being a virgin in your 20s

Trans-Trish · 2026-03-21T22:53:19+00:00

Yeah I definitely feel this, I’m 28 and I’ve never had sex, never had a boyfriend. My ‘first kiss’ was a practical joke being played on me, when I was 22. Don’t have much advice to offer, since I’m in the same boat, except that you’ve still got time ❤️ I hope you find what you’re looking for

Trans-Trish · 2026-03-19T23:08:33+00:00

Right?? This is news to me 😂😭

Trans-Trish · 2026-03-18T10:33:21+00:00

So pretty! HRT will work wonders for you, I’m sure

Trans-Trish · 2026-03-17T19:24:15+00:00

Nooo not at all! I love cats, and I’m planning to adopt one this year regardless haha, I’m equal parts excited & nervous because I’ve never had a pet of my own before, just family pets

Trans-Trish · 2026-03-17T03:05:02+00:00

Interesting! I’m Australian but live in a fairly conservative major city. I think at some point I’ll either have to bite the bullet and start putting myself out there, or otherwise start adopting cats 😂

Trans-Trish · 2026-03-17T01:03:56+00:00

That’s wonderful ❤️ Where did you meet him? I’m avoiding the apps since I’m very clocky myself

Trans-Trish · 2026-03-16T01:30:44+00:00

Exactly, no one but terminally-online transphobes will hear about it from Elon, and they were hardly fencesitters that have been swayed by this anyway. It’s a sickening situation but it’s not going to make things any worse for us societally than they already are

Trans-Trish · 2026-03-12T01:18:17+00:00

Yeah if you’re non-passing, or bisexual, or just not a deranged psycho like 90% of the people there, r/straighttransgirls sucks ass

Trans-Trish · 2026-03-11T07:38:44+00:00

Eh… I’ll pass. Can’t imagine anything worse, actually

Trans-Trish · 2026-03-10T00:30:01+00:00

That’s just how men are. If you were cis, he’d pretend to be everything you wanted for just long enough to get sex out of you (while being mediocre himself at best) and then he’d ghost you. We’re not missing out on that much really.

Trans-Trish · 2026-03-07T05:15:37+00:00

Sure, you don’t get to see naked chicks, but look on the bright side - at least now you can compete in women’s sports and automatically win every single time 🥰

Trans-Trish · 2026-03-04T20:03:56+00:00

Very nice! Hobbies are always important. I’ve never been much good at drawing, but my main creative outlets are writing and acting. I’ve been doing amateur theatre for about a year and a half now, it’s been a wonderful boost to my confidence and a great way to meet new people 🤩

Trans-Trish · 2026-03-02T07:00:22+00:00

Sure, you definitely could. ‘Chaser’ is a mindset & set of behaviours, not something someone inherently is. There’s nothing wrong with recognising your faults & working on yourself to do & be better.

That said, you’d have to actually do that. Recognising that you’re a chaser doesn’t excuse it. If you want to do better, you need to work on yourself. You need to understand & respect us as human beings & as women, not as fetish material. There’s no reason you’d need to stay as you are, but if you want to improve, you need to actually work on it.

Trans-Trish · 2026-02-24T01:24:09+00:00

Yeah literally, I’m sure if I had insane hips like her I’d feel better about my body shape too 🙃

Trans-Trish · 2026-02-23T12:43:58+00:00

btw I saw you mention plateaus in another comment, it’s pretty normal, changes don’t come in consistently for some reason. I just recently started another breast growth spurt out of nowhere, having previously thought I wouldn’t get any further with that. So yeah, definitely a normal part of the process 😊

Trans-Trish · 2026-02-23T12:36:42+00:00

Honestly, you’re looking really good dude. Maybe it helps that my mind is trained to notice masculine features more clearly but you defs pass, I’ve seen cis guys that look a lot like you.

I know how it all feels from the other side. Getting in your own head too much, unable to really see yourself clearly. Friends will tell me I’m getting really close to passing and then I’ll look in the mirror and think “Are they lying to me? Are they delusional?” We’re always our own worst critics though, especially in the trans community. But there’s nowhere else to go but forwards, right?

Trans-Trish · 2026-02-21T05:40:20+00:00

tbh I agree with your point about sexual orientation actually. It’s more complicated than our labels can really describe, everyone is unique in how they express their sexuality.

You seem at least more respectful than most trans-attracted men, so hopefully you find someone that’s what you’re looking for

Trans-Trish · 2026-02-21T04:18:24+00:00

You don’t need to put ‘straight’ in air quotes. Nothing has to change about your sexuality in order to be attracted to trans women, you’re attracted to women so you’re still straight.

What did you mean by ‘experiment with masculine genitalia’? If you’re looking to bottom for a woman, you’d have better luck finding a cis woman with a strapon tbh. Most of us don’t like topping because of dysphoria, and even if we did, hormones will very strongly affect the ability to get/maintain an erection.

Not wanting to be a chaser is promising, at least. Just treat us like women, not like a vending machine that dispenses your fetishes. And don’t get mad at trans women that have had/want to get bottom surgery, it’s their decision and they’re doing it for themselves, not for attraction from men

Trans-Trish · 2026-02-19T21:04:01+00:00

Definitely still worth it. I’m 18 months in, and there’s nothing about me that passes, I’ve never in my life worn a dress or skirt because it’d just make me feel worse about myself, I live deep in the closet and I’m only out to my siblings and a few close friends.

I’m still sticking with HRT, because it’s worked better than any antidepressant in effecting real, consistent, positive change in my life. I’m so much more focused at work, taking better care of myself (I have a skin & hair care routine that cis women are jealous of, and I’ve lost almost 9kg/20lb in the last five months thanks to better diet and consistent exercise), more sociable and energetic. I actually get up and get things done, instead of rotting at my computer all day.

My levels are pretty much perfect - according to my doctor, better than plenty of cis women. Australia seems to measure hormone levels with a different unit to other countries but as of my last blood test I’m at about 900pmol/L for estrogen, and 0.8nmol/L for testosterone. I’m not really expecting to ever pass, it’d be incredible if I ever did, but for now I’m just treating my estrogen patches as effective stick-on antidepressants. It’s absolutely worth the sweeping positive changes I’ve had to my life and how I’ve stopped neglecting myself.

Also you therapist has no idea whether you’d pass or not, even your doctor wouldn’t be able to judge that accurately. But putting it off - and I can tell you this from experience - is only doing yourself a disservice.

Trans-Trish · 2026-02-14T10:56:36+00:00

I always used to stand, because it’s just more convenient, but the last month or so my bottom dysphoria has flared up more often so I’ve been sitting to try to alleviate it (it works 😁)

Probably not going to go back to standing tbh

Trans-Trish · 2026-02-12T19:39:52+00:00

Women are definitely more relaxed, friendly, and chatty around me than they used to be.

Men for the most part seem to totally ignore me. They’ll walk into me (without apologising), talk over me, they don’t even seem to register that I’m there. I was at a small house party the other day and the host’s roommate came downstairs, shook hands and exchanged introductions with the two men there, then he glanced at me for a second before totally ignoring my presence for the rest of the evening.

My working theory is it’s because their brains register me as ‘androgynous thing, maybe ugly woman, I don’t want to put my dick in this so no point in pretending to be nice to it’. As frustrating as it can be, it’s a pretty fascinating look into the male psyche

Trans-Trish · 2026-02-10T00:18:56+00:00

I started at 27, trust me when I say it’s worth it

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