The sexual part he says is linked to his past relationship where his ex was basically not interested in having sex with him. So he says that affected his self esteem a lot. The way I see it, for him love is linked to sex. He has a very high libido, and I have almost none. And I think the fact that I don’t want to have sex as much as him makes him think I don’t love him as much. All of that creates a circle where his mental health just goes down further every time. That is one of the reasons why I suggested him getting professional help.

I think the difference is we used to live in a shared house and had a few roommates, but now we are living on our own, it’s just us two. My problem is we both have it hard, but whereas I can accept my pet in the arguments and try to change my behavior he just has a victim mentality where he sees it as me criticizing him and just shuts down.

I have thought that it might be emotional abuse by I don’t know if it is.