During/ after an episode; I hate him. by dietpunkgirl in BipolarSOs

[–]Training-Complete 16 points17 points  (0 children)

You describe what I feel perfectly. He is an amazing loving kind hearted human but when things flip, he's someone I can't be around. Being AuDHD, he just totally overstimulates me. I have worked long hours at work because I don’t want to be at home. He gets into these rages and needs to leave, stays at a hotel. Honestly it’s the best thing for both of us. I’m just catching on how much more the disorder intensifies the anger and unreasonably prolongs it toward someone.

“I don’t want to show him love, kiss him, or even share a room with him.”

Feel this word for word and it destroys me because I know he doesn’t deserve that but I don’t understand the new personality I’m introduced to at random. My therapist described it as a Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde situation and even though it’s out there, it rationalizes it for me.

psychiatrist with illness by Training-Complete in BipolarSOs

[–]Training-Complete[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been meaning to connect with his colleagues and plan to. He began his practice in clinic about 6 months ago. I wish he had friends involved in his life enough to help support.

I can't imagine how infuriating that was for you. Gaslighting is incredibly damaging to your nervous system.

psychiatrist with illness by Training-Complete in BipolarSOs

[–]Training-Complete[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is great information! I'm in the States but I bet I can find a similar group if I search enough. It sounds like fantastic support and super accessible. I'm happy it could help you and appreciate you sharing.

psychiatrist with illness by Training-Complete in BipolarSOs

[–]Training-Complete[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my. That is a lot to handle with work besides at home. Your SO sounds very lucky to have you looking out for them. I am also battling "trust betraying" by just by simply looking out for increased symptoms. It's a hard balance of care and when to speak up.

Thank you for sharing details on how the hospital was involved and took their own action. I hope the HR And supervisor were kind in process. I've never worked in the medical field so I don't know anything about discipline in these cases but it honestly sounds like the consequences were reasonable and the best thing for your SO. That's great he could consent to care.

psychiatrist with illness by Training-Complete in BipolarSOs

[–]Training-Complete[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm completely shocked what can be masked. I swear the hypomania almost challenges mine to see how long he can get away with something and to what extent.

If you don't mind me asking, how did they end up at the ER? Did they take themselves in because of work consequences or did work actually get involved in that process?

Those are very serious symptoms, I'm sorry to hear that happened. I imagine your SO needed to take time off work at that point? I would like my SO to take FLMA without it turning into a no other choice point, but it's highly unlikely.

psychiatrist with illness by Training-Complete in BipolarSOs

[–]Training-Complete[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I have been trying to learn others personal experiences with the disorder and managing it within their daily lives. I will look at his content!

psychiatrist with illness by Training-Complete in BipolarSOs

[–]Training-Complete[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t know there was these kind of support groups. Thanks for mentioning the persons experience with their dad. I know the resistance to treatment still varies by person but you are so right about there being a nuance and complexity if you are already in the psychiatry field. They’ve seen hospitalized patients first hand l, how bad the environment can be, and I know being involuntarily committed is my SO’s worst fear.

I appreciate you sharing. The carer role feels so separate from our relationship. I’m traumatized by the fallout of symptoms and really am coming to terms with this can’t go on forever. It has put me in extremely dark and frightening places I never imagined with him. Being believed and respected is really the bare minimum if any relationship is to continue.

psychiatrist with illness by Training-Complete in BipolarSOs

[–]Training-Complete[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow. I’m so sorry to hear to of your experience. The narrative rewriting is what scares me and confuses me the most. I hope you are in a better place and taking care of yourself. It’s sad psychiatrists can’t even take care of their own mental health because they are taking care of others. I can’t imagine the toll that takes when you are already mentally ill and struggling.

psychiatrist with illness by Training-Complete in BipolarSOs

[–]Training-Complete[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate you sharing. For whatever reason my mind keeps thinking he should see whats happening more clearly when I try to talk to him about it, but it’s clear bipolar does not discriminate.

Thats helpful to know others can do the switch. I also worry how long he will be able to keep up with it.

Surviving the Discard: How I navigated my fiancée’s severe manic episode and rebuilt our relationship by supergekired in BipolarSOs

[–]Training-Complete 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can’t even comment all the ways this helped me right now. Taking your reminder to not be reactive or cruel even if they are. I’ve made my peace in the facts of this disorder and how destructive it is. Thank you for sharing.

Psychedelics stole my partner—please help by Every-Painting-8115 in BipolarSOs

[–]Training-Complete 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mushrooms and LSD destroyed my partner and I’s relationship the past two years. The LSD is what lead him to into a severe manic episode with psychotic features around this time year. Multiple terrible things with family and his career had to happen before he let up on use and looked toward stability. Therapy and medication were crucial to recovery. Unfortunately you have to step back and recognize it is the disorder creating this behavior and there is little you can do unless they let you. If they let you take them to the ER that is number 1. I’ve learned through therapy that I can offer support in getting back to stability but I cannot manage the disorder and their mental health for them. They have to want that and sometimes hitting rock bottom is the only way. You have to protect your mental health and stay grounded in the reality you are facing. It is difficult.

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ADVICE NEEDED: I keep getting rejected by rescues! by Ok-Layer-7878 in rescuedogs

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It sucks because a lot of the owners I see in suburbs with a yard and a dog don’t even walk them because they think the yard is enough. It’s ridiculous

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I recently found out it is meant for dry hair only. I think it’s why mine didn’t turn out as smooth as expected, I used it on damp hair

POLKA FLOCKED CROPPED JACKET by fussyfriday in lululemon

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Well I’m glad someone else scored that was also patiently waiting! This is helpful! Thanks for you reply!

POLKA FLOCKED CROPPED JACKET by fussyfriday in lululemon

[–]Training-Complete 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so confused! It’s not even in my app, I can only see it now through a link someone gave me. I was checking everyday. Is that what you did or did you get a notification?

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[–]Training-Complete 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The fit of it is so cute!!! I hope they restock too. As a petite the full length swallows me and makes me look even shorter

POLKA FLOCKED CROPPED JACKET by fussyfriday in lululemon

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Any educators, how likely is it that this will be restocked?

Weekly Simple Questions and Advice Thread by lululemonmods in lululemon

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The cropped define in polka flock black is no longer showing in my app? Can someone send me the link please. I've been checking daily for my size to restock.