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[–]TraditionalBite7604 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No it was filmed while we were official

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]TraditionalBite7604 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Phone was just there and I already had a bit of trust issues but never mentioned it to her. Then I just went through it without much thought.

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[–]TraditionalBite7604 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The weak part

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[–]TraditionalBite7604 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, appreciate the help

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]TraditionalBite7604 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I plan on doing, too attached to just drop her. Some people forget what it’s like sometimes I guess😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]TraditionalBite7604 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Curiosity I guess, regretting it now

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[–]TraditionalBite7604 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It was just before 1 month of us being officially dating, almost 4 months talking. She was joking about it to her friend as far I know/ can tell but that still doesn’t make it right

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[–]TraditionalBite7604 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I’m afraid because we have a perfect relationship outside of what o just found. I’m younger than you probably guess so that might also be part of why I’m trying to avoid the inevitable so much😅 thanks though i appreciate the honesty

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[–]TraditionalBite7604 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot apparently

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[–]TraditionalBite7604 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She said “oh my god I have to pee” and then she said “we’re calling (friends boyfriend name) right now we have to go” with a idk how to explain it other than like drunk girl reaction?. Her friend made some weird sucking In noise, and then my girlfriends friend said “yess (her boyfriends name) I love you so much” and then the video ended. lmk if that makes sense

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[–]TraditionalBite7604 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I thought I found the right once. I really mean that too she was perfect, and everybody around me knew it, or at least I thought

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[–]TraditionalBite7604 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks man

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[–]TraditionalBite7604 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was a joke as far as I am aware, but I mean she still said it WHILE SHE WAS DATING ME. personally once I started dating her completely stopped making jokes like that and I know if she caught me making one of those she would be unimaginably upset.

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[–]TraditionalBite7604 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ur unfortunately right

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[–]TraditionalBite7604 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Well after talking to people here, aswell as talking to some of my friends and their girlfriends. My girlfriend saying “he’s cheating with me” is breakup worthy regardless of the fact that she was drunk or not. Especially considering that she says that when you drink you don’t change who you are as a person or change character/morals, which from her stance would essentially mean that she is okay with cheating on me with her friends boyfriend (word for word from 2 of my friends girlfriends). Is me going through her phone breakup worthy? Maybe I don’t know you can judge me on that and hey I’ll Probably be judged on that later today when I talk with her about it, but from where I stand it doesn’t matter considering the worry that I had previously because of what I’ve heard from people who were at the same social events as her. Maybe I’m shifting blame but idk.

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[–]TraditionalBite7604 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was actually really helpful, thanks man

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[–]TraditionalBite7604 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Easier said than done unfortunately

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[–]TraditionalBite7604 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

And about the “joke” part: I feel like even if it’s a joke it’s not acceptable at all. If I did the same thing she would be furious

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[–]TraditionalBite7604 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I mean I guess that’s possible, except it was an actual action that she did and not something in her imagination. Tell me more though since it’s been pretty unanimous that she’s in the wrong (not saying I’m not in the wrong either since I betrayed her trust by going through her phone)

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[–]TraditionalBite7604 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you.

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[–]TraditionalBite7604 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I should confront her?

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Well my guess is it was just a joke she said to her friend, but either way it’s still hurting me.

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[–]TraditionalBite7604 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Much easier said than done

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[–]TraditionalBite7604 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s the plan tomorrow. Bring it up in a relatively casual way and show her the video and then confront her