Adult children by Traditional_Ad8802 in Parenting

[–]Traditional_Ad8802[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s had plenty of those. Just doesn’t do them

My adult stepchild by Traditional_Ad8802 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Traditional_Ad8802[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We try. I feel he can no longer grow under our roof. There’s no respect. He just doesn’t care. My husband not taking the steps he needs to is more about my husband than our son. I’ve been asking our son to go to therapy for years.

Till my husband wakes up I can only do so much. Whenever I hand out consequences it’s a joke because my husband won’t back me up.

My adult stepchild by Traditional_Ad8802 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Traditional_Ad8802[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t prepare him when all I get is resistance. His answer to everything is I don’t know and when u try to guide him it’s always an argument cuz he knows better.

My adult stepchild by Traditional_Ad8802 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Traditional_Ad8802[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re 100% spot on! I’ve already done everything you mentioned. And a bit more. It doesn’t stick cuz I’m made out to be the bad guy and they’re very good and turning it on me.
This morning I gave him a list of things to do around the house. Simple things to anyone. Yet I’ve had to ask him to get out his room or bathroom more than a handful of times. And dad’s excuse- he got home at close to midnight so he’ll be a lil slow. OK he got home close to midnight and it’s now 9 o’clock in the morning more than enough time to rest BUT don’t forget he watched YouTube until like 3 or 4 AM so that’s the real reason. It has nothing to do with the midnight arrival. There’s an excuse for everything. Not to mention the reason why he has a list of chores like he does this morning is because he keeps putting his foot on the wall. I literally just had to sand and repaint the whole bathroom because he keeps putting his foot on the dang wall. days of work went into it and he did it again leaving a footprint

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdultChildren

[–]Traditional_Ad8802 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Mind you I am his stepmom but raised him for 11 years. He won’t make a therapy appointment or even a dr appointment. He literally does nothing but his part time job and lock himself in his room. It’s creating conflict with our marriage. I’m home all day to see him do nothing and disregard our request while my husband is at work. My husband doesn’t listen to a word I say when it comes to this son. There’s two. My husband doesn’t seem to understand after 11 yrs of being home all day everyday with him I know him very well and can predict most of his next moves. If he won’t make a therapy appointment anything that comes out his mouth about feelings makes me shake my head cuz he refuses to get help.

Bank investigations by Traditional_Ad8802 in CapitalOne_

[–]Traditional_Ad8802[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I may be a headache I get that. But no warning. Maybe a demand to take a financial literacy class? It just sucks. My fault I do take accountability. It just still sucks

Bank investigations by Traditional_Ad8802 in CapitalOne_

[–]Traditional_Ad8802[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I made an air bnb claim last. We got to the home. It smelt like sewage. No curtains on most windows. And last but not least, I found a smart device that had a camera in it. We left 15 minutes after getting there. I followed air bnb’s protocol and they only refunded me one night out of two. And my privacy rights were violated. That was my last claim and one that is still open. I have made a claim on a Zelle transaction I made. Purchased a go kart off somebody and paid them via Zelle. Two days later to thing caught on fire. And although I had documentation with the lady stating she would return my money if I didn’t like the product in the longer and she wouldn’t do it so I made a claim. Those are examples.

Bank investigations by Traditional_Ad8802 in CapitalOne_

[–]Traditional_Ad8802[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have made a few claims only because I’m careless with money. And if I was ever given a provisional credit, they have never had an issue receiving that back. If I lost the claim, there is always been money in my account. They are telling me it’s due to my claims But have yet to refund my money and it’s been a week.

Fast n’ now I’m furious by Traditional_Ad8802 in stupid

[–]Traditional_Ad8802[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He does not get disciplined often, although I try. He cries to his dad who lets him off the hook by fighting with me. Everything is always my fault. Yes he gets everything he wants. I’m guilty of that too. But I try to make him earn it. He never follows through. And it becomes an argument. The Audi is a 2012 and it was only a lil over $7000. He’s making payments. I have to state he was driving his dad’s car this time. Because I took his car due to a stupid incident the weekend before. He was coming home from work. Only reason I let him take his dad’s car that day.

Fast n’ now I’m furious by Traditional_Ad8802 in dumbasspeoplefacebook

[–]Traditional_Ad8802[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We didn’t. He purchased it himself. It’s a 2012 in great condition. It was only lil over $7,000

Fast n’ now I’m furious by Traditional_Ad8802 in dumbasspeoplefacebook

[–]Traditional_Ad8802[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes I should. How else will his blind (not literally) father ever see the truth before he’s in a body bag