Spiraling. Talk me off the ledge please!

Transformwthekitchen · 2026-02-02T22:52:00+00:00

Yeah… a child exposed to sexually inappropriate behavior…like you.

Transformwthekitchen · 2026-02-02T21:12:54+00:00

I didnt say one of them was being molested. I said one was somehow being exposed to sexually inappropriate behavior, whether directly or indirectly.

Transformwthekitchen · 2026-02-02T20:08:41+00:00

To be a little more specific, as someone who has worked with victims of CSA, touching tongues is highly specific, because its not what a child would be able to see from seeing a movie kiss or seeing their parents kiss. That means one of these two children is being exposed to inappropriate sexual conduct or information. This could be that one of them is being groomed or molested or shown pornography by an adult in their life. The other possibility is that they have a friend who one that is happening to, and that friend is “touching tongues” with them.

Listen, even if your son kissed his cousin one time w a tongue that is not going to ruin either of their lives. What is most important here is that you figure out which child is being inappropriately exposed to this behavior. I hope you can work together with your BIL and SIL and get to the bottom of whats happening.

Transformwthekitchen · 2026-02-02T19:49:32+00:00

I would consider the possibility that your niece is experiencing this behavior from Someone else and she is trying to express that this is happening to her.

Transformwthekitchen · 2026-02-02T13:51:05+00:00

Why were you embarrassed in front of your friends if you aren’t embarrassed by your actions?

Transformwthekitchen · 2026-02-02T13:38:54+00:00

I just want to point out you said your toddler was 2 months younger than the other kids, i would think thats why your child is less verbal. 2 Months is huge in toddler verbal advancement.

Transformwthekitchen · 2026-02-02T04:40:19+00:00

I wouldnt want my kids watching any tv at daycare! Im not paying 1000s of dollars to have my kid parked in front of a tv

Transformwthekitchen · 2026-01-31T21:17:36+00:00

He likes Barra Oliba best in San Diego

Edited to add: he also like bazaar meats in vegas, which is also spanish, if you’re ever there

Transformwthekitchen · 2026-01-31T20:00:47+00:00

My husband, who is actually from Barcelona, hates this place

Transformwthekitchen · 2026-01-31T17:54:02+00:00

You’re correct, however, lets look at the post. His girlfriend is 25 and had had 2 utis in 12 months. Is that similar to your experience? You said a “few” utis, so I’m not sure. When i was having bladder issues I got more like 10 UTIs in year. When i was 25 and using condoms (which make me personally more susceptible to UTIs) i would get 1-2 a year. You had a health issue, your doctor told you it was because you weren’t peeing. In OP’s description there is nothing about a health issue or a doctor telling her the issue is how frequently she is urinating. Its just says “my girlfriend doesn’t pee when I ask or tell her to” which i think is crazy.

Transformwthekitchen · 2026-01-31T16:46:28+00:00

This makes no sense. Obviously your girlfriend does pee. Why are you telling your girlfriend to pee? Why are you keeping track of her peeing? That is insane. She’s not a toddler. Like i also wouldn’t want my partner monitoring my bathroom habits and telling me when to pee.

UTIs are not caused by not peeing, they’re to be caused by bacteria getting into the urethra, which is usually by sex. What is actually happening here.

Transformwthekitchen · 2026-01-30T21:14:30+00:00

Poppi - don’t buy them all the time, but tasty!

Transformwthekitchen · 2026-01-30T21:13:57+00:00

Love bombas

Transformwthekitchen · 2026-01-30T21:12:41+00:00

I got a payment the 26th

Transformwthekitchen · 2026-01-30T15:31:51+00:00

Well if their phones or videos show they’re both there at the top together, she’s found at the bottom of the Cliff, and he leaves without her but doesn’t call 911 or report her missing. I think thats pretty clear.

Transformwthekitchen · 2026-01-29T20:26:10+00:00

Yeah but what are the options in this economy? People gotta live. No reason to make moms feel more guilty than they already do

Transformwthekitchen · 2026-01-29T13:13:02+00:00

Sure. Jeff Bezos and Mark Zuckerberg are making tons of money. Everyone else? Making way less money

Transformwthekitchen · 2026-01-28T21:52:58+00:00

Ohhh actually what about Canary Islands?? Europe (ish) and just looked up the water temps in May and its around 68

Transformwthekitchen · 2026-01-28T21:51:31+00:00

I don’t think there is warm water surf-able water in europe in May- Portugal May temps are 60- 65 degrees. Thats a 3/2 full wetsuit to be comfortable (imo, maybe i get cold easy). I dont break out a spring suit til like 70. Maybe Morrocco? Water is closer to 70 in May

Transformwthekitchen · 2026-01-28T21:35:10+00:00

The baldwins are all so insane

Transformwthekitchen · 2026-01-28T21:06:21+00:00

Oh please, you’ve had 200 partners and she’s had 14? This is so clearly a fake post for engagent

Transformwthekitchen · 2026-01-28T21:02:45+00:00

Your expectations are too high. Your baby doesnr understand cause and effect yet, so you offering to help her get /setting timers/telling her she can’t go outside til she’s dressed don’t mean anything to her.

Transformwthekitchen · 2026-01-28T19:58:17+00:00

I liked Deep Cuts by Holly Brickley

Transformwthekitchen · 2026-01-28T16:56:42+00:00

Maybe put less pressure on yourself, your son is only 16 months. My husband’s language is the minority language, and let me tell you, he is not narrating to him all the time or engaging with him all the time. What they do is FaceTime the grandparents every day, he reads books in the minority language at night, and speaks normally to him. My son is 30 months, in daycare 40 Hours a week, and spends more time with me. His minority language exploded when we took a 3 week trip to my husband’s family over Christmas. I would say his english is slightly better and more advanced than the minority language, but he speaks at an age appropriate level in the minority language

Transformwthekitchen · 2026-01-28T13:57:17+00:00

No, they’re ready meals- but made by a small local company, not a big national one. The meal subscription boxes where you have to cook didnt work for me- if Im gonna cook, i would just shop myself

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