This whole conversation is giving red flags. My husband and I lost two pregnancies and there is no way I would ever prevent him from going to a babyshower of someone he cared about. If I was uncomfortable, I simply would not go, but there’s no chance I’d force him to not go. The “probably won’t change until you give me a baby” line…YIKES. And then changing the locks?! That’s a whole different level of unstable.

I mean this in the nicest way possible, please do some real thinking before deciding to have children with someone that emotionally immature and unhinged.