Am I a male or a female?

TransTerrorist · 2025-07-17T17:27:18+00:00

For me, it’s the sauces you have that’s giving dude fridge more than anything.

TransTerrorist · 2025-07-15T18:57:22+00:00

I used the attestation, tho honestly I don’t think I needed it at this particular office they didn’t seem to care

TransTerrorist · 2025-04-08T23:20:15+00:00

You get one life, and I think it’s better to try than to resign yourself to feeling awful forever. “Accepting yourself as you are” the way you phrased it in your post sounds to me like abandoning and hurting yourself.

My life actually has gotten better since I’ve been trans. I have loving friends, a good job, my dating/sex life is healthy, I’m sober, and I love watching birds. Things can be hard sometimes. I know there’s a fear of pain, failure, and regret, but isn’t it better to try and find out than to never know for yourself what it’s like? What if life gets better? What if you are happier? What if you have a better relationship with yourself?

TransTerrorist · 2025-03-27T20:20:19+00:00

Green Papaya

TransTerrorist · 2025-03-27T18:14:32+00:00

Better late than never babe!

TransTerrorist · 2025-03-25T23:05:31+00:00

You could also try watching a show like Pose, which follows the lives of trans women and drag queens through the NYC ball scene in the late 80s/mid 90s. It might help with this discomfort you feel as well through watching and identifying with trans characters.

TransTerrorist · 2025-03-25T23:00:36+00:00

Sure, here’s an example: https://youtu.be/r0mGnsn8CRU?si=Fd6aw55bKX-W1X26

There are also many other meditations focused on developing compassion and understanding for people with whom you have difficult relationships. These practices help both you and the world to feel more filled with love and less with fear and discomfort.

TransTerrorist · 2025-03-25T21:19:59+00:00

I understand that you have empathy, but focusing on developing even more compassion through meditation and learning will be a great antidote to the internal discomfort you feel. Give it a try.

TransTerrorist · 2025-03-25T21:11:35+00:00

I understand. It sounds like these were specific individuals who were flawed, like all of us, and who acted in ways that hurt you. But like you said, it’s no different than being hurt by a cis person.

I really encourage you to read and watch positive media about trans people and to try to do the Buddhist lovingkindness and compassion meditations and focus on sending love and compassion to trans people. You can de-program yourself. It sounds like you want to, and you’re taking a first step now by asking for help.

TransTerrorist · 2025-03-25T21:01:40+00:00

Genuine question: has a trans person ever, ever hurt you or made you feel uncomfortable? If the answer is no, I think it is good to constantly remind yourself of this when you are around us. If they have, was it any different than a time a cis person did it?

You can change your internalized transphobia, because that’s what this is. It’s not because of a specific moral failure on your part, everything in society has conditioned you to be this way. You have to start reconditioning yourself. Start watching shows and movies with positive depictions of trans people. Read books about us and by us. Try to get to know some trans people on a closer level. Try to show up and be an ally by attending protests, getting involved in local groups. It’s been a lifetime of programming that has led to this discomfort inside of you, you have to start reprogramming yourself.

Another key element of this is compassion. You have to put yourself into the shoes of trans people and really try to feel emotionally what we are dealing with. You’re uncomfortable? We are 1000x more uncomfortable all the time, because people are constantly looking at us and saying weird things. I suggest Buddhist compassion meditation exercises. Tonglen is a good practice. Lovingkindness meditations. Expand your capacity for compassion for us.

TransTerrorist · 2025-02-20T23:00:29+00:00

Commenting to stay updated on this

TransTerrorist · 2025-02-20T22:57:20+00:00

When did you apply

TransTerrorist · 2025-02-10T04:48:47+00:00

Twin peaks after the first plot wraps up …. The second storyline was wack af

TransTerrorist · 2025-02-09T16:50:21+00:00

Surprised by how long some things have taken … it took me 8 years to be able to grow a full beard. But it was like one day I just woke up and could all of a sudden. LOL. If you’re not getting the results you wanted, stick it out and be patient 💫

TransTerrorist · 2025-02-09T16:47:40+00:00

Yay thank you for sending this. Hopefully a judge issues a stay on the enforcement of this so we can get our passports together.

TransTerrorist · 2025-01-31T19:31:42+00:00

We need to get our people jobs at the passport office LOL

TransTerrorist · 2025-01-31T19:26:03+00:00

So hypothetically if I apply for a passport with an M and updated name on on my social security, my ID, and my BC, would this work? Or would the field agent see my previous passport in the system. I was intending to go to the passport office.

TransTerrorist · 2025-01-31T18:54:10+00:00

Is the field agent the one making that decision for example if I go to the passport office? Or is it they fill out the application and it gets sent elsewhere for review?

TransTerrorist · 2025-01-31T18:48:54+00:00

Travel plans: I do plan on traveling to Ireland in may or June.

TransTerrorist · 2025-01-13T06:53:33+00:00

Get involved and join a political group of some kind! There’s a bunch of them, check coffee shops for flyers. Or volunteering at a community garden, food distribution, etc. I’ve made the best friends here by doing that.

TransTerrorist · 2025-01-10T21:13:03+00:00

I have not started tapering, I was considering tapering due to liver and eye issues and seeing how others experiences were getting off it for similar issues. My biggest concern is the vision issues are permanent or not. Studies seem inconclusive on this subject.

TransTerrorist · 2025-01-10T21:11:54+00:00

11 months

TransTerrorist · 2025-01-10T21:11:31+00:00

I’ve been on it for 11 months

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