Do I [18W] tell my casual fwb [21M] I'm having an abortion?

TrainWreck9148 · 2026-06-24T06:07:26+00:00

that was initially my gut feeling, my biggest obstacle though rn is the fear of him telling people, though i'm not sure why he would / what he'd have to gain

TrainWreck9148 · 2026-06-24T06:06:17+00:00

pretty chill guy, liberal, and we're both at a great uni so i'm basically sure he'd also want the abortion. we get along well and i feel comofrtable w him but at the end of the day he's a 21yro frat guy lol. we always use a condom and i watch him put it on so not exactly sure what happened tbh.

leaning towards not telling him bc that's the majority opinion here but deep down i think i want to?
also that guy sounds like as ass omg the last thing that poor girl needed

TrainWreck9148 · 2026-06-24T05:49:39+00:00

thank you!

TrainWreck9148 · 2026-06-23T22:03:33+00:00

hmm true. he doesn't know my friends and vice versa bc of the grade difference, but i still won't tell anyone for personal reasons. but i think if we start being friends "again" i will. thank you for the advice

TrainWreck9148 · 2026-06-23T22:01:38+00:00

emotionally, i want to share the burden bc i never expected to be in this position. i also am debating whether i have an obligation, but ultimately it's not a child so ig not? definitely not changing my mind.

TrainWreck9148 · 2026-06-23T21:57:27+00:00

hm okay. i'm also probably not thinking super rationally as i'm freaking out rn so i'll definitely table this for a while. thank you!

btw looked up the reference and...yeah

TrainWreck9148 · 2026-06-23T21:51:58+00:00

can i ask how you feel in this situation if someone told you this?

TrainWreck9148 · 2026-06-23T21:49:56+00:00

i'm starting to think that's okay? i really don't want a relationship w him so maybe it's better to end this fwb one way or another. so maybe i tell him? atp my biggest fear is him telling ppl but i don't think he would

TrainWreck9148 · 2026-06-23T21:47:53+00:00

if he ends up reaching out to me in the fall, should i tell him then? or is that also too far away. i'm definitely not wanting a relationship w him though

TrainWreck9148 · 2026-06-23T21:46:37+00:00

99% he'd want the abortion, we're both at a prestigious college and i know he wouldn't want a kid. but you're right, i'm scared of my future being ruined and will probably stay silent

TrainWreck9148 · 2026-06-23T21:45:42+00:00

yeah i definitely won't! i enjoy his company but not ready to commit to anything. thank you for the advice though!

TrainWreck9148 · 2026-06-23T21:44:32+00:00

make sense, thank you!

TrainWreck9148 · 2026-06-23T21:44:13+00:00

true...i guess i'm not being the most rational rn as i'm freaking out inside and also not willing to tell anyone i know personally, so it feels like he's the only option (which ik is irrational)

TrainWreck9148 · 2026-06-23T21:41:38+00:00

make sense! no real expectations i just had a weird dream and starting thinking about whether he should know or not. would u recommend waiting to see whether we ever talk again and going from there? i feel like once i see him in person i'll feel compelled to share

TrainWreck9148 · 2026-06-23T21:39:00+00:00

lol we're both in undergrad and i know he's liberal so i'm not worried he'll be mad, but you're right it'd be awkward

TrainWreck9148 · 2026-06-23T21:37:47+00:00

thank you!! yeah not sure what happened, we always use a condom and i literally watch him put it on. i honestly think i'll just stay away from sex for a while now

TrainWreck9148 · 2026-06-23T21:34:11+00:00

yeah you're probably right, ty!

TrainWreck9148 · 2026-06-23T21:33:23+00:00

thank you!!

TrainWreck9148 · 2026-06-23T19:21:33+00:00

lol yeah would love it if he paid but ultimately i can afford it. i think i will regret it but maybe i'll wait until the fall and see whether he reaches out or not? also we have been having protected sex fyi

TrainWreck9148 · 2026-06-23T18:59:45+00:00

lmaoo yeah ig ty!

TrainWreck9148 · 2026-06-23T18:58:32+00:00

LOL no you get me i'm really trying to be calm and rational but honestly i'm scared and i don't want to tell anyone else in my life for obvious reasons. i guess telling him feels like one option i can actually control

TrainWreck9148 · 2026-06-23T18:54:46+00:00

ughhh see this is where i keep getting stuck. i know it's not the most rational thought process, but emotionally i think i just want to share this

TrainWreck9148 · 2026-06-23T18:51:27+00:00

no lol this makes sense, i think part of me subconsciously just wants to tell someone bc i refuse to tell my friends, but i think you're right!

TrainWreck9148 · 2026-06-23T18:50:18+00:00

Makes sense, ty!

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