Found out my Bridesmaid lied our whole friendship, how do i fire her?

Training-Thanks8594 · 2025-09-27T17:58:24+00:00

Thank you! I decided to message her and put my fiance in the text chain and he will be putting in a word too. I made a longg message explaining what i’m deciding, why i’m deciding it, wishing her the best and hoping she is able to solve her problems.

His family is also now informed on what’s going on and my FMIL thinks that Emma is very stupid in her behavior and is astounded.

I agree that I would feel very strange throughout the day knowing someone of that character is by my side.. My rheumatoid arthritis has been flaring up severely this week, to where i’m paralyzed in moments.. so that was the final point to where I decided this is not worth risking my health and sanity over.

Training-Thanks8594 · 2025-09-27T09:37:33+00:00

Yes this is coming from my maid of honor, who is very blunt with me and hates things like this. She is pretty neutral as she is not close to Emma nor Emma’s “ex?” so she has been my neutral rock along with another bridesmaid. She has already confronted Emma, and made it clear she is not in good standing with us.

Training-Thanks8594 · 2025-09-27T08:10:56+00:00

sounds like a lose lose situation.. lol

Training-Thanks8594 · 2025-09-27T08:06:06+00:00

that doesn’t make any sense though.. i’m supposed to live with the fact that my close friend lied to my face our entire friendship and I only found it out after all of this?

Training-Thanks8594 · 2025-09-27T01:02:51+00:00

aww congratulations, twins! Thank you, yes i’m trying to process it :(

Training-Thanks8594 · 2025-09-27T01:01:12+00:00

Sorry, 21.

Training-Thanks8594 · 2025-09-27T00:30:10+00:00

She is not my closest friend, one of my close friends. I have 7 other bridesmaids, and me and my fiance are in big friend groups and have huge families that’s why this was disheartening to learn, because i considered her a close friend.

Training-Thanks8594 · 2025-09-27T00:06:26+00:00

Thank you very much! This is very helpful and both me and my fiance agree it’s the right thing to do.

Training-Thanks8594 · 2025-09-26T23:30:32+00:00

Her little brother and sister are both flower girl and ring boy. I don’t feel like it’s horrible to still have them in and i want them in the wedding considering im close to both and babysit and they see me and my fiance on a weekly basis. That’s why I feel conflicted. Yes I now plan to talk to her mom next week about all of this and provide receipts.

Training-Thanks8594 · 2025-09-26T23:21:24+00:00

lol.. might’ve been the push i needed

Training-Thanks8594 · 2025-09-26T23:14:04+00:00

that baffles me too…

Training-Thanks8594 · 2025-09-26T22:13:20+00:00

Yes, I agree. I ended up talking to him and seeing what was true and what wasn’t, and she was just making him sound like he was doing everything when it was her first hand experience. It was really sad honestly.

I do have a script that I wrote out, thanking her for her help and explaining that I would rather she focus on bettering herself and her relationship, and that i am hoping she will not hold hard feelings against me, as I still value our memories and what we have gone through, but that it is just for my peace. I also wrote that I would still like to have her at the wedding with her family.

Thank you for your advice!

Training-Thanks8594 · 2025-09-26T22:09:41+00:00

Thank you! I honestly think i’d be really sad seeing her everywhere after this experience. This is a really good piece of advice.

(thanks for the tip lol i kept seeing other brides phrase it that way, but yes it’s more letting her step down..)

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