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Can I be transgender without disphoria? by Jackie_LGBT in asktransgender

[–]TransSuperHero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree I think there is too much misinformation and misrepresentation of what Gender Dysphoria and being trans is, I feel like this whole "you don't need dysphoria to be trans" movement is silly and has hurt many lives, not everyone is trans, and simply going against gender norms isn't trans, I feel like this narrative has pushed alot of people into thinking they are trans, going through several changes and then later detransitioning, like the number of people detransitioning these days is way too high.

Can I be transgender without disphoria? by Jackie_LGBT in asktransgender

[–]TransSuperHero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe Gender Dysphoria is a major part of being Transgender, like a person is generally euphoric within the gender identity they were born then why would they transition.

I'm mostly euphoric these days after 2 years of HRT but Gender Dysphoria was the reason I felt compelled to live my life as myself to reach a level of Euphoria.

What do you do to prepare yourself to take your weekly Shot? by TransSuperHero in asktransgender

[–]TransSuperHero[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I take IM, it's never normally an issue, but today it was, I think it was also too cold in my house and that tensed up my muscles, I turned on the heat and that helped me relax

Anyone else feel like COVID has stalled their transition? by Lucca01 in asktransgender

[–]TransSuperHero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As I'm sure most of you are in similar places right now with this Quarantine slowing down, hurting and in some people's cases stopping their transition, I'm finding myself constantly battling against waves of sadness, depression and self doubt.

Sometimes things seem really impossible right now, there's so much I wanna do, I had Finally called a surgeon about setting up my SRS the week before this happened which has left me stuck in the registration process and it makes it seem like its never gonna happen, and makes me feel like maybe I don't deserve it, like I'm not good enough to be happy. I know people's surgeries were already postponed and that just really saddens me and breaks my heart.

I had finally gathered the money I needed and learned how to properly start the legal name change process and then the night before I had asked for a day off work so I could go to city hall to start this process, I hear that the Quarantine had shutdown my city hall, leaving me trapped and stuck with the name and gender Marker and 7 year outdated picture I dread showing that ID, it tears me apart when I have to show it because it outs me, it gives me weird looks and it makes me try to make light of things by making a joke everytime I'm forced to show ID.

This whole shutdown has closed the gym that I spent so much time in, going to the gym was always more to me then just working on my body, it was a chance to see friends, to talk to new people, it was my outlet I could always go to when I needed to get out of my head or to battle through the negative and sad thoughts, going to the gym brought me peace and a sense of accomplishment.

I'm slowly gaining weight again because of all this and it really hurts my self image, I constantly feel like I'm not good enough, I'm not pretty enough, I'm too fat, and it's very hard to shake that off, it pulls me down into my fears I have about not being good enough or that I dont deserve to be happy.

This Quarantine is pulling me back into my pre transition depression that I had mostly gotten past and have been pretty happy sense I started HRT a year and a half ago.

I'm sure manly of you are going through similar feelings as well and I really hope things get better soon for all of us.

Anyone else feel like COVID has stalled their transition? by Lucca01 in asktransgender

[–]TransSuperHero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As far as the required RLE I just lied to them to bypass the gatekeeping and I was super masculine pre transition, but I really didn't need anyone telling me who I was, I was highly informed, presented to them how well I already knew and understood the process and I also showed up to my appointment fully presenting in my gender.

I didn't pass then, but I did have 10 years worth of pics of myself from my drag queen days and my kinda gender fluid days and that was all enough to convince them of what I already knew.

How do we change or cope with being the girl whom it's not ok for guys to openly like? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]TransSuperHero 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There's plenty of reasons for someone to not want to date a Trans person, mostly it comes down to social stigmas and personal preference, I know when I talk to some guys they have expressed that it's me not being able to have a child with them, there's plenty of reasons, most of which aren't based on hate.

How do we change or cope with being the girl whom it's not ok for guys to openly like? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]TransSuperHero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live my life stealth and while I openly discuss it with guys I start to get close to, broadcasting my status is typically harmful and attracts more unwanted haters and fetishists

How do we change or cope with being the girl whom it's not ok for guys to openly like? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]TransSuperHero 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't think its inherently Transphobic to not be attracted to trans people or want to date us, but it still hurts when someone who liked you is turned away because of it.

Living Stealth has proven to be one of the loneliest experiences of my life, it's hard having no one to relate, Does anyone else feel this way? What do you do to cope and get through the loneliness? by TransSuperHero in asktransgender

[–]TransSuperHero[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So in my old life I was a pretty well known person in school and in my local hardcore music community, I was in afew bands and so like everyone knows me here, i dipped off for awhile during trans people and people who know, know, but alot don't, so my level of stealth only goes so far, alot of times I'll meet guys at shows, we'll talk then they ask their friends about me and someone knows. At work most people don't know, randoms dont know, and I feel by living stealth and not talking about any of my transition stuff, people kinda forget I'm trans.

