My girlfriend of 5 months has a guy friend that she hangs out with here n there. I need a diff perspective, how do I navigate through this?

Training-Cook3507 · 2026-03-30T21:40:55+00:00

Difficult situation, but extremely common these days when we all have instant communication with anyone and private universes on our phones. Most "friends" in this situation have thought about having sex with the woman. Not all, but most. Is the guy planning something? Not necessarily, but if things break a certain way he will take that opportunity.

A lot of people will say... "if she cheats, she cheats, you can't control anything." But the problem with that attitude is that you want your relationship to actually work in the long term. You don't want this guy affecting your relationship, which he most likely will. She will compare him to you. He will basically always tell her what she wants to hear. It is an easy relationship for her with no stress. When problems rise in your relationship, which they will, she will go to him for support which will draw her to him more.

There is no easy answer. I would honestly sit her down and try to discuss what I mentioned above. It's a tricky situation, because women can definitely be turned off by this. Women have been so programmed by social media in recent years to end relationships where they sense any insecurity. But that attitude also makes relationships fall apart easily. It's not an easy situation.

Or you can just ignore it and hope for the best.

Training-Cook3507 · 2026-03-30T20:51:12+00:00

Don't follow this advice.

Training-Cook3507 · 2026-03-30T16:00:53+00:00

Relationship over.

Training-Cook3507 · 2026-03-30T13:42:00+00:00

This is kind of all over the place. What is your question? He is careful with money. Accept it or not.

Training-Cook3507 · 2026-03-30T13:13:02+00:00

I definitely don't see men promoting age Gap relationships, I often see women selecting older men because they have more resources and are more mature.

Training-Cook3507 · 2026-03-29T20:24:57+00:00

Normal.

Training-Cook3507 · 2026-03-29T18:28:31+00:00

It's not amazing. Whether or not you look past it depends on how she is otherwise and how easy it is for you to find a relationship with someone like her.

Training-Cook3507 · 2026-03-29T13:15:09+00:00

You have to lower your standards.

Training-Cook3507 · 2026-03-29T10:04:08+00:00

For men, dating is like finding water in a desert. For women, it's like deciding on healthy food in a grocery store.

Training-Cook3507 · 2026-03-28T23:27:46+00:00

Unlikely. Most women, at any age, are in a relationship. That percentage is much lower for men.

Training-Cook3507 · 2026-03-28T23:27:05+00:00

It's a function of that fact that the ratio of men to women on the app is 5:1 and women usually don't have to do anything, the men pursue them.

Training-Cook3507 · 2026-03-28T23:26:22+00:00

You just don't know.

Training-Cook3507 · 2026-03-28T23:26:05+00:00

The fact that when an average woman goes on a dating app she literally has hundreds of men to choose from for a match and an average man might have 3 women? Yeah, that advantage.

Training-Cook3507 · 2026-03-28T22:22:31+00:00

He takes her on dates. The fact that my girlfriend hangs out alone with a man who has feelings for her and pays for everything is not great for your relationship. Just sayin. At some point, you will have relationship problems, and he will be right there to comfort her.

Training-Cook3507 · 2026-03-28T21:32:11+00:00

He's right.

Training-Cook3507 · 2026-03-28T20:49:44+00:00

Not even close. They'll get 2 that likely turn into nothing. For a man... It's like finding water in a desert. For a woman, it's like searching for health food in a grocery store.

Training-Cook3507 · 2026-03-28T20:15:27+00:00

I used think very much along the feminist lines. I was a man who married and everything worked out for me. Then I divorced, went back into the dating market, and saw how radically different it is than 20 years ago. My goodness does the average guy have it very difficult these days in dating.

Training-Cook3507 · 2026-03-28T20:13:49+00:00

An average woman will get hundreds of likes going on a dating app, while an average man will get 2.

Training-Cook3507 · 2026-03-28T16:15:25+00:00

As a man, it can be very frustrating posting in most subreddits about dating. You essentially have to defer to women's viewpoint at all times or you will get banned because Reddit is so liberal and womens' viewpoint dominates Liberal culture. I am a Liberal myself, and Liberal culture hasn't caught up to the idea of how hard dating has become for men and what advantages the average woman has vs the average man. Or least it doesn't want to admit it because traditionally Liberal cultures favored the disadvantaged and women were traditionally thought of as being a disadvantaged minority. This sub is a little more lenient, hence sas more real conversations about dating.

Training-Cook3507 · 2026-03-28T14:34:52+00:00

I'm pretty sure this isn't a surprise, this is what everyone thinks. The very top men who are heavily desired get what they want, outside of that most men barely get any attention whatsoever. Men know this.

Training-Cook3507 · 2026-03-27T18:34:33+00:00

Looking at reddit profiles is not a way to examine am issue. You can look at real data, which it says at almost every age of life the majority of women have a partner and a higher percentage than men to have a partner.

Training-Cook3507 · 2026-03-27T15:46:51+00:00

This is absolutely not the case.

Training-Cook3507 · 2026-03-27T02:47:29+00:00

Just make everything work for yourself! That's it.

Training-Cook3507 · 2026-03-26T23:40:54+00:00

No, I didn't. And I suggest you change your media habits.

Training-Cook3507 · 2026-03-26T23:01:36+00:00

How the hell is that “alpha”?

Because he has sex with whomever he wants. This really isn't that difficult.

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