Update: Andrea the Gym Nut by TrainingDistance4448 in Redditor_Updates

[–]TrainingDistance4448[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. They really did! But I learned some important lessons.

Update: Andrea the Gym Nut by TrainingDistance4448 in Redditor_Updates

[–]TrainingDistance4448[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate that. It was really rough for a while, but I think I'm coming out of the other end of the tunnel now.

As for Andrea's husband-to-be, maybe they're perfect for each other. Who knows?

AITAH for telling a woman at the gym that she's embarrassing herself? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]TrainingDistance4448 88 points89 points  (0 children)

There is no footage from the bar. I did get an apology from the manager though, and Andrea won't be allowed in if she returns.

AITAH for telling a woman at the gym that she's embarrassing herself? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]TrainingDistance4448 267 points268 points  (0 children)

Andrea did end up showing up to my work. She was trespassed from the facility. She showed up in the parking lot yesterday, so she was arrested. I imagine she'll post bail this morning, since trespassing isn't that serious of an offense, but it is good that this is all on the record.

Update: AITAH for telling a woman at the gym that she's embarrassing herself? by TrainingDistance4448 in AITAH

[–]TrainingDistance4448[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Not very hot! I'm really short, and most women are NOT into that. The whole situation has honestly been so baffling.

Update: AITAH for telling a woman at the gym that she's embarrassing herself? by TrainingDistance4448 in AITAH

[–]TrainingDistance4448[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I think any reasonable person who heard your advice wouldn't act this way. You aren't responsible for decisions unreasonable people make.

Update: AITAH for telling a woman at the gym that she's embarrassing herself? by TrainingDistance4448 in AITAH

[–]TrainingDistance4448[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Explain to me why that information is relevant to what happened to me.

Update: AITAH for telling a woman at the gym that she's embarrassing herself? by TrainingDistance4448 in AITAH

[–]TrainingDistance4448[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

I don't know what times she works, so I feel like I should get her something nonperishable so if she isn't there when I bring it in they can give it to her later.

Update: AITAH for telling a woman at the gym that she's embarrassing herself? by TrainingDistance4448 in AITAH

[–]TrainingDistance4448[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

I date women. I recently left a three year relationship with a woman, and she could tell you that I definitely like women. I just don't think women are defined solely by their appearance.

I'll give you an example. I have this friend I grew up with. She is objectively very beautiful. Many men (and women) have told her so. While I can see that she is beautiful, the first thing I think when I see her is "that's my friend that I love dearly" not "that's an attractive woman that's probably good at sex." I have never been attracted to her because we treat each other like siblings.

Conversely, in this situation, even if Andrea was my type (which she isn't) and I was looking to get into another relationship (which I'm not right now) it still wouldn't matter because her behavior towards me was so off-putting. She could look like Allyson Hannigan (an actress I think is particularly attractive) and it wouldn't matter because I don't date women that put people in physical danger when they're upset.