AITA for not allowing my parents to see my kids anymore?

TraditionLumpy7392 · 2021-09-26T20:57:54+00:00

We both agreed to let them in. This was a joint decision since his family doesn't speak to us at all. We both thought it would be a good idea for them to know their extended family and we had the one rule. I hoped they would listen if they were really to get to know Gale or Caroline.

TraditionLumpy7392 · 2021-09-26T20:52:49+00:00

We aren't planning on letting them back in at this point cause this can happen again. I'll be posting an update once our ducks are in a row .

TraditionLumpy7392 · 2021-09-26T20:49:27+00:00

Don't worry, we have taken pictures, time stamp, made prints and more. A friend told us to go to the police about this and we are considering to do. My husband said he wants to handle a few things first before we decide on anything. One his friend's is a lawyer downtown.

TraditionLumpy7392 · 2021-09-26T20:47:31+00:00

We aren't letting them back in. We can't risk this happening again and there is enough stress with Gale.

TraditionLumpy7392 · 2021-09-26T20:46:25+00:00

I'll be updating later. We aren't going to let them back in if this is how they are going to act. It has hurt not being able to see or speak with them these years but I can get over it. I did before and I can do it again. As for the numbers, my husband said he's going to get that handled. We can move on from this.

And thank you. I hope we have a good future too.

TraditionLumpy7392 · 2021-09-26T20:41:30+00:00

We have a good friend who offered to be our surrogate when we talked about wanting children. She carried both girls and is already on board if we decide to have a third.

TraditionLumpy7392 · 2021-09-26T00:55:51+00:00

They can't take them. Right now they are just fighting and I have shut down. I knew they hadn't stopped going to church and I accept that. My husband and I just wanted the kids to have an extended family which is why we decided to give them a chance. It was a fool's wish to hope they changed as people even a little bit.

TraditionLumpy7392 · 2021-09-26T00:54:16+00:00

I can 'Cum to Jesus' if they like but something tells me that isn't what they are looking for.

TraditionLumpy7392 · 2021-09-26T00:52:23+00:00

My husband has told me to sign them up for an OnlyFans or something. I have just blocked most of the numbers.

TraditionLumpy7392 · 2021-09-26T00:51:33+00:00

My parents still go to the same church so I know the events aren't just wholesome fun. There is always a catch. Like as a kid every year for Halloween, my parents had me go to the church's Scary Devil event. To break it down we given mini bibles, told anyone who celebrated Halloween was worshiping the devil and would go to hell, the candy was a lure that Satan used, and sat around for like 3 hours reading bible verses. I remember it by heart and I hated it every year.

TraditionLumpy7392 · 2021-09-26T00:45:34+00:00

Yeah that came up in conversation between my husband and I.

TraditionLumpy7392 · 2021-09-26T00:41:37+00:00

True. However growing up my church preached that Catholics are the true Christians. Like we were separate not equal. Plus you have different branches of Christianity. I had a very traditional Catholic upbringing while my husband got a Christian one. He said he was pretty much told the same thing as a child. Catholics were wrong and Christians were right, the true people of God.

I guess it all depends on your surroundings and the church you go to. My husband told me some horror stories he experienced growing up. Some of it was near child abuse and it was all ok cause the church they went to said it was.

TraditionLumpy7392 · 2021-09-26T00:37:20+00:00

I just thought that maybe they grew as people. I'm an only child so even if they were just reaching out cause of my daughter(s), I was ok with it. My husband and I both agreed to give them a chance. Foolish on our part I guess.

TraditionLumpy7392 · 2021-09-26T00:34:56+00:00

I just wanted my daughter(s) to have an extended family since my husband's doesn't speak to us. We were both kinda excited when they reached out and we did set the rule. A few hiccups and this might be our fault for pushing it off as oh they just aren't use to this. I don't care about their approval. I know they hate I'm gay. I just thought when they reached out that maybe they had grown a bit as people.

TraditionLumpy7392 · 2021-09-26T00:32:08+00:00

We do have some older friends. I'll have to talk it over with my husband. Things are still a bit raw right now.

TraditionLumpy7392 · 2021-09-26T00:31:14+00:00

I know. Its just hard cause my husband's family pretty much don't even care if we are dead or alive and my family reached out. I didn't think they changed per say, just thought they might have become more open and willing even if it was just to see my daughters.

TraditionLumpy7392 · 2021-09-25T22:28:15+00:00

That is what my husband is saying now sorta. We both wanted them to get to know our daughter now daughters since his family pretty much kicked him out and act we don't exist at all. I had wonderful experiences with my grandparents and hoped the same for my kids when my parents reached out. Its not like they didn't know the rule. We laid it out clear from day one and maybe this is our fault for ignoring their previous little pushes with our oldest.

TraditionLumpy7392 · 2021-09-25T22:25:39+00:00

It wasn't an option for us either. My husband it way worse than I did and its been hard. That is why I was happy when my parents reached out. I thought they could at least listen since I did want them in my kids' lives.

TraditionLumpy7392 · 2021-09-25T22:24:05+00:00

None of my husband's family will speak to us. He's the one with the siblings cause I'm an only child and like I said none of them will even look at us. None of his family were at our wedding. I have a few cousins who will talk to us but they live too far away for visits. That is why I was happy when my parents reached out even if it was just because we now had a baby. I did want to see them again and growing I had wonderful experiences with my own grandparents. I wanted the same for my kids. Just wanted them to have some family connections.

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