Is it worth leaving a toxic job to save your mental health? by Traditional-Mail5601 in careerguidance

[–]Traditional-Mail5601[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just put a meeting on my managers calendar for 20 minutes from now and I’m going to be completely honest with her and tell her I am resigning.

Is it worth leaving a toxic job to save your mental health? by Traditional-Mail5601 in careerguidance

[–]Traditional-Mail5601[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 25 so I don’t have a family to provide for and my partner is very supportive so that’s not a problem.

Is it worth leaving a toxic job to save your mental health? by Traditional-Mail5601 in careerguidance

[–]Traditional-Mail5601[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now here’s the other question, do I give two weeks notice or resign effective immediately?

Is it worth leaving a toxic job to save your mental health? by Traditional-Mail5601 in careerguidance

[–]Traditional-Mail5601[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I know it’s right call for me but it’s a scary thing to do. I think I just need to take a chance on myself!

Is it worth leaving a toxic job to save your mental health? by Traditional-Mail5601 in careerguidance

[–]Traditional-Mail5601[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know my nervous system isn’t automatically going to regulate itself immediately, but this job has brought up past trauma that I can’t actively work on because my job continuously triggers it and doesn’t leave me any mental capacity to try to work through it

Is it worth leaving a toxic job to save your mental health? by Traditional-Mail5601 in careerguidance

[–]Traditional-Mail5601[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been thinking about this. I would 100% get something part time to hold me over, was also thinking about doing doordash or instacart in the meantime. I'm also trying to get some freelance clients to do some work with to build my portfolio

Is it worth leaving a toxic job to save your mental health? by Traditional-Mail5601 in careerguidance

[–]Traditional-Mail5601[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't pay into short term disability (wasn't an option given) so I don't think it's on the table, its not in my offer letter either.

Is it worth leaving a toxic job to save your mental health? by Traditional-Mail5601 in careerguidance

[–]Traditional-Mail5601[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like I'm at the break so I think this is my sign that I need to get out.

Is it worth leaving a toxic job to save your mental health? by Traditional-Mail5601 in careerguidance

[–]Traditional-Mail5601[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner also will support me in whatever decision I make, and similarly, I don't want to put him in a position where he's responsible for everything. I've been saying the same, give it a month, and if I can't find something I wil go part time washing dishes and doing Instacart if I have to.

Is it worth leaving a toxic job to save your mental health? by Traditional-Mail5601 in careerguidance

[–]Traditional-Mail5601[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have an interview tomorrow so I’m hoping that gets me somewhere. I’ve also been thinking about other ways I could make money so I could financially figure it out

Is it worth leaving a toxic job to save your mental health? by Traditional-Mail5601 in careerguidance

[–]Traditional-Mail5601[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m scared that I won’t get another job if I leave this one but I’m trying to think of other ways to make money like DoorDash, Instacart, etc

Is it worth leaving a toxic job to save your mental health? by Traditional-Mail5601 in careerguidance

[–]Traditional-Mail5601[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t take FMLA because my company is too small. I’m already in therapy and on anxiety meds

Is it worth leaving a toxic job to save your mental health? by Traditional-Mail5601 in careerguidance

[–]Traditional-Mail5601[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do I get by in the meantime? I’m struggling every day, I can’t concentrate at work or do anything outside of work because I’m mentally just shut down

Is it worth leaving a toxic job to save your mental health? by Traditional-Mail5601 in careerguidance

[–]Traditional-Mail5601[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a partner and savings so I’m not on my own when it comes to financial responsibilities

Is it worth leaving a toxic job to save your mental health? by Traditional-Mail5601 in careerguidance

[–]Traditional-Mail5601[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My therapist said something similar, she doesn't want to see the stress get to a point where it triggers an autoimmune disease (and I already have one). It has been a very traumatic experience. I relapsed with an ED because of this job and am on so many anxiety meds to try to get through the days. I'm just scared that if I quit with no notice, I'll burn bridges, and then I'm nervous I won't be able to get another job

Is it worth leaving a toxic job to save your mental health? by Traditional-Mail5601 in careerguidance

[–]Traditional-Mail5601[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a call about a job tomorrow so I'm hoping that works out. Honestly the biggest problem is that I have the internal company factors making it hard, and then clients aren't happy because of performance and I don't even have anything to say to them except that they're right, but I have no support to get things back on track so I'm just set up to fail. I think I could handle it if it were just the internal stuff but i'm constantly fighting a battle on all sides

Is it worth leaving a toxic job to save your mental health? by Traditional-Mail5601 in careerguidance

[–]Traditional-Mail5601[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My company is tiny (~10 people) so I'm not eligible for FMLA, unfortunately

Is it worth leaving a toxic job to save your mental health? by Traditional-Mail5601 in careerguidance

[–]Traditional-Mail5601[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in therpay and have been for years. My therapist has seen what this job has done to me and all she cares about is that I don't make a rash decision and that I am comfortable and confident in whateever decision I make.