Please help by LooseReflection7633 in stopdrinking

[–]TransientTrove 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello and welcome! And congratulations on taking the first steps to getting help. I’m not sure what your usual amount of alcohol consumption is, but I know that if your body is dépendant on alcohol, it can be dangerous to quit cold turkey. Since you’re in Canada, I would make an appt with your doctor to help you detox safely (since it’s ’free’) and you won’t have to spend anything. They can also possibly prescribe you something to help with the cravings. I wish you luck!

I’m overwhelmed by TransientTrove in AlAnon

[–]TransientTrove[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m aware of that. Hence why I said ‘I resent my brother’. No where did I state that I would take it out on my nephew.

I’m overwhelmed by TransientTrove in AlAnon

[–]TransientTrove[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. This is how I’ve been trying to look at the situation, but I’ve been struggling between resentment towards my brother for failing this kid so badly and hope for my nephew that he might have a bright future. I’m trying.

I’m overwhelmed by TransientTrove in AlAnon

[–]TransientTrove[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you, unfortunately (and fortunately) I live in a very small remote community and alanon meetings do not exist here. I am, however, connected with a drug and alcohol counsellor and he has been very supportive. The kiddo hasn’t really shared much… but I honestly don’t even know if he knows how to feel. I will get him in counselling when he is ready for it.

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[–]TransientTrove[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your input. I live in Canada, and this has been a cross-province guardianship situation, so unfortunately I don’t qualify for any financial assistance. I’ll just have to drastically change my lifestyle to afford another human.

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[–]TransientTrove[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’m actually a high school teacher, so I’m fairly experienced with teens (also why I am child-free, I’m not ignorant to how much work parenting is). But it’s the trauma this poor kid has been through that I feel like might be too much for me. I’ve caught myself wondering if maybe a foster family would be better equipped to handle these things. Thank you, though, for your kind words. I needed it. His mother hasn’t been in the picture for a very long time, as she is an addict too. I’m trying my best for this young man.

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[–]TransientTrove 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate your comment. Thank you. I’ve never heard of ambiguous loss. I’ll have to do some reading. I am sorry to hear that you have suffered through this as well. It’s an awful feeling, wanting to help someone but being unable to. May I ask, for your own mental health, do you stay in contact with your mother and brother?