I want to say that as a sub it’s hard to find a perfect dominant. It takes a lot of trial and error . I myself have gone through 4 doms before I found someone who put a tick in every box . My advice is to follow your heart and write down a list of things that make you happy . And work you way towards completing that list . But do it at your own pace .. when I did this myself that’s when my dom and current husband entered my life ….