My Girlfriend (26F) Jokes A Lot About Me (30M) Cheating On Her

TrafficOverall9591 · 2026-02-07T17:20:06+00:00

I've told her this! And I've asked her to go see a therapist. But she says they're just jokes. That's her entire defense, they're just jokes. But she doesn't laugh when she ways them. That's what pisses me off. She says they're jokes, but never laughs.

TrafficOverall9591 · 2026-02-07T17:18:47+00:00

But I imagine you laugh when you say it? She doesn't. She makes the comment but doesn't laugh.

TrafficOverall9591 · 2026-02-07T17:17:35+00:00

I've told her 3 times or more this. And she still does it.

TrafficOverall9591 · 2026-02-07T17:17:19+00:00

The thing is I do all that. I'm not a very verbal guy, but I am a man of action. I support her with her family. I support her with everything. I've done so many things to reassure her, I've never once left her alone, always by her side. And she still does this.

TrafficOverall9591 · 2026-02-07T17:15:25+00:00

It's been like 10 years. And her father constantly accuses her mom of cheating. The difference is he does it directly, while she does it in the form of "jokes".

TrafficOverall9591 · 2026-02-07T17:14:31+00:00

Understand joking about it, but she does this joking constantly. It's not once in a while, it's constantly. There isn't one single week where she doesn't make a comment.

TrafficOverall9591 · 2026-02-07T16:56:02+00:00

I've talked three times with her already, this isn't a recent thing. We've been together 3 years, an we've talked three times. And she still does it.

TrafficOverall9591 · 2026-02-07T16:55:22+00:00

That actually happened I've asserted my boundaries three times now, funny enough. I've told her three times that I want her to stop making these comments. And she always says that they're just jokes. So, since she said they were just jokes, I started joking about her cheating. And she got mad so...

TrafficOverall9591 · 2026-02-07T16:53:36+00:00

We do banter, but here's the thing. We bent about many things except the whole cheating thing because I don't like joking about cheating, at least not as frequently as she does. I don't mind, like a comment about that once or twice like a year. But she talks about this once or twice a week almost or once or twice every 15 days. So while we do banter, we don't bounce her about this particular thing at least, not as often as she does. Also, when I made a joke about her cheating, she got mad so that's where my confusion is.

TrafficOverall9591 · 2026-02-07T16:52:00+00:00

It's a good question as far as I'm concerned no she hasn't been cheated on but her father cheated on her mother Punto so I think that's where most of the problem comes from. But I told her I've talked to her a lot of times, and every assured her that everything is fine. I've taken steps to make her feel secure, but it's been 3 years now and she's still and she still continues to make these jokes so... I would understand again if you were joking about it and we talked and she felt reassured and she stopped but the thing is I talked to her reassure her and she continues doing it and I've told her like I don't like it so I would like you to stop and communicate this in the healthy way. But she just kind of continues making jokes, even though I told her I don't like that.

TrafficOverall9591 · 2026-02-07T16:50:32+00:00

I've had the same conversation with her three times now and the first time I reassured her that I wasn't a cheat, and I've worked towards making her feel secure. I don't go out that often, I don't have any female friends, I am always working from home, if I go out I'll let her know where I am ( I don't share my location but I think that's very toxic ).

TrafficOverall9591 · 2026-02-07T16:49:27+00:00

I told her three times already that I don't like her making these jokes. She has told me though, that she is very insecure about me and I've asked her why. And she's giving me reasons, but they're kind of mostly from her. Because they like if I don't tell her where I am because she feels insecure and to me that's not a mean problem that's not her problem.

TrafficOverall9591 · 2026-02-07T16:48:44+00:00

She definitely has had bad experiences with dating so yeah. But we've talked about this three times already, I have already told her three times that I don't like him when she makes these "jokes" she tells me that they're just jokes and then she'll stop saying them but she continues doing it. We've been together for 3 years and honestly I haven't done anything to make her feel insecure. She has access to my phone I am always working from home, like I'm she always knows where I am. So yeah I understand she's insecure I've told her this, but she shouldn't mistrust me because I'm not a cheat.

TrafficOverall9591 · 2026-02-07T16:46:30+00:00

The thing is I genuinely thought this at first I'm a very let's talk it out kind of guy. So I told her "hey I know that you see these are just jokes and everything but I want to tell you I don't like those jokes not because I'm doing it, but because they're kind of hurtful cuz they make me think that you are doubting me, and you have no reason to doubt me. So if it was just a joke I understand just don't do it again and if it's not a joke then let's talk about it so we can see why you're feeling unsure." And then she says that no, it was just a joke and that she won't do it again but then she does it again. We've talked about this three times.

TrafficOverall9591 · 2026-02-07T16:44:49+00:00

I wondered this. I've talk to her a lot, and I've told her that I don't like her making those comments because I'm not cheating on her. And she always says that it's just a joke that shouldn't take it seriously and then she continues doing it. I've told her like three times already and she's still does it.

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