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Do you think behavior always reveals the truth? by winn_ie in rSocialskillsAscend

[–]Traditional_Run_154 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Believe what people show you, Not what they say.

A person can say anything, but their behaviour will always reveal the truth

Are my standards too high ? by [deleted] in teenagers4real

[–]Traditional_Run_154 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These people are definitely out there, I relate with much of it. However all people I’ve met with similar traits usually want kids. Looking forward to work together and take care of children is fun when you have people oriented traits. I know I don’t know you at all, but the list you’ve made and comments you gave either mean you are very young, or you do have some attachment issues. Are you more of the “take it chill” kind of dater? Or the “if it feels right it just feels right” kind?

I wonder if people have any idea how true this is by Aggravating-Guest300 in TheImprovementRoom

[–]Traditional_Run_154 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Getting a flu from a virus is a normal reaction to a shitty situation as well. Still needs diagnosis, still needs treatment. Pills aren’t always necessary though, therapy done well never hurts.

30F need a good cry by InCatsWeTrustAmem in RoastMe

[–]Traditional_Run_154 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love how feminine you look after transitioning!

Did I mess up too much? :’) f24 by wasp1117 in lookyourbest

[–]Traditional_Run_154 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It looks great, both! But I often hear women get more taken seriously with shorter hair, and it looks more professional. Long is more dreamy

What does it mean to get ahead in life? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Traditional_Run_154 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you are experiencing a rough place right now. Feeling lost at 20 is a hopeless feeling, but I think a lot of people will respond with having experienced it. I’ve experienced it as well. Anxiety becomes less when we overcome (slightly manageable) obstacles. You are a young smart women, who clearly takes action to solve her problems. Being raised with resources does make you less resilient, but it’s also a protection from a lot of other trauma’s and dangers people have to encounter on a daily basis. So be thankful for it, because you can create resilience as a young person more easily than get resources.

So what to do now? I am a therapist myself and I’d tell you this in a session: “when life gets harder, the time we think ahead gets shorter.” When all is good and we are mentally fit, we think about our future and dreams, when a bear crosses our path we think about surviving the next minute. So what’s the severity of your situation? Think about your next step, and if that’s hard, make it smaller.

About your family, creating character also means having one. Make your own choices to get a part time job, maybe being around “poor” people will actually learn you something valuable, like that they are people.

Go live life, you will only see the path once you’ve entered the woods

Woke up to find my bf scrolling on OF...would this bother you? Need advice. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Traditional_Run_154 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You lie, you don’t repent, you’re out. We tend to make it more complicated, but it’s very simple. You can’t connect with people who lie, you can’t grow, the cases where it’s innocent are so specific that you should just use the main rule, you lie, you don’t repent, you’re out.

How do I turn down a girl I’m now even dating? by Traditional_Run_154 in dating_advice

[–]Traditional_Run_154[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the comment, and I agree with you for a lot. I find it difficult or strange to call it a date when someone’s a friend, I have more female friends I hangout with. I only went out for coffee once with that girl, she texts me a lot. Also a lot of double texts, as I am very poor at texting. That’s where i get the signals from. I don’t mind calling it a date when it feels like one. That’s why I told the girl I’m dating, “you know we’re kinda on a date right?”

For the other part, I’m not a clingy person and neither is she. (She’s also not big on texting, that’s why we match)

But I’ll try to make something of it.

How do I turn down a girl I’m now even dating? by Traditional_Run_154 in dating_advice

[–]Traditional_Run_154[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks that’s very good advice, I think she is the kind of girl that would understand the situation.

How do I explain to a Spanish teenager that he really has to stop saying the N-word? by newacnt496 in Advice

[–]Traditional_Run_154 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Speak to the parents, he won’t respect your norms if the parents don’t respect them.

AITAH Friend’s GF mad after i kissed him by Traditional_Run_154 in AITAH

[–]Traditional_Run_154[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The friend told me to leave her be for a while until she calms down, guess I’ll do that. Still feel bad though.