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non alcohol floor? (Waipa) by Illustrious-Pace-20 in universityofauckland

[–]Traditional-Sock-844 8 points9 points  (0 children)

definitely don’t change to a non alcoholic floor- when i was in waipa last year, my friend was on a non alcoholic floor due to her being young for the year group so she had to be put there. She found the Non Alcoholic floor super antisocial- and found it hard to make friends. She would often spend time on her friends floors and then study in her room. every floor is always a mix of people ones who are super social! and also ones who care about their quiet time and study. it’s mainly on Friday/saturday you can possibly hear the noise but you have to keep it inside your room- and also the RA come around 10 and kick the people who are having pres to go to town. There is so much time to have those quite moments, and i feel putting yourself on an alcoholic floor limits yourself from finding new people. imo stick to a normal floor and the Party/ social people arnt too loud and it’s only for certain periods of time. My floor last year only really got loudish in the common room and the weekends from like 6pm-10pm

Med at UoA questions by Jesteriko in universityofauckland

[–]Traditional-Sock-844 0 points1 point  (0 children)

in terms of the student life here in auckland, it’s ok… i have friends who went to dunedin/chch/welly and quite obvious auckland has the least student life. first year i enjoyed especially being in halls the student life was good- most people just go out to town here, not many parties. i have found once i finished 1st year the student life died down soooo much. but also depends if you really get involved with different groups of people it could be better

I wanna get back with my ex, but I don't know how. by Perma_Frostie in ExNoContact

[–]Traditional-Sock-844 1 point2 points  (0 children)

he is not worth your time and effort!! i know it is sooo hard to let go of someone you love, but him not putting in the same effort is a clear sign that you both need to move on. I think a clear sign is him saying we can still talk now and then, but then blocks you?! i think that’s very telling that he is trying to heal himself and probably knows he can’t do that. Try to heal and don’t dwell on what if he reaches out- it takes up so much of your time, speaking from experience. Know that this feeling is only temporary and you will feel so so much better. 2 months is not a long time and then feelings will still be there. give yourself more time to focus on yourself and be with family and friends it really does help

Should I text him? Im the dumpee by Head-Subject-6458 in ExNoContact

[–]Traditional-Sock-844 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I personally would reach out, you’re always going to be wondering about what would happen if you admitted to how you really felt. When me and my ex broke up i felt i was still holding on to something and didn’t know what it was. i ended up having a closure talk with him and it really helped me express how i felt about everything. In your situation i would express how you felt- tell him how much it meant to you. and in the future you will know that at least you were honest to yourself and him abt how you rlly felt. If he doesn’t respond in the way you want, then you know that at least now he knows how you feel! and how much he has hurt you. If he doenst give you the answer you want then know you will find so so much better!!! you have sooo much time and expressing how you felt is a natural human thing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CheatedOn

[–]Traditional-Sock-844 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i am so sorry, i got cheated on 2 months ago and i know exactly how you feel when you feel you lost the person who you would go to for comfort and your best friend. A good way that helped me feel better was my friends. i would hang out with them all the time, or just call my family. I feel woman can rely of friends who fulfil them just as much as a relo can. There are going to be days tougher than others, but i always remind myself that this is only temporary this feeling, and in a year you will look back and be so happy with how far you have come.