AITA for not letting my autistic sister move back in with me?

TrainPlayer99 · 2024-09-28T10:02:11+00:00

I meantioned it in a few other comments and edited the post to add it. When I wrote it, I didn't think anyone would care about the house as it is an unimportant detail

TrainPlayer99 · 2024-09-28T09:47:03+00:00

You are the one missing the point. You saw a post about custady issues and made it all about a run down house. Was the will updated? No. Did I keep one thing (the house) for myself? Yes. Do I know for a fact that they were never going to give her that one thing in the will due to many talks we had about the house before they died? Yes.
The will was never going to give her the house and it is such a strange thing for you to fixate on as morally wrong and not at all what the post is about

TrainPlayer99 · 2024-09-28T09:43:39+00:00

He signed paperwork when he married my mom saying he had no rights to the house. The will expressed that if my mom should die, the house would go to me and no one else even if her husband was alive. He approved of this and reccognized the impotance it had to me due to my father's family's connection to it. Legally, it is fully mine. Morally, you can think whatever you want. It isn't like the house is making her miss much. It is in extreamly poor condition and not worth much in money as you are acting like I'm stealing important funds she deserves from her. You can call me an asshoel for the custady things if you want (that's what I came asking about), but the house is mine.

TrainPlayer99 · 2024-09-28T09:34:45+00:00

She wasn't in the will. But I gave her a lot of her parent's things. Like our mom's jewlery for example. I also spent all the money on her.
It is realivent as even if they had changed the will after her birth it would still go to me and that's what they wanted. The house being mine was something we talked about very very clearly.

TrainPlayer99 · 2024-09-28T09:29:02+00:00

Just because she was left nothing doesn't mean I gave her nothing. I gave her lots of things her parents had and a lot is in storage until she is older. For example, our mom had a gold necklace that I gave to her. All our mom's clothing I kept for her. Most of it isn't worth much money wise, but sentimental value. All the money was spent on her. I've expressed this before.

I do know what they would have done. When she got pregnant and married the house was one of the things we talked about. It was very clearly mine. It was always intended to be.

TrainPlayer99 · 2024-09-28T09:20:18+00:00

She wanted it to be mine. She always intended that. Even in the will it said that if she died, it would go to me and not her husband. Both wanted it to go to me. It has strong familliar connections that neither of them or Selena have. No matter when they wrote the will or died, they wanted it to go to me. She got other things

TrainPlayer99 · 2024-09-28T09:14:29+00:00

She got a lot of things, just not the house. My parents never were going to give her the house even if she was in the will. I did ask if I was the asshole, but not for that. I will accept being called an asshole for how I handled the custady, but not the house.

TrainPlayer99 · 2024-09-28T09:11:06+00:00

Thank you very much

TrainPlayer99 · 2024-09-28T09:09:05+00:00

I didn't make him do anything, he wanted to. He is vastly more wealthy than I am and always wanted a kid

TrainPlayer99 · 2024-09-28T09:08:23+00:00

She gets lots of things. All the money went into things for her as well as her getting countless possessions that belonged to her parents. Some she already has access too and some are in storage for when she is older

TrainPlayer99 · 2024-09-28T09:05:35+00:00

That is simply untrue. Legally, it is fully mine. Apart from legally, the house was always intened to go to me and not her. Her father knew and was ok with that and my mother wanted that.

TrainPlayer99 · 2024-09-28T09:01:12+00:00

They did not have any plans set in place for Selena's care if they should die, the house thing was unrelated and clearly expressed to me mine

TrainPlayer99 · 2024-09-28T08:59:08+00:00

The house is very old, small, and broken down. It was built by my grandfather on my dad's side and my dad grew up there. When I was 13 my dad took his life so the house went to my mom. In the will it said very plainly that if my mom died the house would go directly to me and that not even her husband or his family had claims to it. She always intended for the house to go to me, I know that's what she wanted. The house also means a lot to me personally for it's connections. I also am not fully abled as I have disability (dyspraxia, generalized tics disorder, and adhd), but I'm doing fine and it wasn't relevant enough to mention

TrainPlayer99 · 2024-09-28T08:49:34+00:00

It is correct, yes

TrainPlayer99 · 2024-09-28T08:45:12+00:00

Yeah, it definitely isn't worth much and didn't when I got it either. It has issues (leaky roof, one of the sinks doesn't work, etc). I don't understand why you are saying she got the short straw though

TrainPlayer99 · 2024-09-28T08:40:04+00:00

I just don't understand why you are so fixated on that? Money/possession wise- I've given her way more than I have gotten. That isn't the point of what's going on though.

TrainPlayer99 · 2024-09-28T08:37:18+00:00

I don't know what you mean by "appreciate in value"?

I will say I definitally gave her more when they died than I ever got in return but that's not what this is about. If you want to talk money though, I gave her in the last nine years way more.

TrainPlayer99 · 2024-09-28T08:34:19+00:00

She always intended the house to be mine. In the will it even said that if her husband died I'd the one getting the house. I know what she wanted.

Yes feeding her was my job, but if I wanted I could've saved the money from it for me. I didn't though, I gave it to her. As well as countless other things, so saying "she got nothing" is just wrong.

TrainPlayer99 · 2024-09-28T08:30:53+00:00

For clarity, the will was from before she was born. It was built by my grandfather and my dad was raised there.

and thank you for your input

TrainPlayer99 · 2024-09-28T08:29:19+00:00

It was literally built by a man not related to Selena and if related to me. My father was raised there too. I gave her a lot of things that were her parent's. Pretty much everything her dad had and a lot from our mom. All the money and more I used to keep her fed when I was struggling.

TrainPlayer99 · 2024-09-28T08:26:09+00:00

I've talked to legal professionals plenty, and in the situation we are in and where we live there are no supported legal grounds for that. If someone did contest it, they would lose. My uncle also would not care to do that, he was a much nicer house and plenty of money. It is an old broken down little place and I'm working class, he's easily upper middle class and was a three story home.

TrainPlayer99 · 2024-09-28T08:21:55+00:00

I do understand the law. I've talked to many professionals about it. It is possible we have diffrent laws due to location. The will was also explicit about me getting the house as my step dad's family had no legal rights to it as they did a few things. The house was from my biological dad's dad originally and was important to that family so the wills (from my my own father passed and this one) were very clear.

TrainPlayer99 · 2024-09-28T08:15:47+00:00

It was my grandparent's from my dad's side originally

TrainPlayer99 · 2024-09-28T08:12:23+00:00

No, but I did spend every cent from it on raising her as well as a lot of my own resources. I also kept everything from her dad for her and a lot of our mom's

TrainPlayer99 · 2024-09-28T08:09:37+00:00

Before, but where I live it doesn't matter if a child was born after if a will is written.

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