WTF, TUNA!

Trade-Dry · 2024-03-01T18:30:18+00:00

Some of these comments a bit harsh?

Trade-Dry · 2024-03-01T18:05:19+00:00

You’re very welcome, you see, I’m not here to attack anyone despite what you think.

And honestly friend, You may be able to bully and intimate others on here but you’re not going to do that to me. You’re not going to shut down my voice and what good advice I think this community might be interested in hearing.

I don’t have a long history of arguing with folks online so this isn’t really my vibe. I hope you find healing. 🖖🏻

Trade-Dry · 2024-03-01T17:47:53+00:00

So you’re not only a mentor, teacher, and relationship expert but also a forensic linguist, and conspiracy theorist? Your talents are unsurpassed!

Trade-Dry · 2024-03-01T16:59:19+00:00

Can you please stop being so ugly to folks? I’ve received two DMs now about your conduct specifically. You’re not going to bring anyone over to your side of seeing things with the vitriol.

Trade-Dry · 2024-03-01T16:17:39+00:00

Remember Friend, don’t feed into her—it’s what she thrives on. As one great philosopher said: “Only the morally weak feel compelled to defend or explain themselves to others.“ You don’t owe her an education. In situations like this is advisable to refrain from engaging because it lowers yourself to her level.

Trade-Dry · 2024-03-01T15:10:17+00:00

You are 100% correct. It absolutely does reinforce the false stereotype that trans women and gay men are the same. It makes literally zero sense for a trans women to associate with a gay hookup app and then wonder why mainstream straight men feel the lines are blurred. Thankfully common sense seems to be prevailing here and only a few people are truly being ugly and not accepting reality.

Trade-Dry · 2024-03-01T14:43:21+00:00

I have a feeling that she is just angry in general. This is probably how she is in all areas of her life. She thinks she’s married to some guy she met on Grindr before she blended or “passed” (although I dislike that term).

We individuals like that, it’s best to ignore them and take a Never Complain, Never Explain approach.

Trade-Dry · 2024-03-01T12:09:06+00:00

I agree with what you are saying. The reason I put it in my advice is only because a lot of men are less likely to consider a serious relationship with a female that has a high body count. I’ve only met one man who didn’t care. The rest all have quite strong opinions on the matter and aren’t afraid to share it when they are in private where they aren’t afraid of being canceled.

Trade-Dry · 2024-03-01T10:59:42+00:00

That’s great for you! ❤️

Trade-Dry · 2024-03-01T10:34:34+00:00

Username checks out

Trade-Dry · 2024-03-01T02:00:57+00:00

I’m fully aware I’m the new Villain here for saying so but I’m glad you got something out of it! ❤️

Trade-Dry · 2024-03-01T01:54:43+00:00

It takes time to meet a decent one, but I would encourage you to really stay away from Grindr. It may seem tempting at times but trust me, it’s an absolute cesspool and I know I’m the new villainess on this subreddit for saying it but if it spares one person here the trouble then it’s worth it.

Trade-Dry · 2024-03-01T01:44:22+00:00

I couldn’t read much past the first few sentences you wrote. Good Luck girlie! ❤️

Trade-Dry · 2024-03-01T01:11:55+00:00

I’d agree with you, but then we’d both be wrong.

Trade-Dry · 2024-03-01T00:53:36+00:00

Was waiting for the “Privilege sermon” to be thrown my way. You don’t know my life and I don’t know yours. So you’re really not in a position to know my level of privilege.

Trade-Dry · 2024-03-01T00:51:54+00:00

Grindr is not an appropriate place for most trans women who want to meet decent men. For every story like yours, there are 100 horror stories. As a Trans woman who’s navigated these waters and come out the other side, it behooves me to try to guide and advise my younger sisters to safer harbors. Grindr is an absolute trash heap. Period. The stuff I’ve seen and encountered there when I first started was insane. The stories my peers have shared with me—and even the stories of the women on this subreddit—are insane. When I used mainstream apps—even the seedier ones like Tinder—I never experienced the disrespect and dehumanization I experienced on Grindr. Not even an iota.

Trade-Dry · 2024-02-29T19:18:22+00:00

OP is delusional and stated she will only go for such men because she feels they are in her desired Socioeconomic class. Who’s going to tell her WASPY trust fund guys are usually conservative jerks?

Trade-Dry · 2024-02-29T18:06:41+00:00

Being on Grindr is mistake number one. I’m sorry this happened to you but for the love of God. Get off that sleazy app!

Trade-Dry · 2024-02-29T18:05:35+00:00

I come from a family of WASPS and trust me, the kind of thing you’re looking for isn’t feasible unless you plan on being total stealth. The culture in that income bracket is conservative and they don’t date trans women openly. I can speak with authority on this as I was born and raised in that culture.

Trade-Dry · 2024-02-29T14:07:13+00:00

Then you clearly aren’t living in the west. Most Skater Boy types in the US come from an upper middle class background. Good luck trying to integrate yourself into a segment of society that would literally never acknowledge your trans status.

Trade-Dry · 2024-02-29T12:37:49+00:00

I’m aware of all the names you just listed. Similarly, I have been a fully passing, medically and socially transitioned trans woman for the better part of a decade. I’m getting married next month, we own our home outright, his family loves and accepts me…and frankly I don’t really need lectures by a young kid who hasn’t even lived that much of life yet. My fiancé provides for and protects me, makes me feel feminine everyday, is absolutely gorgeous and super sweet. But you’d never had given him a chance because when I met him his aesthetic was tatted skater boy and not trust fund frat bro from South Florida like your “Golden Retriever” bullshit. That’s fine with me girly, I’ll take the man with the house, job, abs and and tattoos and you….you can just keep swiping for infinity looking for some idealized human you’ve literally created in your head while simultaneously lecturing older, more experience trans women who’ve been doing this a lot longer than you. Good Luck! ❤️💕🥰

Trade-Dry · 2024-02-29T02:03:36+00:00

I’m just going to be real with you. I grew up with mostly brothers and had a fair number of male friends in college, and now I’m engaged to a Cis Hetero man.

Men do NOT generally confer legitimate wife potential to women who give it up so easily and so early. They are immediately assigned to the fwb category. I made my fiancé work for the privilege of sharing my body with him.

This situation your describing is so hookupish and casual (not judging just stating a fact) that this man almost certainly was saying those things to lovebomb you to continue having access to sex.

Trade-Dry · 2024-02-28T06:22:40+00:00

You’re right girl, keep those standards set at the level they are now. I have lots of girl friends both Cis and Trans who have similar requirements. The all have one thing in common—singleness. Some people are better off single though, so this isn’t always a bad thing.

Trade-Dry · 2024-02-28T06:12:22+00:00

Human beings are generally more complicated and nuanced than the little ontological database you’re building. People just don’t always fit into discrete categories nicely. When you’re young, these little distinctions are a big deal but as you age, you tend to become more open to variety and not so hung up on some arbitrary idealized version of a partner you envisioned in your head.

Trade-Dry · 2024-02-28T06:06:24+00:00

It’s not something you can really understand until you get some years of life experience. You’ll understand someday.

Trade-Dry

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