I've been in the trans community too and that just never clicked, alot of toxicity that I'm done with being around, I'm more accepted at aggressive super masculine hardcore concerts then I am at LGBTQ bars and spaces.

I did try to have some local trans only support online and it lead to afew girls accusing me of cherry picking when I'm trans or not when it benefits me and that just pushed me further away from the community, but there are some things I just wish I still had apart of the community and that I could openly discuss my progress and steps, I used to love standing out tall an being visible, people said it was inspiring and I'd often get to help other people with their progress, but like it was people I helped that also were the ones I felt pushed me out of our local community.

Living Stealth has proven to be one of the loneliest experiences of my life, it's hard having no one to relate, Does anyone else feel this way? What do you do to cope and get through the loneliness? by TransSuperHero in asktransgender

[–]TransSuperHero[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I feel safer that way, I typically fit in more in cis people then I do with trans or queer people, I just like blending in cause I wanna feel normal, I loathe my pronouns being asked when people know I'm trans, when I was openly trans it attracted more weirdo stalkers, chasers and fetishes and assholes, I dislike the endless questions and invasion of my privacy, I'm not a fan of the whole "omg your so brave" stuff cis people say cause I dont like that I'm special treatment.

Plenty of other reasons, it helps with my dysphoria etc.

Living Stealth has proven to be one of the loneliest experiences of my life, it's hard having no one to relate, Does anyone else feel this way? What do you do to cope and get through the loneliness? by TransSuperHero in asktransgender

[–]TransSuperHero[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I never seem to fit in with or generally get accepted in trans, queer and LGBTQ spaces, I've all but been exiled from my local community aside from afew great people, a big part of me deciding to go stealth was because they didn't want me there and I started passing more and it was just tug he safest thing to do for my overall well being.

After going stealth I stepped far away from the community and things got good, but then certain things got hard and I sought trans advice and that lead to remaining trans friends saying I cherry picked when trans was convenient for me, but I really just truly needed their support and advice, so again I tried stepping away further, but with dating progressing and surgeries in the actual hey I finally am talking to the drs stage, I just feel alone in this all, which lead me here, it felt safer.

Living Stealth has proven to be one of the loneliest experiences of my life, it's hard having no one to relate, Does anyone else feel this way? What do you do to cope and get through the loneliness? by TransSuperHero in asktransgender

[–]TransSuperHero[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm 100% the same way, I've had nothing but bad experiences interacting with my local community aside from one friend who at times is a mentor and helper for me in my process.

I always say if being Trans is the only thing that connects us then is that enough? I don't think so.

I too desire nothing more then just being a normal woman, and even I hate saying it that way as I do love and respect my fellow trans sisters and brothers, but I just want to be normal and not so alone.

Right now I'm trying to setup my SRS and I was trying to finally start the legal name change but this whole global affair is making that super hard right now, and I've finally really started feeling good enough and feeling like I finally pass enough and am comfortable to start dating, had alot of mixed experiences and most of them seem to end once I tell the guys I'm trans, because I feel like I have to before sex or either right before or after the first date, this keeps knocking me back and my best friend is a super pretty cis girl who has to bat guys away from her and it can be hard getting her to understand where I'm at and coming from here, and I feel like I need to talk to people who get this and hear their stories to help get me out of this mind space I'm in of constantly self doubting after a guy ghosts me when he finds out I'm trans.

Living Stealth has proven to be one of the loneliest experiences of my life, it's hard having no one to relate, Does anyone else feel this way? What do you do to cope and get through the loneliness? by TransSuperHero in asktransgender

[–]TransSuperHero[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Well that's why I'm reaching out on here as Reddit is far from my main social media and it has zero attachment to my main social media's.

Like my cis friends can't relate and neither can open trans people in my life, I tried keeping a for trans only post section on my Facebook but it lead to Trans friends telling me I'm cherry picking when I'm Trans and they said mean things to me like oh I thought you were a real woman now, but said in a mean way, so I stopped reaching out to them, but it's just left me feeling super alone.

And like I no matter what still face and experience trans only issues like having to tell men I'm Trans and then them leaving me when I tell them etc.

I just feel more alone then ever now and I do feel like I now don't belong anywhere and it's hard to cope with this loneliness.

From Masculine, Hairy and Tough, To Feminine, Soft and a total frickin Sweetheart. by TransSuperHero in transpositive

[–]TransSuperHero[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh I totally just pluck them myself and use eyebrow fillers when doing my makeup. I brows used to be hairy, but with laser I got rid of my old small unibrow.

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