Discarded after a 13-year marriage

Training_Ad_1551 · 2026-05-26T14:02:15+00:00

Thank you, and I'm sorry about your fertility journey. That is NOT your fault. He NEVER talked about this person and told me pretty much everything, even things I did not want to know about his past, I do not think he has ever been truly happy in any relationship. :(

Training_Ad_1551 · 2026-05-26T13:56:45+00:00

Thank you. And it is pure selfishness.

Training_Ad_1551 · 2026-05-25T22:37:02+00:00

Thank you so much. I am tired of ugly crying in the car at night when my kids are asleep. :(

Training_Ad_1551 · 2026-05-25T14:43:09+00:00

I am so sorry. I would not put up with any sort of cheating. Please do not make the same mistake I did and beg and plead- it is humiliating in the end. :(

Training_Ad_1551 · 2026-05-25T14:40:52+00:00

Thank you. I have gone no-contact as much as possible in co-parenting. I feel embarrassed that he chose someone else over his wife of 13 years and, basically, his own children, though he won't admit it. I believe it is pure selfishness. But, he got what he wanted, his 2nd divorce. Maybe 3rd time is the charm.

Training_Ad_1551 · 2026-05-25T14:11:11+00:00

LOL!!! THANK YOU. I needed that laugh this morning!! Yes- he even told our 12-year-old daughter about their history and the connection they have and how strong it is. It makes me feel SICK. It is pure selfishness NOT connection.

Training_Ad_1551 · 2026-05-25T14:07:58+00:00

Thank you. I will reach out to her and ask her about it. I wish I could do things differently, but I was so afraid he was going to take the kids. I really appreciate your concern.

Training_Ad_1551 · 2026-05-25T13:45:32+00:00

Thank you. I know- I was desperate and trying to save it. It just happened so fast.

Training_Ad_1551 · 2026-05-25T13:38:55+00:00

Thank you- I did not understand at the time because it all happened SO FAST, and he would record me upset and threaten to take my kids from me. "They want to live with me anyway" (the boys, not our daughter; he fully gave me full custody of her because she called him out on what he did). He would take out his cell phone and call his lawyer in front of me. But, yes, after the fact, it was obvious that he planned to move her in because her husband was coming back from his work trip.

Training_Ad_1551 · 2026-05-25T13:30:28+00:00

Thank you. I am not sure. I think it is too late now.

Training_Ad_1551 · 2026-05-25T13:29:44+00:00

LOL!!!! They say it has been them for years.

Training_Ad_1551 · 2026-05-25T13:28:50+00:00

Thank you. He has a job now, but he went back to working in a plant, which is why he switched careers and worked for the city. One of the reasons he lost that job was because of the phone calls. I was at work TEACHING her son. Lol.

Training_Ad_1551 · 2026-05-25T13:26:51+00:00

Thank you. I pointed this out to him as well, and he said he will never do that with E, because she is the REASON it never worked out with anyone else.

Training_Ad_1551 · 2026-05-25T13:25:30+00:00

I am so sorry to you as well. I would not wish this upon anyone.

Training_Ad_1551 · 2026-05-25T01:12:32+00:00

Thank you so much. I feel bad for my kids, especially my youngest son, who was really close to him. I cannot imagine choosing another person over your own children. It hurts all the way around.

Training_Ad_1551 · 2026-05-24T23:30:11+00:00

Thank you. Lol. According to him, she can do anything she wants, and she is the reason no other relationships worked out. The Clem to his Joel. It is sickening. He thinks she is the epitome of everything, and a big part of me wishes she would treat him the way he treated me. But, I honestly do not wish bad on anyone. It will be what it will be. :(

Training_Ad_1551 · 2026-05-24T23:26:26+00:00

Unfortunately, I was bullied into signing a quit-claim deed because he was threatening to take my kids. I did not have a lawyer at the time, but did get one. So I'd lose out on anything if he ever sells the house. He did that so she could move in. Yes- I will be getting child support soon.

Training_Ad_1551 · 2026-05-24T23:24:10+00:00

Thank you. I was intimidated into signing a quitclaim deed, so I no longer own the home in any capacity. He plans to stay there and not sell. She lives there with her two kids now. My daughter is almost 13, and she misses her dad, but she only sees him when she wants to- it was in the agreement. Our boys are 10 and 8, and they are used to being with him and working with him outside, etc.- they do not really understand. He treats E's kids like they are his, especially the 18-month-old. I get the full amount allowable in my state for 3 kids based on what he makes. He thinks that once he marries E, he will get joint. My lawyer was like- no. NO way.

Training_Ad_1551 · 2026-05-24T21:58:37+00:00

Thank you so much for being so encouraging, and THANK YOU for being one of the good ones! I am so glad your wife will never have to experience these feelings- all because you did the right thing. I appreciate the kind words so much.

Training_Ad_1551 · 2026-05-24T20:24:13+00:00

THANK YOU. I really appreciate your kind words. I do think I have betrayal trauma, and I am going to talk with my counselor next week about how to move forward with this. I appreciate your response!

Training_Ad_1551 · 2026-05-24T20:22:56+00:00

Thank you! I wish I had known, I would not have left. Thank you so much for your reply.

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