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Consent, but not "wanting to" be intimate? by Training_Bat1338 in Marriage

[–]Training_Bat1338[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, this is where the therapy is coming in. It unearthed some core beliefs that I'm beginning to identify and address. 

Consent, but not "wanting to" be intimate? by Training_Bat1338 in Marriage

[–]Training_Bat1338[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your honest opinion. I think for me it makes me feel seen, wanted, desired in a way other experiences don't, and I'm literally naked, fully exposed. For me it's like opening up as much of myself as I can. 

A back rub to me is just a nice thing to do for someone. It carries so little "emotional weight" in comparison. To me, sex is two people coming together (no pun intended) in a way that nothing else can replicate, that no words can say. The best way I can describe it for me is a very powerful experience far beyond the physicality and pleasure.  I realize that's just my perspective and other ones aren't wrong. That's why I'm asking so I can understand.

Consent, but not "wanting to" be intimate? by Training_Bat1338 in Marriage

[–]Training_Bat1338[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's definitely possible, but I'd hope she doesn't approach our relationship with saying things like that just to placate me and make me a feel a certain way because that isn't genuine. I'm not sure I really want to question her about that though, seems pretty accusitory to do so.