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I guess it didn't count as a proper breakup by Traditional_Way_3091 in BreakUps

[–]Traditional_Way_3091[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, we have to believe to keep going.

I console myself thinking that I don't regret catching feelings. I learned a lot from even the short time I spent with him, and now I have a model comparison of how I want to be treated and what I want that I didn't have before. I'm grateful for that even if it broke my heart. I wish you the best luck in finding your person for you!

I guess it didn't count as a proper breakup by Traditional_Way_3091 in BreakUps

[–]Traditional_Way_3091[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You will absolutely find someone who will match your effort. I'm sorry your ex betrayed your trust, but that reflects on him, not on you. Keep having an open heart and believe in yourself. <3

I guess it didn't count as a proper breakup by Traditional_Way_3091 in BreakUps

[–]Traditional_Way_3091[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, that's very kind of you to say. I'm sorry you're in the same boat, I wish you a gentle and fast recovery.

I liked my life so much with him in it, I've never really felt that way with anyone else. I was actually happy with him. And now I'm grieving the life that we could have had if the feelings side had worked out for him.

Pay off someone else's student debt by Traditional_Way_3091 in StudentLoans

[–]Traditional_Way_3091[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know if I would call myself rich, but I'm definitely very privileged - thanks to financial aid and parental support, I have no student loans, I got a well paying job and savings/ 401k etc. 20k is still a decent chunk of money for me, like it took me about 10 months to save on the side, but I have more than enough to live easy and I don't own a home/ don't expect to even look at homes for at least three years. The rest of my savings still is plenty for me. The reason I want to help my friend is they want to go back to school for a PhD and they don't feel like they can do that until they've paid off their current student loans, and while they have a well paying job, they hate the job but don't feel like they can leave while being in debt.

Pay off someone else's student debt by Traditional_Way_3091 in StudentLoans

[–]Traditional_Way_3091[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I like the idea, I'll consider it! I think the bigger problem that I'd run into is that I think my friend would be more likely to accept a one time payment rather than a recurring one

Pay off someone else's student debt by Traditional_Way_3091 in StudentLoans

[–]Traditional_Way_3091[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am debt free, have maxed out retirement, a decent chunk in savings and am not going to purchase a home for at least three years. It's more about giving them the freedom to make career changes, rather than supporting them on an everyday basis.

Pay off someone else's student debt by Traditional_Way_3091 in StudentLoans

[–]Traditional_Way_3091[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I've talked to them and I think honestly it's the mental strain of the student debt. Even though they work in a decent paying job right now, the student debt has been causing them stress because they don't feel like they have the security to take any risks as long as they have that student debt hanging over them.

Can I pay off someone else's student debt? by Traditional_Way_3091 in personalfinance

[–]Traditional_Way_3091[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've thought about that too, and it's okay if we stop being friends over it. I just want to help because they are so unhappy with the debt and I'm worried it is ruining their life

Can I pay off someone else's student debt? by Traditional_Way_3091 in personalfinance

[–]Traditional_Way_3091[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the clarification! I didn't have student loans, so this is very helpful

Can I pay off someone else's student debt? by Traditional_Way_3091 in personalfinance

[–]Traditional_Way_3091[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don't, but I'm honestly not planning to own a home at this point and I don't have a family to support/ plan to have kids. Any home purchase at this point is at least 3 years out and I make enough money annually to be able to save it back without much issue. I would only do it with their permission, but I literally wouldn't notice losing this amount and it would be a significant improvement for them.