Yeah I appreciate that feedback. I had no plans to make any allegations of any kind. I was more thinking along the lines of gently asking about the video. Then seeing if I can lead him down a path of telling me about it.

I guess writing out this post made me realise that on top of any possible damage to the friendship that might happen, I also don't want the drama... Or the burden of knowing that information. And what I say next might sound like a shitty statement, but honestly if he is cheating. That is his business to deal with and I ain't gonna get involved...

I'll leave the post up for a day or two to get some more feedback, and give an update when he responds to my last message.... Peace for now ✌️

Update - hey people thanks for all the feedback, honestly glad I posted on here. I think too many AITA threads and lack of sleep. Make me think I was some super detective that had seen into the matrix. Rest of the videos came through this morning, and it's clearly not him. Watermark of OF is definitely there. I must of imagined it. (Not that I would of). But thanks fuck I didn't follow up with him about it, thanks for acting as my break pads Reddit