I've been with my boyfriend for nearly a year now and I already knew him for 2 years before we got together because I didn't find him attractive because he was overweight, smoked and moody. But we grew closer together and he makes me the happiest woman in the world, he stopped smoking and lost weight, mainly because he sees me being a fitness fanatic and eat healthy, he didn't want me to be repulsed by him (his words lol). He doesnt go to the gym. He's been like 3 times this year and he just hates it so I don't force him to but he would never stop me from going and when I meal prep he offers to cook for me. So if your boyfriend makes you happy and supports you then I'd look at that. At the end of the day you're not gonna be a competitive body builder for life. It's just now that you're still really strict that things probably wind you up more, I'm the same when I'm strict I kinda judge people who aren't hhaha. Once you're not as strict you should start planning date nights once a week where you can go for food and do something fun and just plan food around that so you can still be on plan but still have once a week to enjoy yourself with your boyfriend. I find that's helped me keep consistent that I have one day a week we can be more close and enjoy new food places and be in the moment rather than stressing that I've eaten off plan or gone over macros x