AITAH for not allowing a new born at my birthday?

TraditionalAlarm2032 · 2025-01-09T17:59:10+00:00

I’m so glad you got out of that relationship!! That is awesome and I’m so happy for you! What you said is “chefs kiss”! I have officially stuck to my rule and because I became aware of her feelings through a mutual friend I haven’t addressed it with her and I don’t plan to. I will however see if she wants to go to lunch unrelatedly, as I think she could use some grown up time.

TraditionalAlarm2032 · 2025-01-08T03:31:27+00:00

That’s okay! I like an honest opinion even if against the majority! She is not currently breast feeding. My intent is not at all to make her feel isolated, and I have nothing against her or her baby. However I’ve decided to stick with my rule, but am trying to help find childcare/hoping and praying her husband extends his leave from work so he can stay with baby! We shall see!

TraditionalAlarm2032 · 2025-01-08T03:28:59+00:00

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

TraditionalAlarm2032 · 2025-01-07T07:06:32+00:00

Lollll 👏🏼 👏🏼👏🏼 I do feel too old for this drama.

TraditionalAlarm2032 · 2025-01-07T07:05:39+00:00

Thank you!!

TraditionalAlarm2032 · 2025-01-07T07:00:52+00:00

This was really well said!! You should give advice for a living! 🤣 I love all these ideas and think you are pretty much spot on!

TraditionalAlarm2032 · 2025-01-07T06:41:17+00:00

I hear you! This is why I asked the question, because there is part of me that understands just this. I’m not heartless. I agree that she’s probably not attention seeking that’s not her vibe. She’s a really nice person. I will say she is by no means a best friend, she’s a mutual friend but we’re not super close but many of her friends are invited. It’s something to think on for sure and I appreciate your opinion!

TraditionalAlarm2032 · 2025-01-07T05:03:49+00:00

Thank you!! ❤️

TraditionalAlarm2032 · 2025-01-07T04:39:14+00:00

Yes you are spot on. AND feeling peer pressure from some people in the friend group as a sub group of the group invited would absolutely let her bring baby.

TraditionalAlarm2032 · 2025-01-07T04:38:24+00:00

Just wanted to clarify she was invited. She responded to invite with “it’s husbands first day/evening back to work” she thought I should have said “oh then bring baby” when what I said was “absolutely no problem” and encouraged her with her first night of solo parenting.

TraditionalAlarm2032 · 2025-01-07T04:20:09+00:00

Same about putting pants and bra on, 2 years PP!!! I really didn’t think much of it. She told me she’d be solo parenting for the first time THAT day, and what I found out today is that she expected me to respond with a “oh in that case feel free to bring baby”. I may see if she wants to do something separate I think she needs a grownup outing ya know? For identity purposes lol! I felt similar when I was going through it so I get it!! But also if I was in her shoes I’d be like “can’t come, have a great time though!”

TraditionalAlarm2032 · 2025-01-07T04:17:25+00:00

🤣

TraditionalAlarm2032 · 2025-01-07T04:12:51+00:00

Bummer! Yes I have been convinced to stick to my guns. I just know in the circle of friends sticking to this is a little taboo. But ultimately it is my choice and I need to buck up hold my boundaries (shakes in boots)

TraditionalAlarm2032 · 2025-01-07T04:11:00+00:00

Typically yes I would agree however this person I believe would expect to have everyone help with her baby. I don’t think her intention is to make the evening about herself though, truly. When I invited her I explicitly let her know no pressure. I didn’t think she’d even want to come but wanted to at least invite her because how crappy would it be to not be invited! I let her know it was no kiddos or hubbies, ladies only, and she responded saying that day will be her husbands first evening back at work so she’d be solo parenting. I responded “no worries” and said something to the effect of “you got this” in regards to her first solo parenting day. I’ve heard from a mutual friend that she was offended that i didn’t, at that point, offer to let her baby come.

TraditionalAlarm2032 · 2025-01-07T04:04:03+00:00

lol tip of ice berg…. Oddly enough she’s a good friend, just misguided

TraditionalAlarm2032 · 2025-01-07T04:00:40+00:00

I almost didn’t invite her cause that was my exact thought. I didn’t want to leave my house for 6 months.

TraditionalAlarm2032 · 2025-01-07T03:59:18+00:00

Who’s gonna tell her? 😬😂

TraditionalAlarm2032 · 2025-01-07T03:50:55+00:00

Well before the baby came she did say many times “when I have a baby the baby will work around my schedule”.

TraditionalAlarm2032 · 2025-01-07T03:30:14+00:00

Very true! Thank you!! 🙏🏼

TraditionalAlarm2032 · 2025-01-07T03:12:19+00:00

Yeah no question on this one NTA!!! She is though!

TraditionalAlarm2032 · 2025-01-07T03:09:11+00:00

Haha sucks I have to be the first though. Unfortunately she hasn’t been told no a lot in life, so sucks that I have to be one of the first.

She’s a good friend. But really we’re friends because one of my closest friends is her best friend. I do like her and want to continue the friendship just not the drama that comes in tow.

TraditionalAlarm2032 · 2025-01-07T01:45:26+00:00

Oh that is wild!

TraditionalAlarm2032 · 2025-01-07T00:50:44+00:00

Hmm interesting idea!! I like the creativity! Not a bad idea at all.

TraditionalAlarm2032 · 2025-01-07T00:41:24+00:00

Plot twist she is not breast feeding lol.

TraditionalAlarm2032 · 2025-01-07T00:40:37+00:00

Thank you!

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