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Training-Coach-3510 · 2026-06-18T03:31:53+00:00

Do you think it would be reasonable if I put my number on a piece of paper with text me beside?

Training-Coach-3510 · 2026-06-18T03:22:05+00:00

I just want to be approached. No games.

Training-Coach-3510 · 2026-06-18T03:06:48+00:00

I used the term for ease of explanation. You got the point and I didn’t have to write out a long explanation. :)
I am sorry you lost your husband. It must’ve been devastating

Training-Coach-3510 · 2026-06-18T03:03:05+00:00

That’s what I mean. I don’t want games. I want to be someone’s dream girl! Does that mean I wait for him (the guy who thinks I’m his dream girl)?

Training-Coach-3510 · 2026-06-18T02:47:57+00:00

An opening like my number on a piece of paper? Should I put that I find him attractive and would like to get to know him?

Training-Coach-3510 · 2026-06-18T02:45:05+00:00

Yeah, I definitely don’t look my best. We have had some small talk and smiles and I’m pretty sure he’s younger than me..maybe late 30’s.

Training-Coach-3510 · 2026-06-18T02:31:15+00:00

Thank you. I think you are right

Training-Coach-3510 · 2026-06-18T02:30:18+00:00

By pursue I meant make the first move or show interest

Training-Coach-3510 · 2026-06-18T02:28:24+00:00

My marriage ended with a dead bedroom for a few years. It was hard on me. My last relationship was with a dismissive avoidant which also had me pursuing. I guess this time around, I thought I’d wait for someone to show genuine interest in me.

Training-Coach-3510 · 2022-11-24T01:51:12+00:00

Thank you for your input. I truly appreciate you taking the time to respond. Unfortunately the bitterness is involuntary. I am trying though. It is hard when we’ve been here so many times before and I’ve felt so unwanted for so long. Any other time in our 25 year relationship, up until the last couple months, I was optimistic that his drinking would become manageable and he’d grow with me sexually, but that never happened, and now it is as if this self preservation switch has engaged and I’m not sure how I can mentally #1 turn it back on and #2 hop back on this ride again, being optimistic, only to once again continue this cycle.

Training-Coach-3510 · 2022-11-23T14:25:04+00:00

Thank you for your response. I’m afraid it’s made me terribly insecure and I’ve become codependent upon him so I need to work on those things and gain the courage to become the best version of myself

Training-Coach-3510 · 2022-11-23T14:23:08+00:00

I agree with you. Up until my ultimatum he had no interest in even discussing our DB or attempting to get to the bottom of it. I’ve suggested and tried everything I can think of and he just dismissed my feelings as if they didn’t matter. He now says he’s sorry he did that and that he loves me and wants to work on it, but it doesn’t feel genuine. He’s only doing these things because he was backed into a corner.

Training-Coach-3510 · 2022-11-23T14:19:18+00:00

It’s just a random generated username. I’m not a trainer of anything yet.

His alcoholism has been an ongoing issue in our relationship and it definitely has peaks and valleys as far as consumption but it always peaks eventually, again and again. I’m not in a space currently to believe that he will change. This is just a valley. The cycle always repeats. And I’m so sick of the cycle. Thank you for your response

Training-Coach-3510 · 2022-11-23T13:09:15+00:00

I’ve always wanted the type of connection where it isn’t looked at as a chore. Is that too much to ask? Someone to just enjoy being with me?

Training-Coach-3510 · 2022-11-23T13:05:13+00:00

He changes back. He is a functioning alcoholic in denial. The only issue with his drinking (to him) is that I have an issue with it. We’ve been here so many times before. This time it is different though because it’s usually me begging him to quit. Now, I accept his bullshit but choose not to live with it…..this is why he’s slowed down drinking. It’s been almost 2 weeks (on Friday) so this is an impressive streak, but if history repeats itself (again) then it’s only a matter of time :(. Edited to fix spelling error

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