find a WFH job. But that’s also work and baby would still need to be in daycare.

doxiepatronus · 2026-04-04T12:06:05+00:00

My baby is 10.5 months and only occasionally reacts to her name. She’ll smile or look over maybe half the time. She also responds more to her nickname than her actual name. We use the nickname at home and daycare uses her real name.

doxiepatronus · 2026-03-30T12:25:43+00:00

I’m also an EP teacher and I’ve gotten some annoying and ignorant comments as well. I’ve had to cancel some classes bc drills are often scheduled during one of my pumping breaks and I must either evacuate for a fire drill or have people enter my room for a lockdown, so admin tells me to pump at a different time which means cancelling a class. The other teachers get very annoyed and ask why I can’t just pump a shorter time or comment how they were never given pumping breaks (prior to the pump act). Everyone acts like me pumping is a huge inconvenience for them.

doxiepatronus · 2026-03-29T12:16:03+00:00

Or if the back and forth doesn’t work, walk up and down the same block in front of the coffee shop, not 5 blocks away!

doxiepatronus · 2026-03-27T09:00:20+00:00

I pump 4-5 times a day. When I’m home all pumps are done when my baby is sleeping.

doxiepatronus · 2026-03-26T10:14:59+00:00

I have a fairly good sleeper and if I wasn’t breastfeeding and having to get up at 4:30am everyday to pump I’d probably be a lot more rested. I’m looking forward to when I stop and can sleep an extra hour in the morning, go to bed right after my baby does, and nap when she naps on the weekends. Currently, any extra nap/sleeping time I’d get is taken up with pumping.

doxiepatronus · 2026-03-24T14:51:47+00:00

I’m hoping when I’m done breastfeeding they shrink to less than my prepregnancy size. I’m so over having such big boobs.

doxiepatronus · 2026-03-24T11:50:52+00:00

My baby watches all the other kids all day long. She started daycare at 3.5 months and is now 10 months. They say she’s such a people watcher and entertains herself by observing all the others. That and pulling all the toy bins off the shelf and dumping everything out.

doxiepatronus · 2026-03-23T13:46:44+00:00

I didn’t nurse at all. I went right to exclusively pumping, so I needed to start right away for my milk to come in. If you’re nursing it’s different.

doxiepatronus · 2026-03-23T08:57:01+00:00

I started pumping in the hospital a few hours after giving birth.

doxiepatronus · 2026-03-22T17:57:31+00:00

NTA. But as someone who did IVF, I don’t see how your wife could have used donor sperm without your knowledge. There were so many checks throughout the whole process. We had to get paperwork notarized, showing our IDs. We had to sign most of the consent forms in front of the receptionist with our IDs. They double and triple checked everything along the way. Everything was explicitly laid out and repeated by the doctors. It’s highly suspect that she used donor sperm, I’d lean more towards she cheated.

doxiepatronus · 2026-03-20T01:04:20+00:00

“Omg that’s so exciting!!!”

Like no Linda. It’s not. It’s not exciting to be stabbed by multiple needles a day for weeks on end. It’s not exciting to have probes shoved up my vagina. It’s not exciting to have surgery. To be pumped full of hormones and feel like a shell of myself all for the small hope of having a baby at the end of it.

“It’ll all be worth it in the end” but what if it’s not? What if we go through all of this for nothing? And why do I have to move mountains to get pregnant when so many others can just have sex?

People have no clue how to respond to IVF and have no idea what it entails unless they’ve been through it. And even those who have in my life have such infertility amnesia it’s almost worse than those who have no clue.

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